Im guessing i should be happy?

MeatLoaf · 23 Oct 2010 at 13:54

Well long story short my wife and i have been seperated for a while now. Been difficult but ive kept regular contact with my kids and been paying her maintainance but i still love her with all my heart tho its obvious she dosent feel the same.

At the moment she pays a fortune to get the kids to school so shes been looking for a place closer to school. Well she found a place but guess where it is. Right next door to me. I dont know what to think really.

Theres a fair few positive things mainly that the kids are literally only a few feet away so ive pretty much got daily access to me kids.

Bad things are all the people i dont get on with - namely her spiteful family will also be visiting close by. And how am i going to feel if i see her take another bloke back to hers? While shes next door i am not going to get over her at all. I was starting to heal but i feel now that im going to be on a downward spiral again.

But at least me kids are close

Ace Modder · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:01

This is a very odd situation, to have your ex living next door to you.

hominid · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:05

Very wierd, of all the places to find a new place next to you.. If you are renting then I'd be looking for somewhere else to live, even if it's only a few streets away.

Deadbeat · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:08

MeatLoaf said:
But at least me kids are close

I'm not speaking from experience, but this sounds like the crucial point. If it does get you down at any point, just think on whether it'd be worth being shot of the situation if it meant you lived farther away from your kids. No such thing as a free lunch and all that, but ultimately it seems like you're going to have to put up with potentially nightmarish situations for that payoff, and it seems to me like it'd be worth it. Keep us updated, I'd be interested to see how this turns out.

Yamahahahahaha · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:08

Living on the same street would be ideal, next door is probably less so...

Still, being near your kids is the most important part.
You have no reason to be civil with her family if they're rude to you now, so have some fun with that maybe?

Edit: Assuming your relationship with your ex partner is civil.

Snooble · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:09

She won't move there if she's got any other options.. why would she? Surely she could see it'd be difficult.

Stretch · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:09

flibbage0 · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:10

She might still love you, I mean why would she move that close to you, fair enough if its for the kids but being one or two roads away would have been more sensible.

Whatever it is, good luck

unwashed potato! · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:10

ooh harsh. how is it going to feel when as you pop out you see her coming in with some new guy. now you got to think she's in their with some guy and your kids. you may even hear them through the walls! not good. i'd move if possible.

eggcup · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:13

you move into next doorbefore she does and you rent out your place

MeatLoaf · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:16

Well im actually registered with council to move so hopefully it wont be a problem for long its just finding a decent flat close to work. We still get on ok but i can see us falling out big time with her being so close.

Deadbeat · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:36

Honest to God, it's like a text adventure version of the Jeremy Kyle show. I simply cannot understand how you wouldn't seize this opportunity to see your kids on a daily basis.

Biohazard · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:38

That would drive me insane, get her to move

gambitt · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:46

Do you have any extra long drill bits? Just need a few micro cameras and you're all set.

doofer · 23 Oct 2010 at 14:48

Mammalian said:
ooh harsh. how is it going to feel when as you pop out you see her coming in with some new guy. now you got to think she's in their with some guy and your kids. you may even hear them through the walls! not good. i'd move if possible.

She won't be in there with his kids, she'll dump the kids on him next door so he can baby-sit while she gets torn a new one by her new bloke. He'll be downstairs shouting up at his kids to be quiet and go to sleep they'll shout down 'It's not us daddy it's mummy and uncle Dave next door making all the noise..'

Morba · 23 Oct 2010 at 16:28

Deadbeat said:
Honest to God, it's like a text adventure version of the Jeremy Kyle show. I simply cannot understand how you wouldn't seize this opportunity to see your kids on a daily basis.

Wow I disagree completely. This is a horrible situation! You don't need to be next door to see your kids often.

Meatloaf, ask her how she feels about moving so close?

233 · 23 Oct 2010 at 16:31

doofer said:
She won't be in there with his kids, she'll dump the kids on him next door so he can baby-sit while she gets torn a new one by her new bloke. He'll be downstairs shouting up at his kids to be quiet and go to sleep they'll shout down 'It's not us daddy it's mummy and uncle Dave next door making all the noise..'

you really owe me a new keyboard doofer

this ones full of tea

Viper² · 23 Oct 2010 at 16:32

Tell her the house is haunted.

MeatLoaf · 23 Oct 2010 at 16:54

Morba said:
Wow I disagree completely. This is a horrible situation! You don't need to be next door to see your kids often.

Meatloaf, ask her how she feels about moving so close?

Shes taking it now shes had a firm date of 13th Nov to move in. Shes taking it coz its closer to school so it will save her a fortune in bus fares. Shes not going to be in the house that joins onto mines she the other side.

Mind you another positive ive just thought of is if i take the kids for an extra night a week thats another 7th that i will get my maintainance reduced by

Tom0 · 23 Oct 2010 at 16:56

doofer said:
She won't be in there with his kids, she'll dump the kids on him next door so he can baby-sit while she gets torn a new one by her new bloke. He'll be downstairs shouting up at his kids to be quiet and go to sleep they'll shout down 'It's not us daddy it's mummy and uncle Dave next door making all the noise..'

We were all thinking it, did you have to say it...