Is she being selfish??

Teledude · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:44

Looking at flats with the Mrs :eek:

We both live with parents at the moment and have decent jobs with good incomes. She drives, I don't.

We have looked at a few around her neck of the woods which mean a 10 minute drive to work for her and 25 minutes on public transport for me. Nothing there to either of our fancy.

So I went and looked at one round here tonight and OMG - its stunning.

Its 9 miles from her place of work - about 25-35 min drive and about 20 minutes on the bus to my office - its bang on budget and has everything we both want.

She won't even view it as she doesn't want to live over this way due to the commute - is she being selfish?

Or am I?!

Azagoth · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:46

Yes she is! Just tell her that 9 miles by car does not constitute a "commute"!

Buffman · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:46

I'd say she is, however how is OCuk agreeing with you going to solve this dispute?

Teledude · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:47

The Craig said:
I'd say she is, however how is OCuk agreeing with you going to solve this dispute?

Thats the next question - suggestions on a postcard?!

Sankari · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:48

Good grief, a mere 9 miles? That's practically next door! :eek:

secretspy · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:48

yes i would say she is. its only a few minutes longer than your commute so you're both in the same boat. Plus you have the hassle of public transport.

I would maybe have another chat with her. Explain that it's near enough the same commute for the both of you, why pass up the opportunity for a decent place with things you both want?
she (from the sounds of it) was happy to look somewhere that was easy for her yet not so easy for you? doesn't really seem fair to me

Nitefly · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:48

A 9 mile commute?

Malt_Vinegar · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:49

9 miles is a long walk, not a commute!!

TFleming · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:50

I'd say neither of you are being selfish.

Indy500 · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:50

Teledude said:
Thats the next question - suggestions on a postcard?!

She's being unreasonable. But then I can't really give you an equivalent comparison, so I'll just suggest that you sit down with her and calmly discuss it.

Surfer · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:50

could try just bursting into tears and sobbing until you get your way?

Prophet · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:51

lol I do a pathetic 11 miles to work in around 25 minutes.

Nothing to complain about at all. It's next to no distance.

Be Alpha and tell her the way it is!

SideWinder · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:52

Show her this thread. We are your friends from the 'net'. \o/

danny_mac · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:52

Put your foot down mate.

Mr Jack · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:53

Nope, she's perfectly within her rights not to want to travel that far. Find somewhere else.

randal · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:53

Apply rational thought and logic, state that there's nothing close by to her so you have to go further afield to find something and the only thing she's worried about is the change to her daily routine - which she'll adjust to in time.

Well that's the way I'd look at it, but you are dealing with a woman here... 9 miles is a terribly long way, especially in those heels.

Disco Boy · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:54

Tell the lazy bint that 9 miles is a half hour cycle, not exactly a long commute at all.

Teledude · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:57

It even has a TV in the bathroom - I want it!!!! GOD DAMN WOMEN! :mad:

Knubje · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:57

Agreed. Nine miles is F all. There is no guarantee you will be living there forever or her place of work will be forever so why quibble over something small like that?

Get the foot and place it firmly down tbh.

Dinomania · 17 Sep 2009 at 19:59

9 miles?! I'd even cycle that!