Looking for some advice...

[semi-pro waster]

There are a few people I work with in the garden centre that are incredibly similar to me (sharing interests etc.) but they are quite a lot older than me, and their younger years of partying etc have finished. a lot of them have pursued some kind of qualification elsewhere involving horticulture, so I feel if I do that myself - I'll meet a few people my own age that also share those interests.

I was going to suggest that you try taking up a hobby of some description and join a club that does it but it sounds as if you're already thinking along similar lines. You may or may not find friends that way but it's not likely to hurt your chances, it should also help to make you feel more confident in new social situations.

I will say that having the same interests as someone doesn't necessarily mean that you'll get on well with them, some of my mates I have very little in the way of shared interests but that scarcely matters because we get on well together. This point is just to encourage you not to exclude the possibility of friendship just because you aren't immediately similar in interests or personality.

 

[Knubje]

Few things really:

1) Man up
2) Get pro-active about your situation
3) Go out as much as you can
4) Join social clubs at Uni
5) Find a woman/get some.
6) ????
7) Profit

In all seriousness, I was like you in my first year. Tables turned slightly in that I knew no one, lived off campus (not in halls), my campus was actually not the one I lived near, etc. It made first 4 weeks of Uni hell pretty much and I almost caved.

I found out a mate of my GF was also at that Uni, started same year as me and living in halls on the campus that WAS close to me. I text her although never having officially met, the rest was history. Met loads of people, in fact said person I met with came and visited me this weekend with her husband + family!

Long and the short of it is; stop worrying about it and feeling bad, start doing something about it. If it bothers you that much finding motivation to do it shouldn't be too hard.

Uni is generally a great experience for everyone but some don't always have such a good time. The key is making the most of it.

Good luck, get on it!