How did your last break-up go?

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Who did the breaking up? Who did the moving out? Did things get nasty?

I have only ever broken up with someone once, but never been dumped myself. Last time I broke it off, I knew things would go alright.

But its time to do it again and I am worried to death about it getting nasty. That and I loathe the idea of hurting said person, but it's not working so I need to do it.

So what are your experiences?
 
Grow some chohones and get her dumped.

Worrying that you will hurt them is so patronising.

Edit: lmao@ previous post. You beat me to it you Judas.
 
Last one was 9 Months ago. She left me after 4 years (3 living together)

Cost me a fortune to get rid of her (joint house) and a good few months of sleepless nights and feeling crappy.

Now I'm on top of the world. Have my own house, better social life and more friends.

Still miss the good times but tbh she was a leech, I just couldnt see it at the time.
 
Was seeing someone for a couple of months recently and he just stopped calling - bah his loss!

Before that my last proper relationship we went on holiday together and I just realised that I didnt fancy him, nor was I doing either of us any favours by trying to make myself feel something for him that I didnt feel, so I did the decent thing for both of us in the long run and broke up with him.
 
I did the dumping, I moved out (left her with a rented house) and move back in with my dad.

Was fantastic living back home (was about 19/20) Learnt a lot in my experience and now i'm moved out again happy as larry.

Do it.
 
knip said:
Was seeing someone for a couple of months recently and he just stopped calling - bah his loss!

Before that my last proper relationship we went on holiday together and I just realised that I didnt fancy him, nor was I doing either of us any favours by trying to make myself feel something for him that I didnt feel, so I did the decent thing for both of us in the long run and broke up with him.
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If you don't mind me asking, how can you get in a relationship and go on holiday with someone if you don't fancy them?

Usually there has to be some attraction to start with and to go on holiday I guess you had been seeing each other a little while at least? ofc you did the right thing ending it though!

My last was 5 or so years ago, I did the dumping (kinda to get with the girl I am with now). Best decision of my life as the previous GF turned out to be a little insane and demanding. Being a newb to a long relationship I got suckered in for quite a while before maning up and realising I was getting nothing out of it at all.

I then got phone/text stalked for about 3 months after, from the Ex. It was all pretty childish and petty stuff. We were only together just under 2 years too!

Love my GF to bits now and we have been together just under 5 years. Couldn't imagine being with anyone else :)
 
I think the last time I spoke to her was

"if you speak to me again I'll get my mates to come and sort you out"

Ahhh....Essex girls :p :D
 
Knubje said:
If you don't mind me asking, how can you get in a relationship and go on holiday with someone if you don't fancy them?

Usually there has to be some attraction to start with and to go on holiday I guess you had been seeing each other a little while at least? ofc you did the right thing ending it though!
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We were together 7 months before we went away together, and it was in this country with another couple.

He basically worshipped the ground I walked on, and was the sweetest nicest person in the world, but there was just no chemistry there. I kept thinking that sooner or later I would fall for him, but I didnt. I guess I kept trying because he was so nice to me (I had just come out of a very bad relationship) and so it was nice to be looked after. At the end of the day, although I could have stayed with him and never wanted for another thing (in a literal sense, I would have been financially well taken care of) I just would have died inside, and so it wasnt fair to him or me to carry on trying to find something that wasnt there.
 
my ex (3yr relationship) spent 6hours hysterically crying, when I ended it :S and then a week later had a new bf... go figure
 
I've always found the hurting them part the hardest thing about breaking up with someone.
my last one was a bit weird, broke up, she decided she wanted to move out straight away so rang her parents to come and get her (parents:essex, her:manchester) so had like 5 hours of being stuck in the flat together before her parents came, after the initial massively upsetness we got on for a while and she just kept asking me to change my mind, and then she went. After that didnt speak for a couple of weeks, chatted a bit, were getting along fine and then she set up some elaborate thing to make it look like she'd got a new bf (found out what was going on from a mutual friend) so i decided i didnt really want anything to do with her messing me about and cut contact, not spoken since
 
ffallic said:
I have only ever broken up with someone once, but never been dumped myself.
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Your turn will come ;)

My last split was with a swiss student that went home after 12 months in england then got back with her ex .Neither of us wanted to live in the others country so could not have worked .Only took me 2-3 years to get over her :D

I normally take a girl out for the evening and act a bit different then tell them when I drop them off in the car . I really hate it ,they start crying and its just horrible .I think a better way is to just stop calling them if you can get away with it .

The modern way seems to be dump by text ,not nice but there is no nice way to dump someone .
 
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He basically worshipped the ground I walked on, and was the sweetest nicest person in the world, but there was just no chemistry there. I kept thinking that sooner or later I would fall for him, but I didnt. I guess I kept trying because he was so nice to me (I had just come out of a very bad relationship) and so it was nice to be looked after. At the end of the day, although I could have stayed with him and never wanted for another thing (in a literal sense, I would have been financially well taken care of) I just would have died inside, and so it wasnt fair to him or me to carry on trying to find something that wasnt there.
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I seem to suffer proverbially from girls liking me a massive amount more than I like them :\ (not that i'm some stud, there's not been loads of them, all fairly long term, but they're always a lot more interested in the relationship than me)
 
Oh god, mine was a nightmare.

Id been with this girl for 2 years and i felt things just werent going anywhere so i wanted to end it and have some time to myself. Everytime i phoned her or mentioned it she would cry and make promises which made me feel so bad and always resulting in giving her a 2nd chance to improve things.

Eventually it just got too much and she wouldnt get the point so i ended up cheating on her. That way she finished with me. Not the best way of doing things and i dont suggest it but it got the job done. Im with a new Mrs now and im much much happier.
 
knip said:
We were together 7 months before we went away together, and it was in this country with another couple.

He basically worshipped the ground I walked on, and was the sweetest nicest person in the world, but there was just no chemistry there. I kept thinking that sooner or later I would fall for him, but I didnt. I guess I kept trying because he was so nice to me (I had just come out of a very bad relationship) and so it was nice to be looked after. At the end of the day, although I could have stayed with him and never wanted for another thing (in a literal sense, I would have been financially well taken care of) I just would have died inside, and so it wasnt fair to him or me to carry on trying to find something that wasnt there.
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MTA Synopsis:

Girl likes shiny things, boy buys girl shiny things, shiny things become tarnished, girl leaves boy. The end!
 
knip said:
We were together 7 months before we went away together, and it was in this country with another couple.

He basically worshipped the ground I walked on, and was the sweetest nicest person in the world, but there was just no chemistry there. I kept thinking that sooner or later I would fall for him, but I didnt. I guess I kept trying because he was so nice to me (I had just come out of a very bad relationship) and so it was nice to be looked after. At the end of the day, although I could have stayed with him and never wanted for another thing (in a literal sense, I would have been financially well taken care of) I just would have died inside, and so it wasnt fair to him or me to carry on trying to find something that wasnt there.
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Sounds like the right thing to do in a difficult situation to be in , especially after coming out of a relationship to find security with another but no "chemistry".

I've always wondered what it would be like to be a "kept" woman though, hell even a kept man these days. I rekon pretty awesome :) (only if you love your partner though, or your a shallow so'n'so).
 
Badly, I Was a bit cowardly about it and didn't do it quickly so it ended up hurting her more.

Best for both of you to do it quick.
 
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