Manager has upset wife how should she respond?

Greebo · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:16

God people are so soft nowadays. SO a frustrated manager who has just seen his time and all the people attending wasted got angry and shouted a bit but then calmed down.

rojones · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:17

RaohNS said:
Shouting at staff is not the way. HR is the way she needs to go to put in a grievance.

Shouting isn't acceptable no matter what the situation is. If she lets this one slide he will no doubt continue in the same manner when future issues occur. Get HR involved straight away to put him in his place and he wont be doing that again in a hurry.

StriderX · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:18

Conference call his letterbox.

SPG · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:21

Tell her to go to HR and demand some sensitivity training for herself.

No wonder the world is collapsing around us.

Mr Badger · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:23

Assuming he doesn't have an office with a door and letterbox, find his desk and leave deposit in his In tray.

SPG · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:23

rojones said:
Shouting isn't acceptable no matter what the situation is. If she lets this one slide he will no doubt continue in the same manner when future issues occur. Get HR involved straight away to put him in his place and he wont be doing that again in a hurry.

Nothing wrong with shouting at the workplace. She drop a clanger.

People need to start owning up to there failures instead of hiding behind a thin vale of HR.

tom_e · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:24

peige said:
I love how everybody assumes every company has a HR department

Every company should have a grievance procedure whether they have a dedicated HR department or not.

CREATIVE!11 · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:24

If a manager yelled at me I wouldn't care.

Just be like "why u mad tho brah?"

Destination · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:30

Tummy said:
Lack of internal communication; and an honest mistake, does not warrant being shouted at.

What exactly is an honest mistake?
I hate that term.
A dishonest mistake surely isn't a mistake but is deliberate.
There is no such thing as an homest mistake, it is a mistake.

In this case, she made a mistake, but in moving rooms, she has made the mistake. The big room was booked for its features, she moved it without checking. Is her job to organise these rooms? If so moving people around without actually speaking to the person who booked her is neglecting her duties.

She made the error.
The manager is not happy.
Now what, she is unhappy she was shouted at?
Great. no one is hapoy when they are shouted at.
Doesn't fix either issue.

gord · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:30

Has anyone suggested getting a new wife yet?

Raumarik · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:31

Poop in an envelope, send it internal post.

Destination · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:32

tom_e said:
Every company should have a grievance procedure whether they have a dedicated HR department or not.

Yes and should the manager bother to counterclaim that a large contract was lost due to the OPs wife's neglicance, then the grievance procudure will result in her being sacked, for gross neglicance.

Great advice.

arc@css · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:33

I think at this stage it really depends on how things are generally run there. If she feels that a polite but firm word with the git will help, then that would my first port of call.

boycey321 · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:40

gord said:
Has anyone suggested getting a new wife yet?

If i had a wife who rung me up because she messed up at work, annoyed the boss who raised his voice at her then THIS is what i'd do. I mean seriously she cry's because someone shouted at her :confused:

I'd understand if she felt abit down or annoyed by the situation but... senisitive much :rolleyes:

Ryan-3 · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:43

Cosimo said:
No point in making a fuss, lesson learnt, always check with bookings and no point in making a fuss. She'll get over it.

This. The **** up has been done and now is the time to rectify it.

If she feels the manager has spoken to her wrongly then report it for the way he spoke to her. But if it was just a "WTF you doing!?" then move on.

tom_e · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:44

Hikari Kisugi said:
Yes and should the manager bother to counterclaim that a large contract was lost due to the OPs wife's neglicance, then the grievance procudure will result in her being sacked, for gross neglicance.

Great advice.

I didn't say she had to use it.

gord · 26 Jul 2016 at 16:54

boycey321 said:
THIS is what i'd do

If Marlene rang you up in tears I actually think you'd be very supportive.

agnes · 26 Jul 2016 at 17:15

Honestly? Is your wife easily upset/offended? Does she often run to you when someone shouts at her? If so, she needs to grow up and fend for her self.

If she's crying in the office because someone in a superior position had a (rightfully so by the sounds of it) go at her asking her to check next time and not make the same mistake. Then she needs to step down from the job.

Ocean Breeze · 26 Jul 2016 at 17:27

Don't mess with other people's plans without checking with them first. Fairly obvious I would have thought.

If I was him I would be quite angry but I wouldn't have shouted.

Drollic · 26 Jul 2016 at 17:30

Petrol bomb.