Is a 3 piece suit acceptable for a funeral

slambo69 · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:00

Might seem like an obvious or silly question to some, but I'm really not sure and I dont want to get it wrong. I only have 1 suit and it is 3 piece, I could wear without the waistcoat but its single button and goes quite low (to compliment the waistcoat). It is very dark grey I will be wearing with a white shirt and a plain black tie, but will I drawn bad attention to myself by wearing a waistcoat? I've always considered a 3 piece suit more of a business dress really.

Ciphon · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:04

I'd say you will be fine wearing that.

Tom0 · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:05

Just wear the trousers, a white shirt, black tie with a smart jacket/coat. Don't bother with the Suit jacket or Waistcoat.

Twentyone · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:07

Hm, I think of it more as a business dress as well. I have actually never been to a funeral before but I would say it would be better without. Not so 'flash' and wouldn't draw attention to yourself. I also wouldn't be too bothered about the suit jacket either.

But ey, what do I know

Guerrilla · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:10

I wouldn't worry too much about it, you will be fine. People generally won't be too bothered what others are wearing at a funeral.

Don't turn up in a mankini though

Greenlizard0 · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:12

That should be fine (serious answer).

However mankini on top might also be an idea. Say you had a running bet with the person who's being buried.

Abraham · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:20

Wear anything smart and respectful, I avoid wearing black to funerals because I'd rather be celebrating someones life than mourning the loss of them, that's not to say I go day-glo though.

Dj_Jestar · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:21

Yes, 3 piece is fine.

Cosimo · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:27

What you will be wearing is fine. If you are not comfortable in a waistcoat then don’t wear it.

TheMightyTen · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:31

Dress as smart as you can for a funeral, it shows respect. A 3 piece (if good quality) is extremely smart so it would be perfect.

Aero · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:36

Am I the only person who read that as 3 piece suite? Was very confused, but as others have said it will be fine

slambo69 · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:51

Thaks for the relplies, I think I will go all out then and wear it all including the waistcoat (excluding mankini).

dbmzk1 · 3 Feb 2010 at 16:52

So long as you are not specifically asked to wear something then it doesn't really matter. It's a funeral, not a black tie dinner party. Unless you turn up in something extremely brightly coloured or dressed as death then nobody is likely to take offence, or even look twice for that matter. Be yourself, the person they knew.

semi-pro waster · 3 Feb 2010 at 17:03

As long as you're dressed reasonably and behave acceptably I think that you turn up to pay your respects is more important than matching to any particular dress code.

Clum · 3 Feb 2010 at 18:10

So long as you're not dressed offensively, who's going to care at a funeral?

GreatAuk · 3 Feb 2010 at 18:45

I think most things short of previously mentioned mankinis or fancy dress death suits should be acceptable.

Swi1ch · 3 Feb 2010 at 19:21

dbmzk1 said:
So long as you are not specifically asked to wear something then it doesn't really matter. It's a funeral, not a black tie dinner party. Unless you turn up in something extremely brightly coloured or dressed as death then nobody is likely to take offence, or even look twice for that matter. Be yourself, the person they knew.

This. A million times this. If my grandparents were the sort of people who would be offended at the idea of me not dressed in a suit for their funeral, I wouldn't have been going to their funeral.

Pay your respects as you, not the way anyone else thinks you should.