How far is to far for a relationship ?

shifty_uk · 4 May 2006 at 12:27

Their was a program on a while ago, think it was one of those airport programs on the tv. There was a guy on it that met this girl, but she stayed in a different country, they went out for years(I think) and then he proposed to her at the airport when she arrived for a visit.
Thought it was quite nice

Basically, as said before, no distance is too far, if your really serious about the relationship.

I'm from Hamilton btw

sachinbadiani · 4 May 2006 at 13:44

_dogma_ said:
That's ridiculous! So lazy.

That's what I've told him... go figure. This is in Glasgow as well... not too far to get from city centre of Glasgow to a town nearby.

And no, he's not called Manuel.

Visage · 4 May 2006 at 13:48

David _b said:
Hi

I like this girl but shes about 60 miles away. I drive and said i would visit every weekend or when im off. Is 60 miles to far apart (an hour drive) ?

I think not but she is a little unsure so just wanting the general opinion on distance relationships.

Thanks

When i met my wife we lived 300 miles apart. Weekends were goooooood.....

Vix · 4 May 2006 at 13:51

When Phil and I got together we lived 160 miles away, on not very nice roads. We would see each other every weekend, one would drive to the others after work on a Friday and set off back to work on the Monday at about 4:30 am. Took about 4 hours.

Distance isn't that bad if you can see each other quite often. But we eventually moved in together anyway, and thats much better!!!

Nathan · 4 May 2006 at 14:40

Is it worth it? For me yes.

Me and my girlfriend have been living 60 miles away from each other for almost three years now (been with her just over 3)

We share the travelling, one weekend I go up to Preston, one weekend she ll come to Chester. Now its summer time shes back home in telford and im still in chester on placement so its the same distance again

It works out very good for us, I look forward all week to see her. There are times when you wish you were closer, say when I really miss her or have an argument on the phone.

Meh we re be living with each other hopefully this time next year.

+ you can do 60 miles in 45 minutes if your naughty

Sp00n · 4 May 2006 at 14:41

I lived 70 miles away from my girlfriend, well over 4 years later we now live together.

If shes worth the effort, do it.

Mat · 4 May 2006 at 14:50

40 miles between me and mine and we've been together over 3 years.

Vonhelmet · 4 May 2006 at 15:07

Wife and I spent three years going out before getting married, with me in Durham and her in Nottingham and then in Leicester. That's about 3-4 hours on the train and we only used to see each other for a weekend every 3 or so weeks. It was actually better in the holidays when we went home to our parents, as then we were only an hour and a half's drive apart. We managed it.

It can be done, but it helps if neither of you is overly paranoid, and you can cope with doing all your communicating over the phone or by letters or e-mail or IM or whatever.

_dogma_ · 4 May 2006 at 15:52

BrenOS said:
If you're already in a relationship, then it's nothing. If you're starting a relationship, then it's a big ask.

My bf, before we started going out, lived over an hour away yet he still drove to see me for a night then we started going out and we've been together for 9 months with him driving every weekend to see me (I can't drive yet). It's a big ask but it can be done if you think there's something there.

WantoN · 4 May 2006 at 19:27

I'm 64 miles away from my bird. No trouble at all really

Ant

sam83uk · 4 May 2006 at 19:29

if shes hot and your getting some.. 500miles aint too much

Psypher5 · 4 May 2006 at 19:34

I live about 30 miles from my gf. Takes 50 mins to get there on a train. See her about twice a week, the distance is a bit hard, being young and wanting to just..pop over and whatnot and not being able too, but its worked for 6 months, I'm not about to let it go.

Breamy · 4 May 2006 at 20:26

i live 32 miles away from my gf and i manage to see her every week even though im training 7 days a week but i make time for her and shes worth it. i occasionally cycle there when i cant afford the train. its a bitch of a ride but all worth it. roughly 4 hours of cycling to see her but i dont care.

basically m8 if shes worth it go for it

Mr Spew · 4 May 2006 at 20:35

Doohickey said:
What's wrong with living close together?

I didn't say close, I said living together. After four months of going out, and going from long-distance to being with each other all the time, it's just a shock to the system and the novelty can wear off quick - I've been with my girl for almost 17 months, live 14 houses away and that can feel cramped sometimes, living with her would be claustraphobic.

Le_Petit_Lapin · 4 May 2006 at 20:39

How far is to far for a relationship ?

Usually around the time when you come home to find her and your best mate (lets call him Simon) sitting in the living room, wearing leather bondage gear, holding whips, and they turn round to you to say "we need a sub....you want to join in?"....as Simon gives you a sly wink....

-gem- · 4 May 2006 at 20:40

even when i was just seeing my now-boyfriend (

) i used to travel 85 miles.. not as often as i do now, of course.. but it was DEFINITLY worth it, and still is

good job i like driving..

Bracco · 4 May 2006 at 21:34

_dogma_ said:
My bf, before we started going out, lived over an hour away yet he still drove to see me for a night then we started going out and we've been together for 9 months with him driving every weekend to see me (I can't drive yet). It's a big ask but it can be done if you think there's something there.

Surely you could make your way to him even if you can't drive? Plenty of other people endure public transport.

_dogma_ · 4 May 2006 at 21:42

Bracco said:
Surely you could make your way to him even if you can't drive? Plenty of other people endure public transport.

I am making my way to him, getting a flat with him in a few months

teh_captain · 4 May 2006 at 21:45

I live around 100 miles from my girlfriend, she lives in Bristol and I live in Newton Abbot.

I leave from work (Exeter) every Friday night and it takes about 1hr 15mins (about 1hr 30mins from home) and the journey really is nothing. I stay all weekend and go back on the sunday night. If it's a bank hol then i'll stay the sunday and go back monday.

I used to live in Cheltenham and I drove down to Bristol every weekend anyway due to other commitments about 3 months before I started to go out with my gf, and then in December of last year I moved to Devon.

I love her to bits and she is so worth it, i'm so happy. The journey seems like nothing now. So yes long distance can work

t3h

D.P. · 4 May 2006 at 21:48

David _b said:
Hi

I like this girl but shes about 60 miles away. I drive and said i would visit every weekend or when im off. Is 60 miles to far apart (an hour drive) ?

I think not but she is a little unsure so just wanting the general opinion on distance relationships.

Thanks

My girl Frriend live 6500 miles away, she lived over 70 miles away from me when we started going iout and that I didn't blink an eye lid at- the thought that that was long distance relationship didn't even cross my mind.

As long as the girl is living on planet earth then in this day & age then anywhere is not too far. If geometric distance is the only barrier then you're doing good.

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