How insensitive is this?

mishima

mishima

mishima

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My dad had a car accident this morning and I rung in work obviously cause I want to be with him and things. The accident wasn't a very bad one but he was in hospital with neck injuries and had to sort out police and bring car back etc, anyway my boss was a right **** on the phone. I said to him that my dad had been in an accident and I'm at the hospital and then said I can't make it into work and he said "Why?" and I said "What??" then he said "Why not?" in a stern voice.

I couldn't believe how much of a ***** he was over it, ended the call and he just said will you be in work tomorrow and i said I will let you know what happens etc and he said ok then bye.

:mad: !!

No swearing

Gilly
 
because he is your boss and therefore automatically become's a *****

this is not true in ALL cases

Hope your dads ok.
 
Sounds like a tool but I wouldnt let it bother you too much, There are much more important things in life than work, generally. It comes way down my list of priorities. Hope your dad is ok.
 
There have actually been quite a few managers and staff leave because of him, one of the managers had to leave because she felt she was being bullied she was always in tears through conversations with him and he just wasn't healthy for her to remain there in that environment.

Thanks guys, I hope so too. Don't know yet whether his neck just has slight strain from the whiplash or could be anytihng like a fracture just waiting on X-rays!
 
The reason people become the Boss is because they put work above everything else, sometimes they need reminding that not everyone else does.
 
knowledge123 said:
I think thats v.insensitive, How much do you like your job?
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At the moment its just a means by which I can get money, I'm now qualified to go the places I want but I'm having trouble with getting even an interview because I'm a graduate!

When I leave that place the reason provided won't be because I will have found a better job I will be putting in a proper complaint and making sure he is the reason.
 
mishima said:
At the moment its just a means by which I can get money, I'm now qualified to go the places I want but I'm having trouble with getting even an interview because I'm a graduate!

When I leave that place the reason provided won't be because I will have found a better job I will be putting in a proper complaint and making sure he is the reason.
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should put in a proper complaint about him NOW rather than later.
The same sort of thing happened with my boss and i put in a formal complaint, i assume somthing was done about it as the boss was less of a prat.
Infact, we're in the process of getting a new store, and he was moved to another one(older one nearby), instead of being given the option of going to the new one (thank god :eek: ) ;)
 
knowledge123 said:
nice ;)
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Quoted for truth, the man is clearly a tool. My sister had a boss who didn't want to give her a day off to go to our Grandmothers funeral said she wasn't close family, figure that one out?!?
 
Maybe he has to put the company above your personal needs, and whilst could have done it in a more mamby-pamby way to suit your preference, neither had the time nor the will to do so?

Hope your dad is ok.
 
Well those complaints I mentioned were recognised and the guy from HR came to assess the problem and nothing was done, that was months ago. They love him to much at head office, because sure enough he's a ***** but he gets results and the stats on the paper.

He will end up a very miserable person because of the way he speaks to people and treats people. Friends don't stick around when they are spoke and treated in that sort of way. I can see him being a very lonely man.
 
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a1ex2001 said:
Quoted for truth, the man is clearly a tool. My sister had a boss who didn't want to give her a day off to go to our Grandmothers funeral said she wasn't close family, figure that one out?!?
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That is so harsh.
 
mishima said:
That is so harsh.
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It is very harsh but you have to remember that your boss also has a boss, and they're usually twice as much of a ****.
 
mishima said:
That is so harsh.
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Well my old boss had a go at me for only giving him 5 days notice until my grandmothers funeral. Because in the contract he keeps claiming I had (I had signed no contract coming into this job), I have to give 6 weeks notice for any time off.

I quit there very soon afterwards.
 
Makes me feel lucky this does.

I only have a part time job at a Tesco but luckily the managers are always quite understanding of things like this. Just last week a colleague of mine had to go home as her daughter was in a car crash. The store manager gave her a lift as he thought she was too shaky to drive. I thought it was a really nice thing to do.

I think it's because the store is quite small (it's an Express) so everyone feels closer knit.

Hope your dad is okay.
 
OP, I hope your Dad has a speedy recovery.
Unfortunately, some bosses really do need to take their heads out of their own self-important butts and realise that (sometimes anyway) priorities have to change. I would never dream of acting like a total **** to the guys working under me, as we all know that wouldn't make them work any harder in the future.

Some years ago I was looking after my ill grandfather for a couple of days (I took agreed unpaid leave from work for this). Anyway, grandad took a major turn for the worse one morning and my g.p advised me to call an ambulance immediately. An hour later saw me outside the hospital and trying to phone family members, to get them to the hospital as soon as possible to say goodbye. While I was out there my boss Peter phoned me, and this is the jist of the conversation:

"Dave, I know you've got some problems, but I need you here NOW".

"Sorry Pete, but my grandfather is inside the hospital dying from complete organ failure. I'm here waiting for my mum to arrive to say goodbye to her father".

"But he doesn't really need you there, so can't you slip away? You're job will be in trouble if you don't".

CLICK....that was me hanging up on him. I got another phonecall later on, this time from the managing director, and he apologised for the intrusion into my family life. He said that I should never have received that earlier phonecall and that I should ignore it completely and take all the time I needed.

Some bosses are great, but some are idiots.
I try to be the former (I hope, anyway).
 
badgermonkey said:
Well my old boss had a go at me for only giving him 5 days notice until my grandmothers funeral. Because in the contract he keeps claiming I had (I had signed no contract coming into this job), I have to give 6 weeks notice for any time off.

I quit there very soon afterwards.
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If my boss ever said that to me I'd probably quit there and then and I'd very likely say something along the lines of "Well sorry for your inconvenience. I'll make sure I am given at least 6 weeks notice before the next family members dies.

I understand bosses get a lot of grief and in many cases have a stressful job, but that is in no way a reason to be a tool.
 
My dad once worked for a reet pillock. One of my Dad's colleagues grandparents had died so she said she was going to take the next day off to go to the funeral, the boss said "if you don't come in tomorrow don't bother coming back" what an eegit! My curent boss is great she let me have a week off when my Grandad died and my GF dumped me on the same day!
 
mishima - I hope your dad is OK :)

My story is very similar to some of the others. My mum had some tests for brest cancer in 1997. I was the assistant manager of a small computer shop (read as I ran the place from 9am till 8pm Monday to Saturday!)

Two weeks before her test results I informed my boss that I needed the morning off as my mum needed someone there with her. He said that I couldnt go as he was playing golf and that she should rearange another time! Then he said that I've taken too much time off over my mum (2 days in the past 6 months as holiday!!) To top it off he said can't I pay for a taxi to take her! I was in total shock for most of the day.

Handed in my notice the next day and never looked back.

He also refused one of the part time lads a day off to goto his grandfathers funeral as he had a nooker match that day!
 
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