Inheritance gift

balky12

balky12

balky12

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Hey all, wonder if you can help, lost my granddad recently and wanted to buy myself something from some of the inheritance that I can keep as a kind of memory.

Only problem is what do men really have as an item to keep? This is probably me being short sighted. When my Nan died I bought myself a nice watch (IWC). So another watch, whilst nice, would probably be wasteful. Some nice cuff links was my next go to as I work in the city, however i wouldn't mind some other ideas, or to hear from others who have bought gifts in these circumstances. If this is actually a done thing?!

Cheers all.
 
MY Granddad died a couple of years ago - He didn't have much money and my grandmother is still alive so she had what little he did have, but I was fortunate enough to inherit his Elgin pocket watch.

I can't see a bought item having the same impact - The pocket watch isn't worth a great deal, but it is a piece of history and of huge sentimental value. It would probably sell for about £120 but worth more to me than say a new £5k watch that I could have bought if the money had been there.... Just wouldn't do it for me.

It's whats personal to you though. I would start at something your Granddad was interested in, or things you used to do together, then go from there.
 
Do you currently own a house? If not why not start up a fund for yourself towards a deposit? If your granddad's money is the first in there it would be a great reminder when you buy your first house that his money helped you start.

Just an idea.
 
Thanks for suggestions guys.

I'm currently on the verge of moving out, some of the inheritance went on stuff for the house, but one day these will break/ be redundant. That's why I would like something to keep, hopefully forever.

He was in a home for 4 years (dementia) so when he's house was sold, so a home would accept him knowing we had enough money, all his possessions more or less were divided up between his 3 sons and my mum. So not much in the form of personal possessions came my way.

Also we aren't talking silly inheritance. £500.
 
BDEE said:
MY Granddad died a couple of years ago - He didn't have much money and my grandmother is still alive so she had what little he did have, but I was fortunate enough to inherit his Elgin pocket watch
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When my Granddad died in 1980 I was left his wedding ring and his navy medals and I was over the moon while everyone else was fighting and arguing, its sad really how a funeral can destroy a family when its the one time they should all be there for each other.

Unfortunately 8 years later when I joined the RAF I left his medals with my parents for safe keeping and my mum pawned the lot claiming they should have been hers anyway as it was her father that died.........

I still have his ring though.
 
mattcrane said:
When my Granddad died in 1980 I was left his wedding ring and his navy medals and I was over the moon while everyone else was fighting and arguing, its sad really how a funeral can destroy a family when its the one time they should all be there for each other.

Unfortunately 8 years later when I joined the RAF I left his medals with my parents for safe keeping and my mum pawned the lot claiming they should have been hers anyway as it was her father that died.........

I still have his ring though.
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Yeah there was plenty of arguing in my family too. I stayed out of it - Can't be dealing with that at a time when family should be supporting each other.
 
Seems the arguing over inheritance/ money is far too common. Makes me sick. As sad as it is after recent events and attitudes regarding it all I'm done with 2 of my mums brothers and their families. Behaviour has been nothing short of disgusting...
 
balky12 said:
Seems the arguing over inheritance/ money is far too common. Makes me sick. As sad as it is after recent events and attitudes regarding it all I'm done with 2 of my mums brothers and their families. Behaviour has been nothing short of disgusting...
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We have a situation like this with my Aunt who has laid claim to her mums house - She is still alive..... There are three children who the house is in the will to, but its complex and my Granddad (other one to who I referred to before) left the UK 50 years ago and never had any contact with any of them until 3 years ago, when only my aunt would entertain him, left a will in SA leaving the house to her - The ownership of the house is contested given it is unregistered - Horrible situation but basically my Aunt is claiming the house as her own and doesn't care who she hurts in the process, including her own mother. There is more the things she has done as well but too much to go into detail.

She usually gets invited to the family get together at new year - I doubt she will this year, but if she turns up I shall be having nothing to do with her. Horrible way to treat your family.
 
Uther said:
Something personal of your granddads would be a nice thing to have IMO.
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Mynight said:
Wouldn't do cuff links as if you're anything like me you'll lose one.

Pendant maybe?
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I like these 2 ideas the most. When my Nan died, I was allowed to take one item from her house to remind me of her. I took her perpetual calendar as I was fascinated by it as a child, and it reminds me of Nan because know one else I knew had one. It looks exactly like the one pictured here.

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I would have said watch - but you've ruled that out and also £500 is going to be a struggle to find something special unless you go second hand


just as a random thought - since you want something to keep and remember him by - could you commission an artist to paint a portrait of him from a photo or something? I don't know how much that sort of thing might cost and it might cost a lot more from an established artist but perhaps could be done via a student artist or someone still trying to establish themselves
 
Why do you need to buy something in order to remember him by? Surely the memories alone will keep him alive in your thoughts and not some material item.
 
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