My current mobo is the only one i have ever had that has the "detect timings by spd" option but that would'nt work for me anyway as both sticks have different spd chips.
You can do what he said though. Put the timings on auto, put one stick in, boot up run cpu-z and check the spd timings in the memory tab. Shut down, take that stick out and swap it for the other. Boot up again and find out the timings with cpu-z for that stick. Put the pair in and set the timings to the slackest stick and see if it boots. If it boots and loads windows restart and set the timings to manual/user defined and try to tighten them up a bit. You may have to apply a little extra voltage. try that and let us know how you get on.