I'm a disgusting human being (apparently)

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Last week, on the way home from mrs fatiains mums, remembered we needed a few bits from Tesco so we stopped there. Baby daughter was asleep so mrs f said "I'll stay in the car with her", Josh wanted to come so I sat him in the bottom of one of those shallow trollies as I wanted to be quick.

Rushed round the shop really quick, gets to the self service checkout and Josh starts to play up. He wants to get out the trolley, starts standing up, trolley rocks, he sits down screaming. I warn him to behave and stay sat down. Rinse and repeat. Warning is upped to stop it or you'll get a smack. Cue 150dB scream and having a bag of pasta shells thrown at me. I counter with a slap on the leg. He cries and starts to behave.

Here's where it gets interesting. This older woman walks past and almost whispers to me "You disgusting human being". Mr Red-Rag, meet Mr Bull.

"What did you just say?", I seethe, as she walks off, nose in the air. She gets a little further away, turns and looks at me down her nose again. I can feel the pressure rising in me like a boiling kettle. By this time, Josh is laughing at this funny old lady and the fact his dad's about to explode. I finish paying and rush out to the car. As soon as I leave the store mrs fatiain spots me and knows something is wrong. I tell her what happened and load number one son and shopping into the car.

"I'm not having that" I seethe again. "Calm down dear" says mrs fatiain trying to calm me down a bit. I stomp back into Tesco and out the corner of my eye catch the said old bird at the frist check-out. "How dare you speak to me like that in front of my son?" "Well what do you expect, hitting him like that?" "And how dare you question my parenting skills?" "What parenting skills?"

Well that just pushed the wrong buttons with me and I very nearly lost it. Especially as she started to call for security and the store manager (Well I was being rather loud). I think I apologised to the poor lass on the till at this point and when the security guard turned up, I apologised to him and walked out.

Cold air, adrenelin and me obviously don't mix well and as I stepped out, a second wave of fury hit me. I turned on my heel for round two to see her coming out the store flanked by 2 security guards.

"Do you know me?" "What gives you the right to question what I do to discipline my children?", she countered with a weak "Well what's he doing out at this time of night anyway, he should be in bed"

Over my shoulder I heard "we've had a family emergency tonight, that's why he's not in bed yet" (Thanks mrs f!). AT this point one of the security guards winked at me and gave me a knowing smile. "I think I'd like to go to my car now" she said so I called her a "detestable old witch" and drove home for a beer.

I *think* that's the angriest I've been, ever as anyone who knows me knows I dote on my kids and as I didn't swear once, I must've been fuming.
 
What store?

What was her name?

At least you challenged it, I do believe in disciplining a child. Theres a big chasm line between beating a kid for the sake of it and calming a kid down for being naughty.





Fisty cuff her in the egg cups?
 
Cheer up Frenchy <3

Why you bringing this up now if it happened last week?

Anyway, as far as I'm concerned - kids need a good smack sometimes as it's the only way they learn and that old wench sounded up her own backside. Ignore it mate. I used to get smacked when I was little, never did me any harm and I think I'm a better person for it.
 
I thought you meant she worked there for a second.

I was angry just reading your little story, never mind being in it! She deserved a slap round the legs too.
 
A pound to a penny the woman hasn't got any kids of her own and doesnt understand how they play up usually when there is a big audience
 
lol... while that is a relatively funny story (if you picture it), I can perfectly see why you got so angry. People are too quick to judge in this world (this forum especially) based on too little information. I used to get the odd slap to the legs and it kept me in check no problems whatsoever, a little bit of fear is very healthy for a child (note I said a little bit) and helps a lot with discipline. No fear of retribution from caring and non-abusive parents = no respect = badly-behaved kids from what i've experienced in life with friends kids and others.

I would give my kid a leg-slap if he/she deserved it, there's a huge difference in my opinion between a light, sharp slap and heavy-handed abuse... the sad thing is they tend to get lumped into one category and now it's an offence you can get sued for (light-slapping, not the abuse lol).

Bad parents ruin it for good parents, and people like that snooty old wench will always be quick to judge. I advise just ignoring people like that... you can't change their opinion,. in fact shouting at them only likely re-enforces it. Just think of some high-handed words to fire back instead. :)
 
CChrisca said:
A pound to a penny the woman hasn't got any kids of her own and doesnt understand how they play up usually when there is a big audience


This is true.

Kids are always playing up in supermarkets.

I'm sure my little one has been to acting school he makes sure he has the biggest audience and then delivers his oscar winning act. :D

She was out of order and tbh i think i would have had a go at her aswelll.
 
Xpander said:
Couldn't you have, y'know, just let it go? Understandable you have your pride, but in the scheme of things, it's hardly anything to worry about is it?
Someone who knows nothing about me calling me a "disgusting human being"? Let it go? Don't think so.
 
Dude, sounds like the nosy old bint has voiced her opinion on something she has no real call to. Bet she is the type that knows everything that goes on in her street n all. Sounds like the security guard new the score as well.

All kids need discipline and I got a fair few whacks from my folks, it does need to be done & I bet your wee man didn’t /doesn’t play up for a while after.

:)
 
fatiain said:
I've been away from the forums and I just wanted to share. :)

Have a big hug big fella!

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She should have kept her mouth shut and you should have taken a chill pill and ignore her.

Josh was prolly acting up because you were in a rush at a time he normally isn't in Tesco's so it is perfectly understandable, regarding the slap I can't really comment, some people say it doesn't help at all and you shouldn't do it, I am like you I think.

Our son does not stop until you give him a small slap, doesn't have to be hard, but it stops him doing naughty stuff and makes him think, keep saying NO does not work as he just continues.


Maybe the woman you met was one of the Supernanny from the telly :confused: :D
 
I nearly pulled a member of staff from B and Q one day from behind his counter.

Me and my wife were "trying" to buy paint from the dulux coulour mixing counter, after almost 30 minutes of messing around and waiting for staff, ladders and the base coat stock my little 2 year old was bored and started to whinge.

Anyway some B and Q dude strolled over to sort out paint out and said very openly to another member of staff "Im sick of whining kids" without realising that i was her dad.

Im pretty laid back, but when it comes to customer service Im the first middle and last to complain! (I have had someone sacked from Virgin not long ago !!)

Needless to say I saw the red mist, went up like a bottle of pop etc etc. On informing him that I was Kira's dad I asked him to repeat what he said and went right up to the counter and leaned as far as I could, Im sure he soiled himself!

The worst thing was the woamn he was working with was his supervisor and didn't do anything about it !! To cut a long story short, I got a wrtten apology from the manager of the employee!

For anyone who doesn't have kids and is slightly bemused by this raging dad syndrome, trust me, the second you have kids and someone insults them all sense of reason seems to go out of the window!!
 
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