How would you approach this....

[Jono8]

Hi guys

Some life coaching needed . Well I just want to gauge some opinions really.

I have been living in a rented flat for just over a year now and it has been a lovely place to live and we have never really been disturbed or bothered by anyone or any neighbours.

However, since last Friday,we can suddenly hear our direct neighbour's ( to the side of us) TV VERY loudly, almost throughout our whole flat! I am at a loss as to why we haven't heard a peep out of them for a year and now suddenly we can hear their TV on at most times of the day VERY loudly.

The thing is, i am a bit wary about saying anything as i don't know how loud our TV sounds to them ( although they haven't said anything in the year+ that we have lived here). We have also never spoken to them but i am pretty sure it is an older/elderly lady living there. I just find it strange as to why it is all of a sudden incredibly loud!

We have a housing chairman/manager who is also a resident and i am not sure whether to contact him first, or contact the neighbour.

I also don't know whether it would be best to just knock on the door and chat to her ( but that might put her on the spot) or to put a polite letter outlining our concerns in her mailbox.

We really love living here so the last thing we want is any bad blood between neighbours and ourselves but it is starting to really get on our nerves.

So OCUK , WHAT DO!

 

[Jono8]

Post on the internet then smash their face in.

Well obviously that was my first thought, but i think a more reserved approach may be better...

 

[Jono8]

Personally I'd appreciate it if my neighbor told me when I was making too much noise, i'd hate to think I was making their life miserable.

Me too! This is one of the reasons i am worried about saying anything though, because for all i know, our TV might sound the same through their flat ( although i doubt it as it isn't near the wall and we can here their new found loudness over our TV to a certain extent).

I would hope that if our TV or music was too loud someone would say.

 

[Jono8]

Maybe they used to have the TV on a stand, now they've fixed it to the wall? That would certainly increase the noise level.

Quite possibly. Maybe it is resonating through the adjoining wall or something.

Either that or their hearing aid is in for repair!

 

[Jono8]

I experienced an issue similar to this and in the end the only resolution was to move. I didn't move directly because of it but it was certainly a factor.

It is such a shame as we haven't heard hardly a peep out of anyone for over a year! Then from Friday, BOOM, loud TV.

 

[Jono8]

Yes, she may be deaf.

Is the loud tv during daytime or also at night?

yep, at all times.

 

[Jono8]

May be they just got a new home cinema.

Happened to me. I got the knock on the door...

That is what i am worried about

I can't really tell them to send it back though.

 

[Jono8]

Can i ask is the divider wall plasterboard, because nowdays it's a pure joke the way they build houses/flats over the past 20 years with paper thin walls.

I live in converted cotton mill with lovley exposed brick then what do they do to divide the flats up, they use junk plasterboard i can even hear my neighbours texts coming in

We cant hear anything else, just her TV since Friday. We also haven't heard anything from next door for a year or more so the walls cant be paper thin. We cant here her talking or moving about or anything like that

 

[Jono8]

You've not spoken to the neighbor since you've lived there?!

Go speak to the neighbour..jeez

Well i'm pretty sure it is an old lady but in all honesty we have never crossed paths in all the time we have lived there.

 

[Jono8]

WTF. Just got home and they still have the TV on blarring out at the same volume....at half past midnight!

Some tv noise in the day i can accept but past 11:00 is not on really.

 

[Jono8]

Go and say something and explain you have posted a thread on a major PC forum as it upset you so much. That will scare em!

No i dont want to scare her that much

I think i am more annoyed at the fact that this has seemingly come out of nowhere. It was so quiet and peaceful before for a whole year.

I think i am worried about talking to her because i don't want to come across as a hypocrite. I don't think me and my gf are a noisy couple and we will always have the tv and any music off by 10:30/11:00pm as i feel any later than that is inconsiderate in a block of flats. I just don't know how noisy we are to her!

 

[Jono8]

Go bang on the door?

well, to update, just tried knocking on her door....no answer. She is in there, her tv is blarring out. I knocked on the door loudly 4 or 5 times... : /

Though i am not surprised, her tv is so loud she probably cant hear it!

We did a test and i stood outside both our flats down below (we are on the 1st floor). Her windows were slightly open so we put our windows the same (flats are basically mirror imaged). We put our tv on to the volume we normally listen at and could not hear it all. Hers you can hear outside very loudly. I had to turn my tv up VERY loud before i even began to hear it outside and even then hers was still drowning mine out!!

The only explanation is that her hearing aid is broken or the volume on her tv is broken!

I will try knocking again later. If not i will have to leave a note in her mailbox.

 

[Jono8]

She is not dead . The TV does turn off now and then although it is on most of the time during the day.

After our little test today though, it is clear that her TV is on at an incredibly loud volume.

 

[Jono8]

Maybe she had earphones and they broke, she's deaf and is waiting new ones.

Edit: I say this because I was watching a show a few weeks back with someone that phoned police due to noise nuisance and that's what it turned out to be.

Old guy was deaf, never noticed how loud his tv was. Social got involved, just bought him a set of headphones and he was chuffed to beans as were the neighbours.

I think this must be the only explanation. Although it seems she has either turned deaf suddenly last weekend, or her earphones/hearing aid has broken.

 

[Jono8]

Thought i would give everyone closure

So after knocking several times and getting no response. I wrote a polite note outlining our concerns.

The next day when she had got the note from her mailbox, the loud TV had stopped and once again we cannot hear a thing from her

Then when i got home from work today there was a note for us in a nice little envelope and it was an apology for the noise. She said she is having problems with her ears which doctors are trying to put right and said she hadnt realised how loud her TV was. She promised to make sure it wouldnt disturb us again.

So all is quiet and good. I feel a little bad seen as she is obviously suffering badly with hard of hearing but constant TV noise at midnight when you are trying to sleep is horrible and needed to stop.