Help me!

ElRazur · 2 Aug 2006 at 13:25

MNuTz said:
stupid questions!

Because perhaps he rightly thinks that if someone is cheating or has cheated the other person has the right to know and he has also said he wasnt snooping but came across it by accident.

It definitely has something to do with him, its his dad and mum, his family life may have been put in jeapordy because of his dad.

Really?

Look at the bigger picture! Let say the dad is cheating and the OP end up informing the mum, what then? They break up and he feels dislike for his dad? ....That's the most likely scenario imo, Is that what you want? I dont think telling the mum is a good idea and im sticking to that.

I dont know the way things are in that family but like i said before, if he wants to tell, i think it might be better confronting the dad first and NOT informing the mum.

Samtheman1k · 2 Aug 2006 at 13:28

Visage said:
You might want to remove what you've quoted - there's more than enough info there to identify your dad....

Indeed. A quick google search of the text and there he is...

Ripper · 2 Aug 2006 at 13:29

when you're dad walks in from work wink at him and say "YOU NAUGHTY DAWG!"

Spacky · 2 Aug 2006 at 13:31

Ripper^ said:
when you're dad walks in from work wink at him and say "YOU NAUGHTY DAWG!"

Whats wrong with curling your tongue against the inside of your cheek and make a hand jesture near your mouth

Borris · 2 Aug 2006 at 13:35

Perish the thought that it's one of his colleagues having a laugh.

Or maybe he needs an escort, japanese businessman style (it's a socially acceptable alternative to dragging the wife along, at least in Japan, iirc).

Maybe your folks just aren't getting along any more (you know - they don't have the hot, steamy, dirty sex any more.), and are staying together for appearances sake, and to stop you feeling unloved.

Maybe it was a (she)male escort service.

Possibly he has sciatica.

Phantom · 2 Aug 2006 at 13:42

Spacky said:
Whats wrong with curling your tongue against the inside of your cheek and make a hand jesture near your mouth

mouth ulcer and youre wanting a tube of bonjella to dab it with?

Morba · 2 Aug 2006 at 14:03

people use massage parlours and escorts on many business 'evenings' in europe. nothing bad needs to happen, just men having a relaxing time with nice women.

i believe that Paras does this occasionally with some clients.

MNuTz · 2 Aug 2006 at 14:14

ElRazur said:
Really?

Look at the bigger picture! Let say the dad is cheating and the OP end up informing the mum, what then? They break up and he feels dislike for his dad? ....That's the most likely scenario imo, Is that what you want? I dont think telling the mum is a good idea and im sticking to that.

I dont know the way things are in that family but like i said before, if he wants to tell, i think it might be better confronting the dad first and NOT informing the mum.

IF his dad has cheated it will make zero difference in the long run.

If he informs its out in the open before more stuff happens, chances are they may not split even if he does tell as it depends on his mum.

As for feeling dislike for his dad, imagine how he will feel having to keep it from his mum, lying for a cheater!!

Ive got no problem with the advice you gave him, in fact i agree, i just didnt like that "whats it got to do with you" attitude your first post seemed to contain.

daz · 2 Aug 2006 at 14:35

Keeping schtum is often the easiest way for everyone.

timmy222 · 2 Aug 2006 at 14:44

Hmm

You best leave it well alone, you should not be poking into other peeps emails period.

Is the person evil to you and your mum?, does he thrash and starve you.
Hmmmm, so go ahead wreck everything, you will feel so good after- not.
Spout ya gob of and you will regret it always, just leave it be.
If you need to say summing get dad aside, explain your worries, but do not tell mum!, she will turn into a shedevil and both of your lifes will change forever.