I need to stop drinking

Football was just my example, any type of sport to keep you busy and interested and give you an adrenaline rush will help focus your mind in the right places, sometimes the best therapy is going out for a walk, as I have been in the office lately, I have been going out every hour for 5 minutes to vape, helps clear my head and give me a break and some fresh air, if thats possible for you, I would recommend even just standing outside pacing around.
 
redrabbit29 said:
The gym was the biggest part of my life before I got back into the habit of binge drinking every week. I used to train around 6+ times a week and as I said earlier, around June last year I was in really good shape.
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trading all day inside working to then go inside again to work out. Zzz. imo going to the gym is one of the lowest ways of getting fit. literally any sport is better than gym in terms of fitness not just for the body but the brain too.

how long do you get at lunch? it's getting sunny now so make sure to soak up as much vitamin D goodness as possible. Don't take a lunch in from home. make sure you have to go walk to the nearest store and sit outside to eat your food. will cost more but only needs to be for a month or 2 to get the goodness from all that sun and fresh air

Mountain bike for sure is great esp this time of year when it's dirty as ****. When was the last time you got covered on mud? feels good.

imo the best way to not be drinking too much on a friday is to be busy doing something else. Just stopping while still at home will be extemely hard. if you've got say a club, maybe squash, badminton, football etc that is late on a friday evening, it'll take up so much time and energy by the time you're home you'll want to shower, eat and drop off to bed.

maybe even the cinema every friday without fail go see a film, even if it looks rubbish just go get away from being in on a friday and near alcohol. if you don't like going alone then take someone even if you have to pay for their ticket. the cost of doing that for 2 months will be worth it if it drops your drinking, plus you'll probably save any way given the price of drinking
 
redrabbit29 said:
I've a few things which aren't great:

- me and partner not getting on for months
You do still have a partner. It would be easier to patch things up than deal with a breakup, so spend some time together.

- I work with a small team and don't really like most of them. In fact I can't stand 2 of the 6 people I work with.
You like the majority of them. Who cares about the other 2? There will always be people you don't like at work.

- my work involves being in a windowless office for 8 hours. This means there's no natural light. It's horrible and it really gets me down and I feel trapped.
Sunlight in the winter (in UK) doesn't provide enough Vitamin D, so even if you had natural light you wouldn't technically be getting enough.. try changing your diet or taking vitamin pills to supplement the lack of Vitamin D. (link)

- bit depressed and not overly happy.
Stop drinking "just because". Go to the movies or go for food with your partner... alcohol is a depressant, so it's only making you feel worse
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Turn those negatives in to positives and you will make a big difference :)
 
I can relate to a lot of what you said @redrabbit29. I stopped drinking in October 2015 after I realised my drinking was out of control (something of an understatement!). I'd tried several things to control my drinking, including trying to use exercise as a tool to keep sober as others have suggested here. For me it worked for a while but I'd always start drinking again, I needed a bit more help before I was able to stop drinking.

Like you I felt fat, under stimulated. Basically stuck, and completely unable to do anything about it. When I stopped drinking I found that I could use the energy I was harnessing to plan and protect my drinking in beginning to work at the problems I had. When I was drinking I worked hard to avoid my problems. Being honest my problems weren't solved when I stopped drinking but for the first time in a long time I was in a position to begin dealing with them. My life today is world away from what it was as a result.

I hope you're able to find a solution that works for you. Goof luck
 
redrabbit29 said:
I have a mountain bike and live right near a big forest which has cycle tracks in and mountain bike trails. I should probably take advantage of that a bit more and go out riding.
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If you have a modern Android phone, you could install Strava for free on it and use it to record your rides.

Yes, you can compare your segment times to others if you wish, but I've been using more since January to have a digital record of my road rides. For too many years I've simply used my bike as way to get directly to and from work, I now often extend my route home and go riding on my days off as a reason to get outdoors and try and regain some fitness... The miles soon mount up!
 
jay0906 said:
Definately go the counselling route rather than patching it up with medication. Heard some scary stories about anti-depressant drugs. Personally I wouldn't take anything that messes with my brain chemistry unless absolutely necessary.
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I did both and I am very glad of it. My brain chemistry needed messing with. I doubt if either would have been enough by itself. Medication isn't usually "patching it up" and even if it is then it's still useful. When something has to continue being used (in this case, a person remaining alive), patching while a proper fix is put into place is a viable approach.
 
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