Is this unreasonable.

The root of the problem could be the (social) drinking and not your (apparent) laziness. She might be insecure about her own drinking and that is her way of warning you off that path by "keeping you busy" (i.e. more work).

Unless of course she really is being unreasonable. Then in which case the best option would be to stick it out until you move out for university in September.
 
Decided I'm going to ignore her, and tell her to blow it out her ass if she's still up when I get in.
If she kicks me out then bugger it, it's not the first time and I've got mates to stay with while she calms down.
 
ask why she doesnt work in the cafe on saturdays ? is it because of her wino hangover ?


you sound like you doing ok how you are. everyone needs a day off !
 
In all seriousness, maybe your mum is an alcoholic and she is so grumpy with you when she hasn't had her booze fix?
 
Ouch I've got it easy! My mum wouldn't dream of charging us rent:/ But then I'm at uni at the mo, and not planning on hanging about at home afterwards. Once your done with college for the summer could you sack it off and go live/work somewhere else for a few months before uni? Kinda working holiday?
 
Stupot_ said:
Ouch I've got it easy! My mum wouldn't dream of charging us rent:/ But then I'm at uni at the mo, and not planning on hanging about at home afterwards. Once your done with college for the summer could you sack it off and go live/work somewhere else for a few months before uni? Kinda working holiday?
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Tempting but I actually love my 6-12 job. Working with a good freind of mine, got a works van from it which is mega useful. It's basically landscaping, but it's a good laugh.
Hate my tescos job but not much I can do there, it's all money.
 
I get around said:
At the moment I work 6am-12pm monday to friday. Plus 15 hours of college in the afternoons. And 6 hours on a sundays and occasional overtime evenings in tescos.

My mum today came up to me and said I need to get ANOTHER job because i'm "lazy" and all I do is drink and go out with my freinds apparently.

Yes I drink (She's one to talk, bottle of wine a night), yes I go out with freinds but at the moment i'm doing 51 hours a week work and college combined. Not including time spent on coursework.
And whenever something breaks I'm usually the one to have to fix it.
I give her £25 a week keep and give her a load of veg i've grown.

Saturdays are the only day I have off at the moment and she says I have to go work in my uncles cafe on that day for minimum wage might I add. I usually go to see mates at uni on saturdays after i've recovered from the traditional friday beer session.

Would you move out? I can afford to but I'll never be able to save for uni in september (Got about £1100 in the bank for that at the moment) if I move out now that is and i'll only have a few months out of the house.

Just not sure what to do.
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Tell your mother to **** off.

I'm serious. If that's her version of being a 'caring' mother, then you are better off without her in your life.

How old are you?
 
Incredibly harsh. Would she listen if you sat her down and explained that you can't physically manage to do any more work if you want to keep up with your college work?
 
I'm sick of parents who basically turn their backs on their kids when they are older.
My daughters are nearly 23 & 21 and never paid one penny in board.
We decided to have them and it is our parental responsibility to keep a roof over their heads.
We do encourage them to save their earnt money though.
If you were my son I would be very pleased with the work you already put in.
 
Have you tried sitting your mum down and talking to her regarding this? Don't just wait till an argument starts and then put your opinion across because more often than not, when theres an issue at home and is addressed in a manner where your parents bring that issue forward to you because they are extremely annoyed, it normally then turns into an argument with both sides being emotional and what gets said just goes shooting across everyones head.

However, if you yourself bring it up when both of you are in a relatively clam state, you tend to get a much better reaction and everything what is said is actually taken on-board.

This Side Up said:
Tell your mother to **** off.

I'm serious. If that's her version of being a 'caring' mother, then you are better off without her in your life.
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When did swearing at your parents become the right thing to do, in material of weather you think their opinion is right or not?

dmpoole said:
I'm sick of parents who basically turn their backs on their kids when they are older.
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I'm not quite sure how you have come to that conclusion for this thread. Whilst the original thread starter's (I get around) mother maybe being unreasonable with regards to thinking her son should be working a lot more than he currently is, that isn't quite the same as turning her back on him.

My daughters are nearly 23 & 21 and never paid one penny in board.
We decided to have them and it is our parental responsibility to keep a roof over their heads.
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Until they are old enough to be able to be able to take care of themselves and at the age of around 21, I would consider someone to be more than capable of being able to do that. I obviously don't mean when they reach around about that age just forget about them but to make it clear they should take some personal responsibility and not rely on their parents for everything.
 
TBH he doesn't do a 51 hour week... College is about as hard as sleep and when I was at college I worked Sat and Sun like most of my friends. We went full time 9-6 to college, so does that mean I worked 63 hour weeks + coursework? no...

Working on the weekends while at college is normal and a good way to prepare yourself for "real life" afterwards.
 
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