Is there something wrong with me?

AHarvey

AHarvey

AHarvey

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Ok, this may sound odd, but I just don't know if I am normal.

I've just been reading a thread on another forum where someone asked if the disaster in Japan is going to effect the prices of camera equipment and everyone jumped on him for being insensitive.

I've watched the footage, if I was offered the chance to go over there and help I would, but I don't feel anything about it, just indifference.

Princess Diane, people crying in the street and all over the tv. Jade Goody dying, same thing. 9/11, watched it on the TV while relaying news to my wife at work, but didn't feel anything.

Is it odd, or is it just that no one dare speak out that they feel the same? I can say it must be horrific for people going through it or losing someone to it but it doesn't result in an emotional response from me.

I've got lots a **** in my background that has royally messed me up, for instance, Forrest Gump, the scene where he finds out he has a son and is worried he's stupid always makes me feel crappy due to issues with my own dad. If anything happened to my wife I'd be devastated.

She wants kids and I am worried I won't feel anything for them, I mean WTF is that about?

So, is it normal not to feel sad for people you've never met and who have had no direct impact on your life? Or am I just odd?
 
You don't have an emotional response to things that have zero personal relevance to you.

Yeah that's pretty normal.


Sure if you had some actual involvement you'd probably have some feelings about it.
 
I dont feel particularly sad about things like that either, people get far too worked up about things that have no direct impact on them at all.

Yes, it is sad, but does that make me feel sad? Not really, no.
 
AHarvey said:
Ok, this may sound odd, but I just don't know if I am normal.

I've just been reading a thread on another forum where someone asked if the disaster in Japan is going to effect the prices of camera equipment and everyone jumped on him for being insensitive.

I've watched the footage, if I was offered the chance to go over there and help I would, but I don't feel anything about it, just indifference.

Princess Diane, people crying in the street and all over the tv. Jade Goody dying, same thing. 9/11, watched it on the TV while relaying news to my wife at work, but didn't feel anything.

Is it odd, or is it just that no one dare speak out that they feel the same? I can say it must be horrific for people going through it or losing someone to it but it doesn't result in an emotional response from me.

I've got lots a **** in my background that has royally messed me up, for instance, Forrest Gump, the scene where he finds out he has a son and is worried he's stupid always makes me feel crappy due to issues with my own dad. If anything happened to my wife I'd be devastated.

She wants kids and I am worried I won't feel anything for them, I mean WTF is that about?

So, is it normal not to feel sad for people you've never met and who have had no direct impact on your life? Or am I just odd?
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Perfectly normal bud!

its the people that cry, and get so emotionally upset over something that has no relevance to them, is what i find to be more weird then not caring about something a few thousand miles away and to people you have zero feelings over!

godamn my typing sucks at this time of the morning and on my phone lol :(
 
I'm similar, although one of the interviews got me a bit where this old man said he saw a young child being swept out to sea and there was nothing he could do.

I didn't feel a thing when my grandad died recently, I just felt massively sad for my dad.

Odd really, I guess we just weren't that close.
 
Thanks for the replies all :)

Quite nice to know its normal when you see everyone around you getting upset and sad over things that have nothing to do with them :D
 
Saw a similar thing on a F1 forum where someone asked if the suzuka GP track had been hit and was jumped on as being scum of the world. A complete over-reaction from people who were either pretending to care more then they did due to some forced belief that they should or have some real issues.
 
dalin80 said:
Saw a similar thing on a F1 forum where someone asked if the suzuka GP track had been hit and was jumped on as being scum of the world. A complete over-reaction from people who were either pretending to care more then they did due to some forced belief that they should or have some real issues.
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Yeah, although the news annoyed me a little by constantly talking about British victims over there, when x thousand Japanese have been killed:(
 
You're not a lone. No one else felt any sympathy for Jade Goody.

And you think the nuclear fallout potential is serious, do you recall the ash cloud British people had to endure when they cremated her lump of a corpse?
 
I would be more worried about the people who turn on crocodile tears for events that they played no part in or feign deep empathy with the plight of a people they know nothing about.

Disconnected indifference to everything but the most immediate thing annoying you that day is the way to be.
 
It has been devastating for japan and if I lived there I would be doing anything I could to help. However, for me the reality is that I am mostly concerned about how this will affect my family and I. What will happen to the already unstable fuel prices and the British economy? How will the cost of living here be affected? What does this mean for the nuclear power industry here? Physically crying because it has happened is odd. Being emotionally moved by an individual talking about their experience is normal.
 
You're normal. We can't weep for so many thousands of people.

I have cried twice in this past week because of things that have happened to close friends. But the Japanese situation is just too big to react to.

When I hear the story of one person (i.e. the man talking about the kid getting swept away), it certainly makes my eyes sting - it's much easier to empathise with one person in front of you than faceless thousands.
 
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