But what's to say that this is what you fall in love with someone for? That certain something, being the 'core' of them is something that you only get to learn and understand through the intimacies that love brings. It's not necessarily what you fell in love for; whatever you fell in love with is liable to change.
Is it shallow to like a girl based on her appearance?
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But what's to say that this is what you fall in love with someone for? That certain something, being the 'core' of them is something that you only get to learn and understand through the intimacies that love brings. It's not necessarily what you fell in love for; whatever you fell in love with is liable to change.
Well said.
Haha, class.
i agree with what's been said by Fox et. all, but need to add - she has to be attractive to you.
if she's attractive to you, but other people disagree, you need to remember that people find differing things attractive!
*nods head*
*cries at lonely predicament...*
if she's attractive to you, but other people disagree, you need to remember that people find differing things attractive!
*nods head*
*cries at lonely predicament...*
[TW]Fox;17106202 said:
Absolutely.
When I met my GF, her looks attracted me to her.
Subsequently, she got breast cancer and all of the downsides that go with it.
Hair loss due to chaemotherapy,maesectomy, reconstructive surgery, weight fluctuations due to the drugs she has to take, mood swings etc etc etc
Thankfully, she's over the worst of it now, and is very much on the mend.
That said, at her wost, I stayed with her and would not have considered doing otherwise for a moment.
Beauty is more than skin deep, ironically, I found I loved her a lot more as she deteriorated, its a funny one to put into words, I guess you'd have to experience it to understand my meaning - something I would not wish on my worst enemy.
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[TW]Fox;17106202 said:
and personality has the immense power of diminishing the attractiveness requirement.
We all want attractiveness, but you can bet your bottom dollar girls start to look and feel far more attractive if you sit down and spend time with them. If their personality appeals to you then there is nothing you can do
You have to be a little carefull with regard to appearances. I remember all the Ugly girls in my school blossomed into beauty's wheras the pretty girls lost their looks.
It is a tad shallow if all you like the girl for is her appearance. To be honest those women that spend a fortune on their appearance tend to get on my nerves.
I was in a relationship with one such girl dont get me wrong she had a heart of gold and all that but she was a little dim. She would spend the last £10 on a bloody lipstick. lol
I tend to see beyond appearances in order to like someone.
I like women that are intelligent genuine and down to earth. not dolled up to the nines.
It is a tad shallow if all you like the girl for is her appearance. To be honest those women that spend a fortune on their appearance tend to get on my nerves.
I was in a relationship with one such girl dont get me wrong she had a heart of gold and all that but she was a little dim. She would spend the last £10 on a bloody lipstick. lol
I tend to see beyond appearances in order to like someone.
I like women that are intelligent genuine and down to earth. not dolled up to the nines.
Ugly duckling girls! I love em, all the charm and personality of a fat chick with none of the lying to yourself.
Honestly, a girl does need to be attractive for me, but I couterbalance that by being attracted to weird and wonderful things. Willowy, mousy type girls like Lisa Mitchell, kooky dress sense, red hair, freckles & sunburn, all sorts of crazy. I draw the line at back fat, though curves are fantastic.
As mentioned, physical attraction is a necessity in any long-term relationship. While I agree that it's not as important as other compatability issues, anyone who says it's not very important at all is lying - without sex, you're not married, you've got a friend.
Youth is a mask, but it don't last. (Courtesy of Rod Stewart 
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No matter how good someone is / was / could have been etc... it's the 'person' that you are interacting with. Met this woman years ago, completely not the type I normally go for but there was something special about her.
)No matter how good someone is / was / could have been etc... it's the 'person' that you are interacting with. Met this woman years ago, completely not the type I normally go for but there was something special about her.
But someones personality is a lot more easier to fix compared to certain peoples looks.
I have 3 female friends who I go out with or see every week. One slim, tall, blonde girl, other who’s slim too, brunette hair with the cute face and other also blonde, short, average size body (size 12 – 14). a lot of my male friends always question me why I’m not with any of them because they actually are good looking girls. When I explain the reasons then they understand why I’m not attracted to any of them just based on their looks.
But some of them will also go with the slim/model type/athletic girls not only for bragging rights but because 9 times out of 10 they don’t have access baggage, clearly know how to look after themselves, don’t put on weight when they get into a relationship. Unlike the so called, plain/fat/average looking girls who will put on weight after a few months, may have kids from other men or simply don’t make effect anymore because they are in relationship and get worse as they get older.
This basically, there had to be some kind of initial attraction for you to be interested.
Most of the time it will be based upon looks and personality will come into it later on.
Although a lot of the time you find yourself falling for someone who you couldn't imagine you would, simply because they are an awesome person.
No.
Personally , at least at first, I would be looking for a good looking girl. First impressions count for a lot and if I am honest I would generally not make a move on a lass I consider to be unattractive.
Ultimately though if I had a choice between a stunner who I had little in common with and a good looking lass who I really get on with I would go with good looking over stunner.
One day you are going to end up old and wrinkly and ugly at some point and you cant spend all day and night when you are young in bed so you have to have someone you can get on with.
My ex was stunning but ultimately we had little in common and after trying to make it work for a couple of years I just called it quits.
Personally , at least at first, I would be looking for a good looking girl. First impressions count for a lot and if I am honest I would generally not make a move on a lass I consider to be unattractive.
Ultimately though if I had a choice between a stunner who I had little in common with and a good looking lass who I really get on with I would go with good looking over stunner.
One day you are going to end up old and wrinkly and ugly at some point and you cant spend all day and night when you are young in bed so you have to have someone you can get on with.
My ex was stunning but ultimately we had little in common and after trying to make it work for a couple of years I just called it quits.