how much time do you spend alone?

I play Bridge 2-3 evenings a week, play Croquet two afternoons a week, lunch with family most weekends, and lunch out 1-2 times a week.
 
As much as possible. When I have a week off work, my ideal situation is no more than a few minutes of superficial interaction with anyone else. I'll do some shopping, once, and maybe exhange a few words with the person on the till. That's it. The rest is by myself. Peace and quiet and freedom. Lovely!

It's horses for courses, as usual. Some people want the opposite.
 
About 3-5 hours a week, this tends to be after I have got home from work and the wife is still to finish her shift. This is usually spent gaming or phone/YouTube while relaxing on the sofa.
 
It's the whole introvert / extrovert personality-style balance. For introverts, social interaction eventually becomes draining rather than energising, whereas extreme extroverts thrive on it at levels that would be toxic to the more introverted.

Personally I'm more introverted, and exploring the balance between both extremes has been interesting. I've had jobs that have been very social and energising to an extent (where you can talk to probably 50+ people a day face to face), and then I've had jobs working from home with nothing more than an email or a few Skype messages per day.

Both have ended up with major drawbacks (brain literally starts to meltdown in the overly extrovert scenario, end up caffeine-ing up, drift towards alcohol / sugar, brain fogged on any matters requiring introspection), and yet become very dexterous socially and verbally.

In full introvert seclusion work-from-home mode, I become far more cogent in my internal dialogue and stabilised in a mind-body way, but eventually I seem to start to 'rot' socially and become de-energised, no matter how ordered my life.
 
Angilion said:
As much as possible. When I have a week off work, my ideal situation is no more than a few minutes of superficial interaction with anyone else. I'll do some shopping, once, and maybe exhange a few words with the person on the till. That's it. The rest is by myself. Peace and quiet and freedom. Lovely!

It's horses for courses, as usual. Some people want the opposite.
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I seek solitude, but I don't want it. I place myself away from others, yet crave acceptance and believe (on some level) I need to bond with people.

But them I'm broken :p I am the personification of contradiction and inner conflict. I am duality.
 
It varies a lot. I always chat to people in the office and socialise outside of work on anything from zero to five nights in a week, but it has been generally towards the lower end of the scale for the past year or two. Most of my mates have children under the age of three so their time for weekend activities that don't revolve around play dates has evaporated.

Spending this much time alone would have bothered me when I was younger and I'd have felt compelled to make new friends, but I'm fine with it now for some reason. It's nice.
 
None whatsoever! I live work and obviously sleep with my wife, sometimes it gets annoying and i'd love a night alone but i wouldn't want to be alone for long.
 
Though I spend quite a bit of time around people - live with several people, have a reasonably wide circle of friends/family and work with a reasonable size and fairly social team, I'd still kind of class a lot of it as being alone - very few people I really value time spent with and/or have got out and done things with someone I enjoy the company of.

I choose to spend a lot of time alone as few people have similar interests to me. Though relatively introverted I cope fine with both quiet and intensive social situations as long as people don't get in my face - that gets tedious very fast.
 
Too much time. Not working fulltime and the job is solo. Also I live alone. so I have to reply on my friends and family for company. Usually go out or someone comes around most nights.
 
Apart from work which is quite sociable, I spend almost all of my spare time alone. Like OP I split from a long term partner and wanted to spend time doing stuff I wanted rather than catering for someone else's needs

I just find most other people to be mentally draining these days to be honest. Hate smalltalk and pointless interaction for the sake of it.

The only bad thing about becoming more solitary is wondering which poor sod is going to find my dead body in the house as it'll probably be a bit of a rich vintage before anyone bothers to check if I'm OK or not.:D
 
Not enough. I've always enjoyed my own company very much and you miss it a huge amount when you have a wife and children.
 
I have a good balance at the moment. I'm renovating a house that we don't live in so I get to spend a few hours a day by myself and some music. My wife and I also both have our own social lives but still spend a lot of time together going out for meals etc and doing stuff with the kid. She never stops me going on out the motorbike etc. Mind you I'm a 5am man whilst she sleeps in so I get plenty of time in the morning just to soak up some quiet time.

She sees her friends 2-3 times a week, I'm more a once a month curry and beers or bi-annual Jolly Boys Beano type.

It wasn't always the case. My ex was very full on and if I wasn't working or seeing friends then all spare time had to spent with her or she would kick off. It was very suffocating.
 
bloodiedathame said:
The commute to work is about the only time alone. Or when wife and kids are asleep. They went away for 4 days last month, God it was bliss.
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same here. unless I wander off at work, there's a whole basement at work which is 1000s of square feet, I sometimes go down there and scare myself ;P
I'm always with people....
 
[QUOTE="dodg3rman, post: 32826006, member: 146849"she goes out every Saturday on her own to destress from the week. So all in all pretty much all the time apart from 3 hours each night and Sundays we spend together..[/QUOTE]
Out on her own on a saturday night hmmm, interesting.
 
FoxEye said:
I seek solitude, but I don't want it. I place myself away from others, yet crave acceptance and believe (on some level) I need to bond with people.

But them I'm broken :p I am the personification of contradiction and inner conflict. I am duality.
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Do you push your fingers into your eyes?
 
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