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How's everyone dealing with the tedium?
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Soldato
7 Days to Die... The game, not some sort of manifesto.
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Today is that day for me, no kids or mrs from 2pm yesterday till 4pm today.
It's been glorious.
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I struggle with ‘the tedium’.
If you live life by reference to (and by pursuing) the highs, and/or you’re a person that takes immense satisfaction from the highs, then unfortunately a lot of life is going to be tedious and an enormous slog.
The best solution, in my opinion, is to lean into the tedium and become less sensitive to it.
Part of this is acceptance of certain realities. A lot of life is boring. Most of life is monotonous. It simply is. That’s something we all have to come to terms with, especially as we get older and have less new things to experience.
Another side of it is ‘spending energy’ to get enjoyment. I call it ‘building’. What can I do, this weekend, that will make my time going forwards a little bit better? Maybe I could de-weed the garden, or do a trip to the tip. This sort of activity can at first instance feel like a chore, but it’s better to mentally frame it as if you’re going to gym: you’re making your life a little better. And in time you’ll get ‘gains’ and satisfaction.
Finally, you can accept that many of the things we pine can’t be done indefinitely without negative consequence to other things. If you live perpetually needing that ‘first date buzz’ then you simply cannot also build a more sophisticated relationship.
Just random musings, take what you like and leave what you don’t
If you live life by reference to (and by pursuing) the highs, and/or you’re a person that takes immense satisfaction from the highs, then unfortunately a lot of life is going to be tedious and an enormous slog.
The best solution, in my opinion, is to lean into the tedium and become less sensitive to it.
Part of this is acceptance of certain realities. A lot of life is boring. Most of life is monotonous. It simply is. That’s something we all have to come to terms with, especially as we get older and have less new things to experience.
Another side of it is ‘spending energy’ to get enjoyment. I call it ‘building’. What can I do, this weekend, that will make my time going forwards a little bit better? Maybe I could de-weed the garden, or do a trip to the tip. This sort of activity can at first instance feel like a chore, but it’s better to mentally frame it as if you’re going to gym: you’re making your life a little better. And in time you’ll get ‘gains’ and satisfaction.
Finally, you can accept that many of the things we pine can’t be done indefinitely without negative consequence to other things. If you live perpetually needing that ‘first date buzz’ then you simply cannot also build a more sophisticated relationship.
Just random musings, take what you like and leave what you don’t
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I'm not.
Not very well at least.....but upside is I don't drink smoke use any form of drugs. My drug is actually nature hikes/walks, that's actually best way I deal with it (Although by some measure that actually is dealing with it well).
Not very well at least.....but upside is I don't drink smoke use any form of drugs. My drug is actually nature hikes/walks, that's actually best way I deal with it (Although by some measure that actually is dealing with it well).
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Soldato
Just accept it.
All part of accepting you’re not special or exceptional.
All part of accepting you’re not special or exceptional.
It's a skill not many have, but should be proud of!
Same here, but also crying at the same time.
Cranking and posting on OcUK....my favourite pastime!
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You sound like a tissue salesman's dream...
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Am re-learning to ten finger type like I learned to as a young man. It passes the time ok. Trouble is I also re-learned what I learned all thoes years ago, am no Writer, was a good Carpenter tho I guess we cant have it all.
Soldato
Nodebuster could help you.
Caporegime
This guy* knows what's up but also if you're thinking of 'tedium' as 'tasks' and not, say, 'general thing that life throws up, gosh, better deal with that' then maybe it's about outlook rather than functional outputs?
Approach is everything.
* a term, nothing more
What is it you feel you are not dealing with?
Soldato
Treat yourself to some TV. Just the other week it was 'my mum, your dad' on ITV whilst on BBC they had 'who do you think you are' featuring Olly Murs.
I know, I like to watch you....