Just had the worst phone call of my life

^TANK^ · 20 Nov 2010 at 20:20

Some of you may have read in the "This instant and moment" thread that my mum was going into hospital to get a fiber optic camera down her throat, as she suspected she may have cancer from the pain in her throat and the severe vomiting with also dramatic weight loss through out the past month. A few hours ago my sister phoned me from the hospital and gave me the most hard hitting news I've ever had! The doctors had found a tumor in my mums larynx

. On a more positive note it has been caught early, she will have to undergo another fiber optic camera down her throat again and a cat scan to make 100% sure it hasn't spread. If any of you are near your mother right now or near a phone tell your mum you love them because you never know!

^TANK^ · 20 Nov 2010 at 20:54

Thank you all for the kind positive words they mean a lot, this place has its ups and downs with me but generally a really nice community of people of all ages and backgrounds. :cool:

burrell said:
I can semi-understand the camera down the throat, i had one shuffed up my nose, felt like it was in my brain.

Best wishes mate.

She had to be restrained my sister said as she is terrified of doctors/hospitals, she is a tough old cookie though lol.

Ahleckz said:
Best wishes Tank, I know what's it like but hopefully everything will turn out fine.

I read it before you edited it, I couldn't imagine the stress and worry you went through. I'm glad their on the mend

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^TANK^ · 20 Nov 2010 at 20:55

Scort said:
Sorry to hear that, I really am

Not trying to thread hijack or anything, but I had a similar call recently – after my Dad was rushed to hospital for the second time in October, my sister called me from there to tell me to get there ASAP as he was serious…. sadly, my Dad died on the 23rd of October.

All I can say is to stay strong, I’m sure your Mum will pull through though…

very sorry to hear that.

^TANK^ · 20 Nov 2010 at 22:20

platinum87 said:
Good luck, hope it works out well

You can insult me if it makes you feel better..

I did not expect that from you, thank you for the kind thoughts.

Again thank you all for the kind words they are greatly appreciated.

^TANK^ · 20 Nov 2010 at 22:43

platinum87 said:
We are best friends now

I'll tread on a woodlice in celebration.

^TANK^ · 21 Nov 2010 at 00:42

2bit said:
That's spot on. Make sure you talk as much as possible both with her and the rest of your family about it too.

My eldist nephew who is ten is taking it rather badly

, the other two haven't been told as they're to young to understand. I have talked to him and told him he can ring me any time he wants.

^TANK^ · 21 Nov 2010 at 03:24

Thanks again gents, I cant sleep due to the obvious.

^TANK^ · 21 Nov 2010 at 16:17

I feel like such a **** every time I talk to my mum via phone or to her face I just break down in tears, I just cant control myself

. I have never been like this even as a child.

^TANK^ · 21 Nov 2010 at 17:12

One thing ever so slightly scarier than the fact my mum has cancer is how calm she is, especially her humour. But saying that she is one of the most strongest people I have ever met.

^TANK^ · 24 Nov 2010 at 00:55

She has told me and my sister if its terminal she wants the funeral before she dies, I didn't say anything at the time but that strikes me as awfully weird.

^TANK^ · 24 Nov 2010 at 17:46

Thank you all for the comforting comments and for those in a similar boat to me my thoughts are with you also. I have lost three grandparents to cancer before, one to lung cancer and two to breast cancer.

^TANK^ · 29 Nov 2010 at 21:46

It looks like my mum is going to have a tracheostomy tube fitted in her throat as she can't keep anything down, also its very painful for her to swallow anything.

^TANK^ · 6 Dec 2010 at 23:22

Freefaller said:
How's she getting on matey?

She has less than twelve months maybe six months left, most likely the latter.

^TANK^ · 7 Dec 2010 at 00:00

garyfl said:
i understand what your going through op, so if you ever need to talk, im here pal.

Thank you.

Naff8000 said:
I'm really sorry to hear that My deepest condolences

Thank you but she ain't dead yet.

^TANK^ · 7 Dec 2010 at 08:16

Shes off for a CAT scan with dye (contrast agent) via intravenous in a bit, to see how far the tumor has progressed in her larynx.

^TANK^ · 10 Feb 2011 at 18:19

******* brilliant my mum has just had a huge stroke and been rushed to hospital

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^TANK^ · 10 Feb 2011 at 23:11

The_blue said:
Get off the internet and go see her!

K1LLSW1TCH said:
Like, now.

I posted while the taxi was on its way guys

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Just got back thank you for all the kind words everyone, my mum had what is known as a TIA (Transient Ischemic Attack) which resulted in her losing feelings down the right side of her body severely impacting her motor skills and speech.

Not so long after this manic situation my nephew had a very bad asthma attack and had to be put on a nebuliser, from the seriousness of his breathing he will be placed into an induced coma to reduce the symptoms.

^TANK^ · 11 Feb 2011 at 08:46

Thank you, she started to get full motion and feeling back of her body that evening so she discharged herself, just worried it may reoccur again. My nephew who had the asthma attack is on his way up to London hospital as I type, as they specialise with severe asthma and will want to put him in a drug induced coma.

^TANK^ · 11 Feb 2011 at 08:54

I took a picture last night when we got back from the hospital of all the medication my mum takes daily :eek:

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^TANK^ · 11 Feb 2011 at 09:12

Terrible situation to be in I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.