Just because... when was the last time you...?

@Haggisman posted pretty much the same thread just a couple of days ago and it's still on page 1 of GD. This thread could be merged into it?

Do you feel ashamed of your lack of achievements? What do you regret in life?

Do you feel ashamed of your lack of achievements? What do you regret in life?

Sitting (standing) here, contemplating life whilst cooking dinner, thinking about what I've achieved in life, but I guess more what I could have achieved. Chances missed and opportunities never taken. Having just ticked over the big four-zero I guess this is more a thread for some of the older...
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I am 43 and have played about 1,000 hours of Fall Guys.

That's my just because activity. When I think of what I could have achieved with that time it makes me wince a bit, but then I remind myself that I enjoy it and that makes it ok.
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How many rounds have you won though?

Why are we all having mid-life crises all of a sudden? Just get a sports car / motorbike and a younger, blonde girlfriend. Sorted!
 
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Participant said:
I am 43 and have played about 1,000 hours of Fall Guys.

That's my just because activity. When I think of what I could have achieved with that time it makes me wince a bit, but then I remind myself that I enjoy it and that makes it ok.
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My main on wow had a /played of over 200 days. That is nearly 5000 hours.... Even scarier that I managed to go to school as well and that was over a period of only 2ish years!

I could have trained to become a brain surgeon or something in that time!

I started playing season of discovery over Christmas and it is so very easy to fall back in. It is quite scary!
 
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Stu999 said:
How many rounds have you won though?

Why are we all having mid-life crises all of a sudden? Just get a sports car / motorbike and a younger, blonde girlfriend. Sorted!
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Dozens, must be approaching 100.

I had a motorbike and crashed it, badly, so that's no longer on the table. Let me know where all these younger blondes desperate for a 43 year old dick are though!
 
I totally get where you're coming from. I think an unavoidable part of becoming an adult is moving focus from this sort of activity to more productive things, but it can go too far sometimes and it's difficult to start again.

There's a way to reintroduce this: do the thing "just because" and then write about the experience afterwards. Whether it's just a personal note, a post on here, or a blog, it'll help I reckon and may help take the mental edge off the "AAAAH CAN'T DO IT, MUST ADULT" factor.
 
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Ive come to the conclusion, that half of my problem is a lack of what I'm terming "Just because" activities, which I struggle to do without feeling guilty about not working, "furthering" myself, or having my mind focused on "more important things".
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I kind of get where you're coming from here. I'm not work/career driven, so I don't feel guilty at all about not working more/harder. I do however feel guilty when I do 'me' things when there's 'non-me' things that need doing.

I like to get out and about; walking, running, cycling, paddleboarding, and gyming. If I'm not feeling energetic enough, then I like to **** out for a couple of hours on the xbox.

The problem is I've got two young kids, so there's always parenting, cleaning, cooking, diy'ing on the to-do list, which makes me feel guilty if I go out and do 'me' things.

I don't think it helps that my wife doesn't really have any 'her' things she does (she's happy playing with the kids every waking minute), so that makes me feel more like guilty as I'm always the one going out leaving her at home.
 
NotAGolf said:
I kind of get where you're coming from here. I'm not work/career driven, so I don't feel guilty at all about not working more/harder. I do however feel guilty when I do 'me' things when there's 'non-me' things that need doing.

I like to get out and about; walking, running, cycling, paddleboarding, and gyming. If I'm not feeling energetic enough, then I like to **** out for a couple of hours on the xbox.

The problem is I've got two young kids, so there's always parenting, cleaning, cooking, diy'ing on the to-do list, which makes me feel guilty if I go out and do 'me' things.

I don't think it helps that my wife doesn't really have any 'her' things she does (she's happy playing with the kids every waking minute), so that makes me feel more like guilty as I'm always the one going out leaving her at home.
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For sure. My partner doesn't do as much "her" stuff as I do. And I used to feel more guilty. But managed to overcome that now.
 
Sometimes you just have to do stuff that makes you happy. It's good for your mental health.
I play golf twice a week and when am out on the course my head is clutter free.
I do a demanding job and I need some me time. We all do.
 
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