Is it appropriate to just 'pop in' to see how things are going?

Moonpie2

Moonpie2

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Hi there

In a nutshell.....

I recently went for a job and the first interview was 2 hours long and we had an awesome chat. Then the boss invited me back to 'meet the team' a couple of weeks later and had another 2 hour interview chat. It all seemed super awesome, we laughed, we joked, we talked business.
They were upfront about there being a bit of a wait before the hiring process starts (need to put some deals and money in place)... no problem.

So after a month, I send the boss a breezy wechat (hey how's it going), got no reply. So 2 days later, I send a more direct (any progress with the hiring), got no reply.

Now I'm freaking out. Surely I can't send a 3rd message. But I DO literally live 5 minutes away from the office so I could just swing by.

Conventional wisdom says NO, DON'T DO IT !!
However due to how awesome the interviews were and how cool and open the boss was (swapping wechat details and ending the interviews with a fistbump), I'm thinking it might be ok..... maybe......

I don't want to be overly harassing, but I also don't want the opportunity to slip through my fingers due to inaction.

Any advice out there?
Any bosses can weigh in?
Or people who've 'swung by' the place they were hoping to get hired at?

- Cheers
 
Personally I would say don't do it. As much as you want the job things like this happen. Its a pain when companies and recruiters get your hopes up and then communications just stops. Normally its a sign that there is no role, they found some else or they have a recruitment freeze.
 
Is your only point of contact with the boss?

Surely he wouldn't have been the one to set up the interviews and such.

Would have thought you'd have a HR contact, or even his assistant? Have you got a phone number for one of those you could ring just to enquire if there is any update.
 
Well, it's hard to describe, but the company is still kinda small (so no dedicated HR) and in this industry, everyone kinda knows lots of other people in the same local area and industry, it's like a small village, there's not much scope for being a dick :D

Anyway, yes, the boss is the only point of contact, and I'm a pretty decent judge of character (and situation) I think. I'm 85% sure he's not the kind of guy who would blank someone, and no he's not on holiday, I see him posting news about the company project on wechat.

I can only assume that because the project is now in a critical stage, he's just mental busy.
(That's what I'm choosing to believe anyway, rather than I don't have an opportunity at the company)

But that still leaves my dilemma.
Let's look at the good and bad scenarios.

BAD = He's not replying because there's no job and he doesn't want to deal with me. So there should be no reason not to pop in, since I can't ruin my chances if there's no chance.

GOOD = He's just crazy busy and swamped and absentmindedly forgot to reply. Would a 'cool boss' appreciate a proactive approach to showing interest or would it be seen as an intrusion or unprofessional?

I dunno :(
 
If he's that crazy busy he can't reply to a quick message I don't imagine he'll appreciate you popping in for a sit down natter.

Leave it, you've tried to make contact. Don't become that guy.
 
Yea, I'd leave it a bit longer. You don't want to be the crazy stalker dude.

Likelihood is that he's not sorted out the things he needs to in order to get you in, money etc. so he's probably trying to stall to get it all sorted. Begs the question though, is this the place you want to work?
 
Think of it like a relationship, you had a couple of nice dates, you thought things were progressing well, she said she would call you.

Its been a while, she hasn't called, so you sent her a message to see if everything was ok. She didn't reply, but not to be put off you sent her another message, which she also hasn't replied to.

You're now in a position where you can cut your losses and move on, plenty of fish in the sea, etc. Or you can turn up on her doorstep screaming "WHY DONT YOU LIKE ME?!??!?"

Which sounds like the sensible option?

:D :D :D
 
Hahah, actually, Rids, that's exactly how I've been seeing it.

We had two AMAZING dates, and now she's not replying... WHY :'(
Hahah

However I'm finding there's not that many fish in the sea here and I really don't wanna let this one get away. To answer randomshenans, I do really wanna work there :(
 
Moonpie2 said:
Hahah, actually, Rids, that's exactly how I've been seeing it.

We had two AMAZING dates, and now she's not replying... WHY :'(
Hahah

However I'm finding there's not that many fish in the sea here and I really don't wanna let this one get away. To answer randomshenans, I do really wanna work there :(
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He won't see you as proactive he will see you as a stalker. Let him message you back or move on.
 
Rids said:
Think of it like a relationship, you had a couple of nice dates, you thought things were progressing well, she said she would call you.

Its been a while, she hasn't called, so you sent her a message to see if everything was ok. She didn't reply, but not to be put off you sent her another message, which she also hasn't replied to.

You're now in a position where you can cut your losses and move on, plenty of fish in the sea, etc. Or you can turn up on her doorstep screaming "WHY DONT YOU LIKE ME?!??!?"

Which sounds like the sensible option?

:D :D :D
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BEST explanation ever :) 10 internet points to you sir.
 
Am I missing something here? Why don't you just call him? That way you will get an answer one way or another (if he answers).
 
Rids said:
Think of it like a relationship, you had a couple of nice dates, you thought things were progressing well, she said she would call you.

Its been a while, she hasn't called, so you sent her a message to see if everything was ok. She didn't reply, but not to be put off you sent her another message, which she also hasn't replied to.

You're now in a position where you can cut your losses and move on, plenty of fish in the sea, etc. Or you can turn up on her doorstep screaming "WHY DONT YOU LIKE ME?!??!?"

Which sounds like the sensible option?

:D :D :D
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:D
 
Call HR anonymously and ask about the hiring process.

If they say "it's going great thanks trolololol", then dust off the CV because you've been burned :p
 
personally I would've stopped after the first message.

either he's too busy to respond, or they're not going to hire you. continuing just makes you look like a crazy person.

on a different note there are a few alarm bells going off for me, small startup business (okay not a major issue), "got to get some money sorted" who interviews before knowing what budget they have, who seriously finishes an interview with a fist bump..
 
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