Loss of confidence and motivation

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When I first entered the world of work my main strengths were working quickly and accurately and being able to pick things up quickly. I had a good work ethic too and I naively thought this combined with my ability would take me places in my career.

The first reality check was the fact I'd ace the tasks they'd give me at job interviews but not get the job because I wasn't a culture fit or had the wrong blend of experience.

Eventually I ended up working at an advertising agency which in hindsight was a terrible place to go for someone like me. Because they generally bill by the hour working quickly was frowned upon. Someone there once told me to think of the longest possible time it would take to do something and then double it when being asked how long something will take. As for accuracy, nobody cared. It was largely reports nobody would read and dashboards nobody would use.

I was there for many years and got used to spending a week doing something that could be done in a couple of hours. My work ethic soon went too when it became apparent doesn't lead to pay rises and promotions whilst those who were progressing were some of the most toxic people I've ever had the misfortune of knowing.

I'm no longer there but I still struggle to motivate myself to do anything. I'm still dragging things out for as long as possible and nobody has told me I work too slowly. As a knock on effect I no longer ace the tasks I'm given at interviews like I used to. I have an interview coming up and have a task to do ahead of it. The old me would have finished the task as soon as I got it, but I'm struggling to motivate myself to do it.

I used to also be good at remembering things but now my brain has become like a sieve particularly when it comes to work related things.

Has anyone else found themselves in this situation? If so how did you come out of it?
 
So you joined a computer forum to post a ChatGPT generated story? Right...
What are you talking about?

I joined a career advice forum because I'm still suffering the effects of being a fast worker spending years in a slow job. I've never used ChatGPT in my life.
 
Is the money any good?
It is now but wasn't that good at the advertising agency. There was a regular project I used to work on where they billed the client for a week of my time but I could do the work in an hour or 2. I could have in theory done several similar projects in the same week where they bill the client for a week of my time, but that's not how advertising agencies work. Over time you learn to do things slowly to minimise the time spent doing nothing.
 
your not alone, the number of people that get disillusioned over working with companies is higher than most people would admit.

1. It may be woth walking through with a therapist to unburden and get steerage.
2. Doing the job is a necessity however side hustles at work are a good distraction and in rease value.
3. Go contracting for a while. If FTE don’t stayn the same role more than 3 years.
 
When I first entered the world of work my main strengths were working quickly and accurately and being able to pick things up quickly. I had a good work ethic too and I naively thought this combined with my ability would take me places in my career.

The first reality check was the fact I'd ace the tasks they'd give me at job interviews but not get the job because I wasn't a culture fit or had the wrong blend of experience.

Eventually I ended up working at an advertising agency which in hindsight was a terrible place to go for someone like me. Because they generally bill by the hour working quickly was frowned upon. Someone there once told me to think of the longest possible time it would take to do something and then double it when being asked how long something will take. As for accuracy, nobody cared. It was largely reports nobody would read and dashboards nobody would use.

I was there for many years and got used to spending a week doing something that could be done in a couple of hours. My work ethic soon went too when it became apparent doesn't lead to pay rises and promotions whilst those who were progressing were some of the most toxic people I've ever had the misfortune of knowing.

I'm no longer there but I still struggle to motivate myself to do anything. I'm still dragging things out for as long as possible and nobody has told me I work too slowly. As a knock on effect I no longer ace the tasks I'm given at interviews like I used to. I have an interview coming up and have a task to do ahead of it. The old me would have finished the task as soon as I got it, but I'm struggling to motivate myself to do it.

I used to also be good at remembering things but now my brain has become like a sieve particularly when it comes to work related things.

Has anyone else found themselves in this situation? If so how did you come out of it?

Get into a company that rewards fast working, but not a company that makes money purely through services. Companies who make products but need services done to help sell and/or drive customer adoption. The money maker is the product sale, the services are a necessary evil to them. So the quicker you plough through an engagement the quicker you move on to the next one.

Engineering equipment, and software products are a couple of industries that spring to mind.
 
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When I first entered the world of work my main strengths were working quickly and accurately and being able to pick things up quickly. I had a good work ethic too and I naively thought this combined with my ability would take me places in my career.

The first reality check was the fact I'd ace the tasks they'd give me at job interviews but not get the job because I wasn't a culture fit or had the wrong blend of experience.

Eventually I ended up working at an advertising agency which in hindsight was a terrible place to go for someone like me. Because they generally bill by the hour working quickly was frowned upon. Someone there once told me to think of the longest possible time it would take to do something and then double it when being asked how long something will take. As for accuracy, nobody cared. It was largely reports nobody would read and dashboards nobody would use.

I was there for many years and got used to spending a week doing something that could be done in a couple of hours. My work ethic soon went too when it became apparent doesn't lead to pay rises and promotions whilst those who were progressing were some of the most toxic people I've ever had the misfortune of knowing.

I'm no longer there but I still struggle to motivate myself to do anything. I'm still dragging things out for as long as possible and nobody has told me I work too slowly. As a knock on effect I no longer ace the tasks I'm given at interviews like I used to. I have an interview coming up and have a task to do ahead of it. The old me would have finished the task as soon as I got it, but I'm struggling to motivate myself to do it.

I used to also be good at remembering things but now my brain has become like a sieve particularly when it comes to work related things.

Has anyone else found themselves in this situation? If so how did you come out of it?

I think a lot of people get in this situation.

You have stagnated, you realise that but are too afraid to stir the pot. Too comfortable. It will be a risk to walk away from your job and get something completely different, but that's what you need to fire up that enthusiasm again. This happens to so many people, and even if they lose their job they just go on benefits or retire. It's just them being lazy, rather when someone has spent many years in a job they become highly specialised. The older they become, the narrower their range of skills, and the more unemployable they become. So, anyway, the only answer is to shift career. You just need to courage to do it or you will spend the rest of your life wasting your life. Getting paid to be horribly bored.
 
A lot of modern jobs and workplaces are the death of thousand check boxes. Once you switch jobs a few times you realize finding a job that isn't is less common then you think.
 
A lot of modern jobs and workplaces are the death of thousand check boxes. Once you switch jobs a few times you realize finding a job that isn't is less common then you think.

Very true.

Same about being a "job hopper". Was probably looked down on 20, 30 years ago but now. Most companies don't care considering they can just lay you off after 12 months.

"Job for life" isn't a thing anymore.
 
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Very true.

Same about being a "job hopper". Was probably looked down on 20, 30 years ago but now. Most companies don't care considering they can just lay you off after 12 months.

"Job for life" isn't a thing anymore.

Yep, loyalty goes both ways. Employees are treated like crap in most companies now, especially the foreign owned ones. They don't care, so don't care back.

Years back I had one employer just keep extending my probation to avoid giving me the full benefits and a pay rise. That worked against them when I ****** off to a better job with no notice. It was only a 3 man team and it cost them their biggest contract.
 
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Well I didn't get the job. Asked for feedback but got none.

You're right that I am stuck in a rut and that's a big part of the problem. I'm easily bored and should be a job hopper but I don't get the job offers that enable me to be one. My time at the advertising agency taught me to never stay at the same company for too long. I applied that logic when starting the job I'm in now, I didn't mind the job in the beginning but decided to give it 18 months and then start looking for something else. I did just that after 18 months in the hope I'd be gone before my 2 year anniversary but it's not happened. It was some point between 18 months and 2 years that the stuck in a rut feeling started to set in.
 
No comment on the ChatGPT, but FYI Overclockers is a computer forum :)

Interestingly if you DuckDuckGo "UK Careers Forum" then OcUK is the 6th result, and 5th on Google.

Mumsnet
Reddit
TheStudentRoom
CareerForum
etc.

are all above OcUK, but interestingly our little computer forum ranks up there on the first page. Often wondered how we get some many new accounts seemingly asking out-of-the-ordinary (i.e not computer related) questions as their first posts. More you (and I) know I guess.
 
Well I didn't get the job. Asked for feedback but got none.

You're right that I am stuck in a rut and that's a big part of the problem. I'm easily bored and should be a job hopper but I don't get the job offers that enable me to be one. My time at the advertising agency taught me to never stay at the same company for too long. I applied that logic when starting the job I'm in now, I didn't mind the job in the beginning but decided to give it 18 months and then start looking for something else. I did just that after 18 months in the hope I'd be gone before my 2 year anniversary but it's not happened. It was some point between 18 months and 2 years that the stuck in a rut feeling started to set in.

Sounds like you just need a bit of encourage and confidence to go try other things.
 
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