how would you take this

You are very lucky to have a good friend like that, provided of course that he's telling the truth.
It could be that it takes two to tango etc and he was feeling guilty about it and said something.

I'd consider the consequences of bringing it up with either party: is it really worth it?

I'd be pretty miffed if mine came on to one of my mates. You can't be frosty with her unless you're prepared to bring it up.

Either let it slide and act as normal, or bring it up if you can't act as though nothing went on.
 
ben12321 said:
im dying to bring it up i think about it all the time, but i know due to the length of time elapsed that decision was taken out of my hands, so i know all in all the best thing is to lay it to rest thanks for advice pepps
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Water under the bridge, you have made the right decision.
 
think a lot of people just want to see destruction/the aftermath of your confrontation - just let it go, 5 years have past, very unlikely anything has happened in between, i'm sure you'd be aware of it.
 
If it were me, I would probably just sit on the information your mate gave you for a little while before contemplating the next move. It's still fresh in your head so is bound to cause questions but give it a little time and your head will probably settle down enough for you to make a more reasoned judgement (which in all honesty will probably be to leave it).
 
Talk to her! You've been married/going out how many years now? If you can't talk to your other half of x years about things that are bothering you, who can you?! Sheesh!
 
If you've known him for 37 years, then that means you're at least 37 years old. If that's the case, then why are you typing like an irate pre-teen?
 
ben12321 said:
if your mate told you your misses tried it on with him and by that i mean your both sitting in living room on sofa and she was showing photos of grandchildren while he was looking she was rubbing his leg from the knee uop to a couple of inches he got up said he couldnt do this and that was it nothing was ever said. would you confront her about it ?
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lol. Seriously. Come on now. Duh.
 
ben12321 said:
i think she is, i understand abt a good m8 i known hin 37 years now the kick in the teeth here is this only surfaced a couple of nights ago whilst abit drunk and it happened 5 years ago is it really worth bringing the matter up as he hardly remembers the event and you can bet your bottom dollar she will most prob say the same he cant understand why i am ****ed and as i explained to him he should have told me there and then altho 5 years have been this is fresh in my mind as far as my head is going it feels like it just happened. bit of an awkward one.
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You're atleast 37 and I hate to be a grammar nazi (although a very poor one at that) but some punctuation would be good.
Admittedly Iam a tad confused on who was feeling up who.
 
You're clearly angry and by the way you're typing.. maybe a little drunk? (but who am I to judge?). So my advice is this:

leave it for a week or two and see if you still want to bring it up then. if this is all fresh in your mind you're bound to not be thinking properly. Remind yourself that 5 years of marriage isn't something to be ruined over 5 minutes of rage.

After this period, if it is actually still bothering you (which is also understandable), then bring it up, as others have said, in a controlled way. Start by telling her that theres something niggling at you and its probably nothing (for a start, your friend was drunk and his account could have been a false account too..) and that you're only bringing it up because its been upsetting you. Iterate that you don't want this to be a problem, you'd just like to hear her side of the story so you can (jokingly) kick your mates arse :)

If she's a rational woman she'll laugh and tell you the truth (chances are, it'll be something stupid like it was a joke and he took it the wrong way or that it never even happened) and you'll be ok.

Thing to remember though is to think rationally :)
 
Kick the whore to the curb, she's probably been banging all your friends, and her friends, and the people at her work or whatever.

She deserves it. She's a filthy filthy whore.

Also, butts.
 
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