Looks or personality?

ChrisJSY · 1 Sep 2006 at 18:07

Zefan said:
I'd edit that sweary before a don see's it

Opps, force of habit

I managed to stop myself saying the f word tho in another post

crystaline · 1 Sep 2006 at 18:07

If you are in it for the long term the looks will fade eventually or change, but usually the essence of the person/spirit/personality will remain

MNuTz · 1 Sep 2006 at 18:08

Psyk said:
I guess the opposite is also true, you will percieve a girl to have a better personality if she is physically attractive.

actually its only true up to a point, i always think extremely attractive girls (models etc) have zero personality, caring only about shoes, makeup and their hair.

I know its a sweeping generalisation but that what i automatically think when i see one!

But then i prefer those pretty next door type girls anyway!

KingDing · 1 Sep 2006 at 18:12

MNuTz said:
actually its only true up to a point, i always think extremely attractive girls (models etc) have zero personality, caring only about shoes, makeup and their hair.

I know its a sweeping generalisation but that what i automatically think when i see one!

But then i prefer those pretty next door type girls anyway!

I agree with you there. Skinny girls u know the ones (She's fit but my gosh dont she just know it) are boring and no SOH!

I love the next door look with a little meat on, not fat just something to grab.

Sp00n · 1 Sep 2006 at 18:13

Looks are what get you interested, personality is what keeps you interested.

jezsoup · 1 Sep 2006 at 18:26

Nix said:
Looks is the draw, personality is what seals it. It isn't shallow, it's just how it is. Shallowness is what ugly and fat people blame because they get passed over.

I like the honesty and truth in your post!

Edit:
Thats from a male point of view, no idea about females. If my lady went by male logic I wouldnt be with her.

Psyk · 1 Sep 2006 at 19:09

MNuTz said:
actually its only true up to a point, i always think extremely attractive girls (models etc) have zero personality, caring only about shoes, makeup and their hair.

On the other side of that argument, I don't find girls like that as attractive physically. But that could just be me.

nige · 1 Sep 2006 at 19:46

The question in the OP is rather frivolous. The answer is both except for the self-righteous and the shallow.

Saberu · 1 Sep 2006 at 20:02

Kell_ee001 said:
Because a relationship based solely on looks is unlikely to last - you simply need more than that.

He didn't imply only discerning on looks he simply said that showing that your discerning on looks is looked down upon as shallow. I think CBS has made a very valid point and one which I recognise daily in our society. It seems to apply in most cases where someone is explaining attraction to the opposite sex yet when it is explained to the same sex it is explained much more truthfully.

Also I think women are much more prone to this blatent lying about shallowness as they prefer to be seen as deeper whereas guys are more open that they like good looking girls. Either that or women genuinely believe their attraction to men is based mostly on personality which is laughable considering that any initial attraction is based on looks anyway.

I'm willing to believe that attraction is based 50/50 on looks and personality once you get to know the person but initially it's more like 90% looks and 10% personality for most people.

Obviously some of us aren't shallow at all so my points are regarding the majority of people, ie the ones that are shallow. Being shallow isn't necessarily a bad thing.

It's ironic that on the one hand shallowness is looked down on while at the same time most people privately accept their shallowness and their willingness to accomodate other peoples shallowness by dolling themselves up.

atpbx · 1 Sep 2006 at 20:27

You have to have both, i know lots of very pretty women who are either vacant upstairs or just plain awfull people who i wouldnt poke if you paid me.

But then i know a lot of very funny very kind average looking ladies i wouldnt try and hit as well.

The plain facts of the matter are, a fantastic personality only carries a plain bird so far, but a complete lack of personality doesnt carry a looker anywhere.

malfunkshun · 1 Sep 2006 at 20:49

Kell_ee001 said:
Because a relationship based solely on looks is unlikely to last - you simply need more than that.

Very true, and is why, when I was single, I would only base on looks if I hadnt got my leg over for a while.

Weak is the flesh

Cybermyk · 1 Sep 2006 at 21:07

I'd say this was down to age/maturity as much as anything. The more mature you are the less looks will matter.

SB118 · 1 Sep 2006 at 22:16

Cybermyk said:
The more mature you are the less looks will matter.

Well i'm a big kid, so it's a good job the wife is fit as F

Rosbif · 1 Sep 2006 at 22:17

next time my lawn mower stops working im gonna go to the bloke with the ugliest wife.. i mean he must be a right wise old wizard

DAVEM · 1 Sep 2006 at 22:44

Mat said:
I always say that the vast majority of relationships begin with looks because until you talk to someone, that is the only thing to go on. Once youre into the relationship then things start to even out.

I also reply to someone who says that thinking looks are important is shallow by asking what the person would do if their partner turned nasty, rude and moody all the time, i.e. their personality changed for the worse? How would that be different to someone putting on/losing loads of weight or not paying attention to how they looked? its just a different facet of that person which you love that has now changed for the worse.

I'd rather my girl be a bit moody than fat IMO :confused:

pegasus1 · 1 Sep 2006 at 22:44

crystaline said:
If you are in it for the long term the looks will fade eventually or change, but usually the essence of the person/spirit/personality will remain

Yeah right, like people saying that its more than skin deep.
Only ugly people say that.
Luckily im both charming and handsome (allthough my spelling at drodfull)

meghatronic · 2 Sep 2006 at 00:41

JohnnyG said:
Month 1 = looks
Months 2-6 = 70% looks, 30% personality
Months 7-12 = 50/50
Year 1-3 = 30% looks, 70% personality
Year 3-7 = 10% looks, 90% personality
Year 7+ = it doesn't matter, you just love them.

This man speaks the truth!

dannyjo22 · 2 Sep 2006 at 00:48

If i'm honest when I met my wife it was 100% looks, luckily she's a great girl too.

Next time, if there is a next time. I would be a mercinary and just got for money instead. Money, personality then looks. Women do it all the time, I wouldn't mind trying that way out myself.

zetec452 · 2 Sep 2006 at 00:51

Neither of them matter to me. I have the perfect lady for me.

reflex · 2 Sep 2006 at 00:53

80% looks
Over time it becomes 80% personality.

Edit - i forgot to add u can "sense" personality from clothing, piecings, environment etc. Thats why looks play a role.

*thinks* To try and make that more clearly if your a goth person and your at a gig and u know the people there have a similiar interest to you so there personality is more than likely going to be what you go for so its the down to looks.