Knockbacks...

[Surfer]

So knockbacks via email OR in person. Is it better to let someone down gently via email rather than deal with the possible emotion in person?

 

[Surfer]

do you reckon knockbacks via email/text are kinda impersonal though?

So better to do it to their face?

 

[Surfer]

You putty tat. Face to face big man.

i'm afraid it is me on the receiving end old boy.

Honour requires face to face.

I can personally vouch for it being so much better than finding a 'Sorry, but I've got to have some space' note on the coffee table after almost 10 years together
...and no, I got the note.

wow - that is harsh man... after 10 years?? and she leaves you a note?

 

[Surfer]

Yer, been together almost that, and 8 years living together.
Well she was seeing a consultant psychiatrist (professionally) and taking a hefty dose of antidepressants every day. I came home one sunday evening 2 weeks before christmas to find she'd taken some of her stuff and 4 of our 5 cats. Collected the rest of her stuff the next week.
She never was that stable; http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/sh...ght=depression+similiar?+treated+What's+story.

Can't say I regret anything, but I also can't shake the feeling that all of that time and effort has been an utter waste.

Funnily enough, I got a text from her this evening saying 'sorry, just because I haven't been in contact recently doesn't mean I don't still think about you, miss you & hope you're ok' pfft

It's a familiar pattern for her though - run away from anything that she feels she cannot face, for whatever reason.
[hubris] Never thought it would ever include me though [/hubris]

Pretty gutted tbh.

Thats hellish - utterly warped way of "communicating" with you. Does sound as if you are better off out of it, though. With someone that unstable its a constant seesaw of emotions and you dont know which way is up or down...or wtf is going on.

Block her from texts i would. One of the worst ways to "communicate" real feeling imo. Just messes with your head...