How do/did you get on with your parents?

Mother is mentally ill, undiagnosed throughout my childhood. She was actively dangerous. I was pretty much looking after her by the time i was 10. She's still around, but not in a state you could have a normal relationship with.
 
It's a pity to hear that so many people have problems of varying degrees with their parents but something that does reinforce how grateful I am that my parents are both loving and supportive.

I do get on well with both of my parents but I'd not want to live with them again through choice, not because there's anything wrong with them but I've got too used to independence and since that's something they've encouraged they can't be overly surprised that I am happy away from home. Going back to see them is great and I thoroughly enjoy it although after a week or two I'm ready to leave again.
 
always had problems with my dad but within a few years of moving out things got much better, i dont think he realy wanted kids lol
 
get along brilliantly, always have.
dont live at home anymore, never had any overwhelming urge to move out but as things go it just happened with time, however i still have my old room and occasionally pop back for holidays and such in fact i'm back here now.
 
I always liked my dad but I wasn't old enough to have built an adult relationship with him when he died. I get on really well with my mum, although she winds me up a bit at times - mostly because she's getting on a bit. She's also got a terrible streak of TMI at times.

She's recently been dating again, and had been going out with this eighty year old chap for a while. He chucked her after she got back from holiday in Greece with him just before I last went to see her.

Anyways, she showing me photos of the holiday when she says "I wonder whether he'd mind that I still have naked photos of him"... Too much information received, thinks I, cease transmission! No such luck. *click* "Doesn't he have good skin for an eighty year old?"

Thanks mum, I really needed to see an old man's joy department. Not.
 
I get on with both parents fine. Dad is intellectual and in a great place in life but mother is a bit of a divvy to be honest, still on the farm where she grew up.
I'm ****ed off that dad left me when I was about five or six in a way, but can understand the reasons totally. Mothers side of the family are overbearing control freaks hell bent on telling you what you should be doing with your life but never offer any support or guidance.
In fact due to my mothers general uncaring, uninterested attitude when I was younger I didn't excell at anything other than being a destructive little ****, being crap at school, crap with money and crap in social situations.
I never got to go out anywhere other than kicking about on the farm, never had parties, BBQs or family get togethers other than Christmas day which was always stressful so I kept out of the way.
Anyway... Going on a bit there :(

Am I close to either of them.... Not a chance.
Mother treats me like I'm still ten since I moved back home due to a break up with the fiancé many years ago now (I'm 37 and living at home :()
"Where the hell have you been, what time of night do you call this, your dinner is getting cold" I'm sure you know the sort of comments.
Any woman I meet is looked down upon, every mention of moving on is met with anger regarding "why she bothers" if you know what I mean.

So no, I could quite easily bugger off to the other side of the world without a care in the world.
Errgh, I've gone off on one again, time to sleep now I think!!
 
Scubascorpion said:
Mother treats me like I'm still ten since I moved back home due to a break up with the fiancé many years ago now (I'm 37 and living at home :()
"Where the hell have you been, what time of night do you call this, your dinner is getting cold" I'm sure you know the sort of comments.
Any woman I meet is looked down upon, every mention of moving on is met with anger regarding "why she bothers" if you know what I mean.

So no, I could quite easily bugger off to the other side of the world without a care in the world.
Errgh, I've gone off on one again, time to sleep now I think!!
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Why don't you rent a flat somewhere then?
 
Take after my mum, caring, dont have temper, can talk about anything
Dad love him to bits, play golf with him but he wants to do everything, work wise on any DIY job, he was a joiner now works for BT so has to be the foreman.

Can take it or leave it, go out for a pint or ten with them or have a brew.

Wouldn't swap them for any money in the world, seen some mates and parents and just been blown away at the relationship they have.

You have to take the rough with the smooth, growing up is hard but growing old is so much harder.
 
Tingle said:
Why don't you rent a flat somewhere then?
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Because I've had to learn the hard way about being good with money, I don't have a great deal saved up, so while I do still have the oportunity to live at home and save a decent pot full, that's exactly what I'm going to do. Depressing and embarrassing as it is. It makes economic sense to stay here whilst I'm still single.
 
I have a good relationship with both my parents now.

Argue with the mother now and then though over little things like washing, not helping out in the house because ive been working etc but never too serious. Always there for me, even when ive been stuck out at 3/4 in the morning shes got out of bed to pick me up, same when I crashed the car. 4 in the morning and she picked me up then too.

Used to go out with my dad when I was younger but not much as my parents split up and I hated him for leaving us. As I got older I started to get a bit closer to him and now I go out everytime he is up north (works in london) for a few pints etc. Plus he also pays my phone bill etc as well as give me an allowance even though im 20 :D
 
I get on well with my father... like best mates more than anything but i wouldnt tell him 100% of the things that i do or happens in my life lol
To make it sound bad, if i spend more than 4-5 days at the family home he does my head in and i have to come back to Notts. So i relish living away from family since age 18 lol

Haven't spoken or seen my Mother for 18 years (i'm 26) and to be honest im indifferent if i ever do ever again lol, a long story and my choice but thats for the therapist lol! (jk)

My Step mum however, compared to my mum, is awesome and we get on well like mother and son.
 
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i get on with my parents but i could not live with them.

My mom kicked me out the house when i was 17 and my dad left when i was 14. I have been cooking and cleaning for myself since i was 16. We get on great though, i even went away on holiday with my mom and sister and we only had a few arguments.
 
I get on fairly well with my Dad, and dont get on well at all with my Mam.

We didnt have a falling out or anything like that, i just dont like her too much, and i dont like the fact that she is never ever wrong, or that my Dad backs her up no matter what.

My Brother on the other hand cannot even tolerate being anywhere near her, he even hates the fact that he lives in the same village as her and people know that they are related.

Its a shame but its just how things have worked out and how things are.


Strangely enough everyone seems to feel sorry for Mam because of the relationships she has with us, however there is only one common denomonator in this whole thing....her!
 
i used to be a bit of a brat to my mum when i was a kid, so we didn't really get along. my dad never really got involved and we didn't have a relationship where we were best pals or anything.
anyway they split up and i stayed living with my dad. my relationship with my mum then became a lot better, but i started to resent my dad for the way he lived (sedentary). i finally moved out and now i have a good relationship with them both
 
Was close to my father until he cheated on my mum. I love him, but he's a scum bag, even more so considering he is now married to the woman and lives with her 1 mile away from our family home.
 
TommyV said:
Was close to my father until he cheated on my mum. I love him, but he's a scum bag, even more so considering he is now married to the woman and lives with her 1 mile away from our family home.
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Wow, the fact that he's married to her should help you forgive and realise it wasn't just a stupid mistake. He loves her, not your mum. Bit of a rubbish thing for someone to do (cheat) of course but he is happy now and not lying to your mum.

My mum cheated on my dad (emotionally or physically or both, still don't know) and she is getting married to him next year. It still hurts my dad but they're adults and they can both make their own decisions. Its not going to affect my feelings about my mum.

I'm suprised at the amount of people who hate their dads! I don't have the best relationship with my dad, mainly because we usually have nothing to talk about.. but I can't imagine hating him. It'd take a lot.
 
My parents split when I was 6 years old, and I spend the first year with my mom, another year with my grandparents, and then moved in with my Dad and his new partner. Safe to say she was a complete *****, I get the impression that she wanted my dad but never figured on getting the kids aswell. She eventually fell pregnant, and very soon after the kid was born my dad chucked out me and my sister, dumping us on my moms doorstep without warning. Never had an explanation why (space/money/**** who knows). That would have been when I was 11, seen my Dad three times since (I'm now 35), once for each his parents funerals and once for my neices christening.

My relationship with my mom is better, but still not ideal. I don't think either of my parents were particularly suited, or prepared for having kids. She put herself first for her whole life. My uncle summed it up well saying 'Your moms only weakness is men' Yup and she has, in the past, had lousy taste. I left home at 17, as I couldn't stand her then husband, the bloke was a complete gimp, and I'd have ended up stabbing him if I been forced to stay.

These days my mom is with a nice bloke and appears settled, and we make some effort to see each other. My dad on the other hand has some explaning to do, and quite frankly I doubt I'll ever understand someone that can just walk away from their own kids.
 
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