1. I wouldn't. The lens range is nice, but it's nowhere near the quality of the other lenses you are suggesting.
2. Yes. If you are happy with Ef-s lenses I'd take a 17-55 F2.8 IS over a 17-40 F4 L any day.
When people say "you don't need IS on this range" I don't believe them. I often run up against situations where the IS helps. Also, most reports I've read prefer the 17-55 f2.8 IS over the F4L. It is sometime subjectively quoted as "the best" canon fit non L zoom (better than lenses such as the 24(8)-70 F2.8L zooms).
3. Depends if you really mean the 17-55 IS, or if thats a typo and you mean either of the two 18-55 kit lenses available. My 17-85 IS is not very good, no where near as good as either of the two 24-85's I've had for years. it's slow, and not particularly sharp at anything but optimum apertures. It does though have an excellent zoom range. When I can afford to, i will be replacing it with either the 17-55 f2.8 IS, or a 24-105 F4 IS (though I already have a super wide sigma 10-22 to cover wide angles). If you can afford a 17-55 F2.8 IS, I would not consider the 17-85.
depending on where you go/what you do in Thailand, I would say that a "standard" type zoom would be better solution than a superzoom. When we (me and the wife) went last year, we seldom wanted a focal length longer that the 85mm we had as a max.