How does your life change when you move out?

opethdisciple

opethdisciple

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Holding off for the moment. Saving up money so I can buy what I want, where I want and at the right time. Recently changed jobs so prepared to give it a year to prove stability. Also the longer I wait the more money I'll have.

But I fear as a single guy moving out will just mean me sitting in my own place all alone. Tumble weed....

At least at the moment I live with my parents which can be annoying at times... but how did your life change when you moved out?

I'm 35, and very aware that I need to start looking for a long term relationship.

I'm still young, but in 5 years, 40 is old!

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The other thing is the parents are not getting any younger. Dad is now 64 and Mum is 53.... when I move out I'll be seeing less of them as well. Maybe I'll pop round once a week.
 
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You get the freedom to do what you want, when you want, but obviously you also have more responsibility.

I see my parents often, but I am happy in my own company most of the time, so I can chill out, read a book, watch TV, use the PC etc. I also have good banter at work so I don't feel like I need to spend all of my time being social.

It was something I knew I always wanted to do as growing up we had a 4 bedroom semi-detached house, but 4 kids in my family - which meant not a lot of room! I also didn't want to be the guy who lived with his mum and dad all his life, it doesn't feel like you can ever grow up properly without flying the nest.

These days probably normal to be living at home until 25-30's - 35 is pushing on a bit, at 40 I would seriously be evaluating what went wrong if I hadn't moved out by then.
 
I...I just can't do it. Came in here expecting someone in early 20s and get this. You're 35 ffs!
 
When you move out (whether that's renting, a flatshare, or buying) you finally start growing into an adult.
 
My plan is definitely to move out in the next year or two. I've been saying it for a while but it's true. Last year I started looking at the financials and decided that although I have money I really needed a bigger wage per month to make it work otherwise I would be finding it hard.

Also the location I can afford are not exactly great. So give it a little bit of time and I'll have another year or two worth of money to put down.
 
Malevolence said:
Why? You'll soon have your own place, so why limit yourself?
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Good point. Finally getting freedom. So why then tie yourself with one partner? I wish I'd spent more time single after I moved out :)

opethdisciple said:
My plan is definitely to move out in the next year or two. I've been saying it for a while but it's true. Last year I started looking at the financials and decided that although I have money I really needed a bigger wage per month to make it work otherwise I would be finding it hard.

Also the location I can afford are not exactly great. So give it a little bit of time and I'll have another year or two worth of money to put down.
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It will always be hard, however long you leave it. At some point you just have to give it a go. The longer you wait the more rent/mortgage will increase and you'll be forever thinking "if I wait another year my salary will be higher".
 
I'm 33, single and have had my house for about 6 years. It didn't take long for me to adjust, about 10 months I think.

At times it does get lonely especially during the winter but at the sametime you will appreciate coming home to piece and quiet. Summer time is great! Having friends and family round and breaking out the BBQ. Thankfully I still have an active social life and don't spend much time at home, apart from recently but that's because of studying for my certifications.

If you can move out, just do it! Dont be that sad, old man still living at home with their parents in their late 30's. The only time that is acceptable is after a relationship breaking down to get back on your feet.

Trust me, when it comes to relationships or having a few one nighters. It will benefit you in a big way having your own place.
 
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opethdisciple said:
My plan is definitely to move out in the next year or two. I've been saying it for a while but it's true. Last year I started looking at the financials and decided that although I have money I really needed a bigger wage per month to make it work otherwise I would be finding it hard.
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You've been saying it for a while but you still haven't done it. You'll just keep putting it off so it's something you should look at doing straight away. It's always going to be something that's hard to do, that's part of what adults call 'growing up'.

You're thirty five - Like Hades, I was expecting this to be a post by someone in their early twenties. I really don't know to address this point. You're thirty five and living at home, damnit.

And as an aside, your parents are not old at 64 and 53.

Stop procrastinating, start living your own life. Get out there and start looking!
 
Just going to be blunt, if you're looking for a long term relationship then I can't see many worthwhile women wanting to be with a 35yr old who still lives with mummy and daddy. Aside from the obvious negatives it's a sign of a pure lack of ambition in most cases.
 
GSXRMovistar said:
This...very much this! :eek:
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And same here. I was out of the family home at 21 and renting with 3 girls I worked with, 35? bloody hell life must have been too easy. My parents hit me with a third of my wages from the moment I took part time employment at 15 o teach me that my wages are not all mine, mortgage or rent etc will all have to be allowed for. I have to say they were right in what they did. When I moved out there were no surprises money wise.
Regarding activities, do you play any sports, gym membership, extra curricular work nights out etc?
 
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Ayahuasca said:
Just going to be blunt, if you're looking for a long term relationship then I can't see many worthwhile women wanting to be with a 35yr old who still lives with mummy and daddy. Aside from the obvious negatives it's a sign of a pure lack of ambition in most cases.
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If they got a problem with that, clearly they not worthwhile to begin with.

Anyway, OP if you move out, then you just paying for a secondly set of bills for everything while being alone and leaving your mum and dad who are both old alone as well, why not stay together and have more money to go around and make life better for everyone?
 
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IronWarrior said:
If they got a problem with that, clearly they not worthwhile to begin with.

Anyway, OP if you move out, then you just paying for a secondly set of bills for everything while being alone and leaving your mum and dad who are both old alone as well, why not stay together and have more money to go around and make life better for everyone?
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While that may be true, what most women are looking for in a man (when wanting to settle into a long term relationship) is confidence, financial security, social standing and ambition. Basically has he got his life together enough to build a life with? Someone still living at home demonstrates they aren't confident to move out, can't afford to, still needs their parents help and lacks the drive to make it on their own. That may not be the case for the OP or every man in a similar position. But that is how many women would view it. He limits his future relationships by staying at home.
 
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35 i was out as soon as i could.i can imagine the action men and star wars gear everywhere :D
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Lmao! It's not that bad. I go out and party. At least once a month. I do have a social life and do kind of have something going on with one girl, but that's another story.

At the moment I haven't been out since the turn of the year as I have been studying.
 
IronWarrior said:
If they got a problem with that, clearly they not worthwhile to begin with.

Anyway, OP if you move out, then you just paying for a secondly set of bills for everything while being alone and leaving your mum and dad who are both old alone as well, why not stay together and have more money to go around and make life better for everyone?
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So how do women react when you bring them home and they're faced with models of pre-pubescent Japanese girls, cartoon paedophilia and possibly your 'other half' who also happens to be a pillow?
 
My problem is I just don't know if say 1k a month is enough for EVERYTHING else after paying mortgage.

When I went to speak to some estate agents a few months back what they told me about ground rent, council tax etc etc... it started to look like I wouldn't be able to afford it on my own. Or it would be a real stretch.
 
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