Manners

TheBDog · 22 Apr 2016 at 16:58

People are ****s. This is what you learn.

Also, you are a people. And probably have had days when you're feeling like you want to be less than polite. So consider that too.

Also, people on the Tube in London + politeness is like dividing a number by 0. If one met the other the universe would implode.

Avenged7Fold · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:01

I think its more impolite to shove your face with food on a busy tube than it is to not make eye contact and say thank you. Sandwich or crisps is fine but laying out a full kebab when tis shoulder to shoulder standing is not right!

I loved that name and shaming group 'women who eat on tubes' on facebook, hilarious concept.

mrk · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:04

Avenged7Fold said:
Agree.

Wasn't there that thread the other day which was pretty much the opposite of this thread, with people saying that being polite when there is no gain makes you look weak.

Oh? Whoever says that is a Class A idiot

wnb · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:07

Roar87 said:
I think it's because you live in London

This, I had the 'bright' idea to nip into London when we were going to down south to go to Lego Land. I'ts noisy, stinks and in my opinion far too many ignorant people.

My son who was 7 at the time was knocked off his feet by an idiot running for the tube. Why run when there is a tube every couple of minutes?

datalol-jack · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:11

mrk said:
Oh? Whoever says that is a Class A idiot

GD, contradicting narratives of human interaction -- never! :eek:

AHarvey said:
just shout "YOUR WELCOME!" like I do!

Technology hasn't helped, idiots shutting themselves away in their phones and mp3 players ignoring everyone around them. Drives me crazy. My eldest is 4 and has excellent manners and gets pulled up if she doesn't use them.

howiepoohs said:
Manners maketh the man. They cost nothing, etc.

I too hate rude or just ignorant fools. Next time try slamming the door in their face.

I usually do this too but I say "You're welcome."

I leave my welcome at the door, thank you.

StoutMeister · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:25

HecFam said:
The thing that annoys me the most is when ordering things, people say can i get.

"Erm, can i get a Burger please?"

Sure mate, just walk round the counter and go get yourself one.

"Please may I have..."

Yes, you can have. Thank you for ordering.

Bloody people.

I say chappie, your wife is quite the looker..
May I have the pleasure of intimate carnal knowledge of the good lady, and perhaps coital delight, if you please?

McBain · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:28

That's Londoners for you, some of the very worst manners you're likely to come across. People are obviously too busy to acknowledge such things.

No1newts · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:33

Hate the rude and the ignorant, manners cost nothing at all and it is basic common decency. It really irritates me.

EGuitarStar · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:37

As others have mentioned, Londoners do have very bad manners.

I'm one of the good mannered folk that live in this city.

joeyjojo · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:38

ScarySquirrel said:
Not as bad but I also don't like it went people order stuff by saying "I'll get...", "Get me....", or "I want....". Just feels rude to me.

HecFam said:
The thing that annoys me the most is when ordering things, people say can i get.

That one started in the 90s because of Friends from what I can tell. :mad:

Most North Americans will order with "I'll get..." or (if they're being polite) "Can I get...", even Canadians who are proud of their politeness.

opstrat · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:41

joeyjojo said:
Most North Americans will order with "I'll get..." or (if they're being polite) "Can I get...", even Canadians who are proud of their politeness.

generally when i'm in a bar or restaurant the question i am asked is "what can i get you" in which i reply "can i get". not sure if that's polite or not but meh.

joeyjojo · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:45

opstrat said:
generally when i'm in a bar or restaurant the question i am asked is "what can i get you" in which i reply "can i get". not sure if that's polite or not but meh.

Good point. Thinking about it, "can" isn't even the right word, at least it should be "May I get".

"May I get a beer please?"

Or how about:
"What can I get you?"
"A beer, please."

Simple enough.

opstrat · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:50

joeyjojo said:
Good point. Thinking about it, "can" isn't even the right word, at least it should be "May I get".

"May I get a beer please?"

Or how about:
"What can I get you?"
"A beer, please."

Simple enough.

aye true, but in glasgow your lucky to get "what can i get you" its usually whit ye wantin.

something daft already!! · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:55

It should be "May I have..."

datalol-jack · 22 Apr 2016 at 17:57

joeyjojo said:
That one started in the 90s because of Friends from what I can tell.

Most North Americans will order with "I'll get..." or (if they're being polite) "Can I get...", even Canadians who are proud of their politeness.

You can 'May', but you'd be considered a tad formal, obsequious or old-fashioned. Neither is wrong though in either dialect or here.

OED explains: http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/words/can-or-may-american.

And no, ordering a greasy burger in Macky-Ds isn't a formal context!

ThundyCat · 22 Apr 2016 at 18:02

dirtybeatfreak said:
ughh, people seem to have forgotten how to eat properly! So many people I notice who eat really noisily, talk with food in their mouth and no one bats an eyelid. I might well be a miserable git but it winds me up and I can't seem to understand how people can just ignore it lol.

I have a guy who sits opposite me at work.......sounds like pigs eating at their trough. He forever speaks to customers with his mouth full.

It's just grim. :mad:

Reeve · 22 Apr 2016 at 19:01

I actually don't care in the slightest if people don't say thank you when I let them go first but i guess i'm in the minority. The way i see it, if it doesn't affect me physically why should i care?

What I do care about is when by peoples ignorance or selfish attitude I'm put at a disadvantage and this seems to happen all the time to varying degrees. This morning for instance I was waiting for the people on the tube to disembark before boarding, it was that packed that there was only space for one. I always wait an extra second or so to make sure nobody is coming off before I get on. In that extra second some guy who only just turned up on the platform took the remaining spot. By my positioning he would have known I was waiting to board, he just didn't care.

mattyfez · 22 Apr 2016 at 19:13

I got tutted at by a woman when boarding the tube a few days ago, she was trying to push past me as I let people get off and I didn't move out of the way..

Also people trying to get on trains when people are still disembarking.. Just why?

Stev · 22 Apr 2016 at 20:00

im finding the older people the worst tbh, nothing better than a geriatric with an attitude

JLarks · 22 Apr 2016 at 20:59

My biggest pet peeve is holding a door open with people not even acknowledging you or saying thanks.

I would love to ask those people why they don't feel there is a need to say thanks? Do they not see it as being rude?!