Knockbacks...

Surfer said:
wow - that is harsh man... after 10 years?? and she leaves you a note? :eek:
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Yer, been together almost that, and 8 years living together.
Well she was seeing a consultant psychiatrist (professionally) and taking a hefty dose of antidepressants every day. I came home one sunday evening 2 weeks before christmas to find she'd taken some of her stuff and 4 of our 5 cats. Collected the rest of her stuff the next week.
She never was that stable; http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/sh...ght=depression+similiar?+treated+What's+story.

Can't say I regret anything, but I also can't shake the feeling that all of that time and effort has been an utter waste.

Funnily enough, I got a text from her this evening saying 'sorry, just because I haven't been in contact recently doesn't mean I don't still think about you, miss you & hope you're ok' :rolleyes: pfft

It's a familiar pattern for her though - run away from anything that she feels she cannot face, for whatever reason.
[hubris] Never thought it would ever include me though [/hubris]

Pretty gutted tbh.
 
jumpy said:
Can't say I regret anything, but I also can't shake the feeling that all of that time and effort has been an utter waste.
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When you date someone, it's like you're taking one long course in who that person is, and then when you break up, all that stuff becomes useless. It's the emotional equivalent of an English degree
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tbh
 
jumpy said:
Yer, been together almost that, and 8 years living together.
Well she was seeing a consultant psychiatrist (professionally) and taking a hefty dose of antidepressants every day. I came home one sunday evening 2 weeks before christmas to find she'd taken some of her stuff and 4 of our 5 cats. Collected the rest of her stuff the next week.
She never was that stable; http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/sh...ght=depression+similiar?+treated+What's+story.

Can't say I regret anything, but I also can't shake the feeling that all of that time and effort has been an utter waste.

Funnily enough, I got a text from her this evening saying 'sorry, just because I haven't been in contact recently doesn't mean I don't still think about you, miss you & hope you're ok' :rolleyes: pfft

It's a familiar pattern for her though - run away from anything that she feels she cannot face, for whatever reason.
[hubris] Never thought it would ever include me though [/hubris]

Pretty gutted tbh.
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Thats hellish - utterly warped way of "communicating" with you. Does sound as if you are better off out of it, though. With someone that unstable its a constant seesaw of emotions and you dont know which way is up or down...or wtf is going on.

Block her from texts i would. One of the worst ways to "communicate" real feeling imo. Just messes with your head...
 
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It's the age old struggle between how I think and how I feel. Currently the two are out of phase. But I must confess I found it more annoying, than anything else, when I received her message.
 
jumpy said:
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indeed

It's the age old struggle between how I think and how I feel. Currently the two are out of phase. But I must confess I found it more annoying, than anything else, when I received her message.
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It's just a bit odd that women still like to try and exert some control over you a long time after the event. I still get sporadic contact from an ex who broke my heart, and was still emailing me despite me ignoring her for a year and a half. Decided I'd give her a shot at 'friendly' contact and after a few email exchanges she ends up asking to add me on Facebook again (she'd deleted me when we split) only to see her listed as 'in a relationship' within the last two days. Nice to see people change eh? As an aside, I recently went out for drinks with a mutual (female) friend who I hadn't seen in as long as the relationship had been over, and made a point of ignoring all references to the ex - as I got the impression it might be some second hand recon, so hoped it'd get back that I'm well and truly over the ex.

It just seems odd, I could never imagine getting in touch with someone a long time after a break-up, particularly with one of those 'I still think about you/miss you' messages. It's obviously just a 'i've still got some hold on your emotions' play, and I think annoyance is a pretty natural response. Ignoring is definitely the best approach.
 
IceBus said:
It's just a bit odd that women still like to try and exert some control over you a long time after the event. I still get sporadic contact from an ex who broke my heart, and was still emailing me despite me ignoring her for a year and a half. Decided I'd give her a shot at 'friendly' contact and after a few email exchanges she ends up asking to add me on Facebook again (she'd deleted me when we split) only to see her listed as 'in a relationship' within the last two days. Nice to see people change eh? As an aside, I recently went out for drinks with a mutual (female) friend who I hadn't seen in as long as the relationship had been over, and made a point of ignoring all references to the ex - as I got the impression it might be some second hand recon, so hoped it'd get back that I'm well and truly over the ex.

It just seems odd, I could never imagine getting in touch with someone a long time after a break-up, particularly with one of those 'I still think about you/miss you' messages. It's obviously just a 'i've still got some hold on your emotions' play, and I think annoyance is a pretty natural response. Ignoring is definitely the best approach.
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I've received the odd email (odd being the operative word in some cases) from my ex over the last year and half where I'm not over it but the messages are immediately deleted without being read. Except the first one where she thought it would be nice to let me know she was on a dating website and sent me an invite to join, classy.
 
I know she left you (sorry to hear) but in future this is always a good way:

SENT: Babe, the past 4 years have been awesome, lets get married. RECVD: Are you seriously doing this over text? SENT: Hahaha, no. You're dumped. LAD

:D
 
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