Just split up with my girlfriend after 2 years...

Man - this is starting to become a counselling forum!! Women are the most unrational creatures in the world - a bit like a massively overclocked PC... Unstable, unreliable and mercyless... and all the rest... just forget it and find yourself another one. Obviously this one don't care. How can you care about someone who don't give a **** about you? Not worth the sleepless nights... Get BF2 or something, keep occupied...
 
Maniac618 - It's your own fault. You shouldn't have cheated. In my book kissing someone else isn't acceptable when you have a partner.
 
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yep been there... 2.5yrs... getting settled down - get chucked. she wants to single and not get tied down, fair enough. week later rumours go round about her and a workmate of mine. a week later she tells me its true. she left me for him....

best bit?

we all work together.

its been a long 6 months and i cant wait for my next job elsewhere in 2 weeks. worst about it is her dads one of my mates and we do stuff together as share an interest. her mum still treats me like a son in law and as much as i would break ties its purely her parents being so damned nice and just genuinely good people that i refuse to not see them. thye understand the situation though which is good so shes never there when i see them.
 
Well, headway is already been made. Saw a lovely south american looking girl in Pizza Hut while I was there with my friends and we kept catching each others eye. I asked for the waitress to give me a pen and paper and then wrote my name and number down on it and asked her nicely if she'd give it to the girl. Just got a text back about 10 minutes ago. :D
 
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pack up and leave for a foriegn country for a few days. don't tell anyone you're going, just go and soak up some sun, meet some new people and relax.

I did it myself, a kind of early life crisis at 18.. I found it quite helpful
 
I have just been owned by my own messenger. The pizza hut girl I gave it to got completely mixed up and gave it to the wrong person... another waitress there, noooooooooo!

After a few txt messages it became apparent that it was a completely different person to the one id seen so the beautiful aouth-american has now dissappeared in the ether... ****!

Funny though. :D
 
Richdog said:
I have just been owned by my own messenger. The pizza hut girl I gave it to got completely mixed up and gave it to the wrong person... another waitress there, noooooooooo!

After a few txt messages it became apparent that it was a completely different person to the one id seen so the beautiful aouth-american has now dissappeared in the ether... ****!

Funny though. :D
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LMAO that is funny :D
 
Richdog said:
I have just been owned by my own messenger. The pizza hut girl I gave it to got completely mixed up and gave it to the wrong person... another waitress there, noooooooooo!

After a few txt messages it became apparent that it was a completely different person to the one id seen so the beautiful aouth-american has now dissappeared in the ether... ****!

Funny though. :D
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Is she fit though? ;)
 
Zap said:
my ex dumped me a few months ago for exactly the same reasons, we were good friends for a couple of years, i always liked her but didn't think to do anything about it, then she jumped on me one night, after that we had a great 6 months, everything was there, after that it just went down the tubes a bit, she lost the spark with me, i don't know when, it was horrible, i loved her so much and just wanted her, after a year and four months she ended it, it hurt so much, more than anything could have, i would have put my hands on a table and have them smashed with a hammer if it meant i could have been with her forever and her want me back.

The first month was terrible, saw her once to collect my stuff, we spent the day together, parted on good terms, bitter sweet but it was nice to have a nice ending to look back on. I emailed and text a bit after that but then just decided i wanted a complete break. Since then i've been having a blast, out all the time with friends, doing new things and getting to know new girls (giggity).

It will hurt her, but, the feeling of being with someone and knowing they don't want you back is worse, over the long term i know this is best, i've just had to accept it and move on, if it's not meant to be then it's not. She'll realise this too, and maybe in a few more weeks time i'll be ready to talk and be friends with her again. I sent her a text the other week and had a mini catch up, i didn't have any feelings rise so that was good.

It’s up to her if she wants to complete break or not, just respect what she wants and be understanding, I found it hard not to hate my ex at times and said things I shouldn’t have, but it was only because I was so hurt.

Chin up, you've done the fairest thing for both of you, if there's no spark you're just friends, and after only 2 years that's not right.

oh and if you ever need anyone random to talk to then i'm about on msn most evenings.
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It appears that I could potentially be on the end of the same thing, of a relationship of exactly the same amount of time.

The difference is though, we have a home and a mortgage.

I have no idea where to start. She's gone to stay in a local B&B tonight to get some headspace and to clear things up.

If anyones got any words of wisedom, or an ear to lend, please make yourself known :(
 
Hey mate, just try and keep yourself busy, do anything to try and take your mind off the situation.

Dont do anything rash, give her time and let her decide what to do, dont hassle her with phone calls, just give her time.

Im sure everything will be ok with you guys :)

Just checked the thread to say that i am so friggin nervous, because im dumping my girlfriend tonight and i know it will end in tears and she'll hate me etc, but it gets to the point where the spark has gone and you just dont care and love as much as you used to :(
Plus the fact im too busy really with Uni, voluntary work and normal work, i just dont have the time to juggle 4 things at once, and im just not in the frame of mind for a relationship
 
Want a woman for life, don't get with one born and brought up in the UK :D

I find it interesting when I speak to foreign people about the UK they say I liked it there but are all the women prostitutes? I was in a pub when this was said and I almost blurted my pint over a few.
She explained that women in the UK dress like prossies and behave like them, they swear drink shout and make a fool of themselves. She said women are aloud to be free and have rights but not to act like idiots. It seems women in the uk are percieved to have lost what it is to behave like a lady. The old school gentleman in me partially agreed with her on this.
 
To the OP:

You've heard it all before, but trust me it does get better. Start thinking of things you can do now, that you couldn't before if it helps.

I went through a similar thing about 6 months ago with a girl I was seeing for about 4 1/2 years. We were living together for probably 3 1/2 years and perhaps it was too much exposure too soon. Certainly too much stress as we never had any money and could barely afford to go to the cinema. Didn't help the fact that she had huge amounts of debt and couldn't stop spending :rolleyes:

Anyway, she handled her stress differently to me and used to be very tetchy, which of course riled me up and I think inadvertently I was losing interest in her so I'd make less and less effort and she was doing the same. It was a vicious circle really. In the end she ended up sleeping behind my back and the proverbial hit the fan. The rest as they say, is history.

6 months on and I'm pretty happy though. When you're in the thick of it, it's sometimes hard to realise how much things are getting you down. Now I actually have money I'm going out with my friends more and experiencing more. Two new experiences I can think of off the top of my head are lap dancing bars and close encounters of the MILF kind :D

I agree with most peoples' sentiments about not staying friends - it will be difficult, but it's very rare it can work. False hopes & jealousy springs to mind.
 
I've been single for about 1 1/2 now after my ex, while at uni, decided to end it after about 4 years. At the back of my mind I had thought there was someone else involved but put it down to paranoia, looking back I wish I'd have listened to myself properly. We stopped talking for a few months and I started to feel better, then during last summer she came to work part time in our warehouse, care of my dad, and we sterted getting on fine again and it seemed like things had never changed, the only problem was that I started to get feelings for her again. Eventually to save the heartache I told her I couldn't do it anymore and she then proceeded to have a right go at me and we haven't spoken since, that was this time last year and it's only recently that I can happily carry on without it hurting when I think of her, although there are still things that I refuse to watch/listen to as she loved them.

Nowadays there is a great girl on the horizon and we both feel the same way about each other and only this weekend she told me that should I ever want to move out there's a spare place at her flat. Unfortunately she currently has a boyfriend and we both agreed that until that changes nothing would happen. It's a kicker to be sure but after being on the receiving end of being cheated on I won't put her boyfriend through it even though he's a moron who doesn't realise what he has.

Roll on New Year when I go to Orlando and she's coming aswell :D
 
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