Defis - IMO overly expensive and won't really help you. By the time you notice a reading doesn't look right the damage is done.
I agree and disagree there, he'll be able to see when the oil is actually up to temp before driving it hard, most people's guess work is way out.
Oil pressure won't help in an all out failure, but it can help see if the oil pump is on it's way out or catch any irregularities before they develop into something damaging, you have to pretty diligent to notice any of that though, most people aren't.
As others have said, go with the uprated ARBs and droplinks, whiteline or perrin, 22mm adjustable front and back would probably be most suited.
Turbo timer is useless, just drive gently before you get home.
Flaps are personal preference, I'd put the money towards the performance.
If you're not happy with the suspension (rather than wanting shiny new stuff

), BC Racing coilovers are rated by a lot of owners, and a lot know what they're on about, they're also quite well regarded by a number of quality impreza specialists.
If you don't mind waiting a bit, you can get a great deal on them:
http://bbs.scoobynet.com/group-buys-356/781390-bc-racing-coilover-group-buy-486-75-a.html
Quite a sensation at the moment for the quality and performance they offer, even at the retail price. EDIT: Nevermind, just noticed it's gone the 21st, if you're lucky he'll have ordered some spares to fit your car if you want them, still good value at retail price though.
The VTA dump valve as said, isn't doing anything useful, and will be doing more than harm than good at the moment without a remap, it can be accommodated with a remap, but it's still not much use, get the recirc valve back on there.
Although if your budget is £1500, I'd go with a remap to get it running properly, put the recirc valve back on, whiteline/perrin ARBs and droplinks, then you'll have a few hundred spare, best to start going to a reputable specialist and talking with them about what you really want from the car, opposed to just seeing shiny bits and throwing money at them
As posted before me, powerstation would be worth a visit, they're the nearest well known and reputable specialist near you, then you can work out what you really want to do with the car, and best manage your budget.