I've been married for 9 years but I find that a huge amount of my friends aren't married and never want to get married cause they don't see the point. Personally, i like being married and it's about making a commitment to each other but i just wondered if anyone here has decided to never get married and if so, why ?
Marriage - pointless ?
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I will get married in the future. Most likely anyway (the future's not certain etc).
What I don't see the point in is people who stay in relationships for their entire lives and DON'T get married.
EDIT: Soon to follow some reasoning, too tired atm
What I don't see the point in is people who stay in relationships for their entire lives and DON'T get married.
EDIT: Soon to follow some reasoning, too tired atm
I wanted to have kids.
Having kids and not being marrried is a mine field.
Also before we were married my wife was seriously ill and that too was a pain as I wasn't considered as family. Basically the family were asked if it was alright for me to be there which really bugged me.
There are loads of other practical things which I can't think of. Also it means you are less likely to stray as getting a divorce isn't easy.
Our wedding was a great day as well great fun.
Can't really think of why you wouldn't want to marry your life partner.
Having kids and not being marrried is a mine field.
Also before we were married my wife was seriously ill and that too was a pain as I wasn't considered as family. Basically the family were asked if it was alright for me to be there which really bugged me.
There are loads of other practical things which I can't think of. Also it means you are less likely to stray as getting a divorce isn't easy.
Our wedding was a great day as well great fun.
Can't really think of why you wouldn't want to marry your life partner.
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When she stiff you for half your money, the house and custody of the kids AFTER cheating on you behind your back?
No such a thing as pre-nup in this country !!! It could happen and it has !
My aunt and uncle are unmarried.
They have 2 "kids" one 20 and one 18 and they have turned out good normal people
Ive never actually asked them why they chose to live this way but it seems to have worked out ok for all involved.
I would like to think i would get married one day but it wouldn't break my heart if my partner was against it (for tax reasons)
They have 2 "kids" one 20 and one 18 and they have turned out good normal people
Ive never actually asked them why they chose to live this way but it seems to have worked out ok for all involved.
I would like to think i would get married one day but it wouldn't break my heart if my partner was against it (for tax reasons)
I wanna get married, Who knows, maybe in few years if things go well
Its a sign of comitment and the thought is a nice one of bringing 2 people closer together
Pluss if you have kids and your not married they are *******s(born out of wedlock) 
Its a sign of comitment and the thought is a nice one of bringing 2 people closer together
Pluss if you have kids and your not married they are *******s(born out of wedlock)
the goverment needs to bring back the married couples tax relief to encourage more marriages again.
the problems I can see without marriage are
1 - future generations of children wont know their roots / family... bring on the 11 toe familys
2 - with marriage its less easy for people to walk away from partners / children / commitments
3 - Custody of children or assets after death is easier to handle (look at the Anna nicole smith case at the moment), if she was married to howard stern then this probably wouldnt be such a big case
Also I'm lead to believe that if you co-habit with a partner and they can prove they have paid their share of the bills etc (3 months or so) they can still take a fair share of your money / property if they walk out on you / you on them, so no-marriage doesnt mean your safe
the problems I can see without marriage are
1 - future generations of children wont know their roots / family... bring on the 11 toe familys
2 - with marriage its less easy for people to walk away from partners / children / commitments
3 - Custody of children or assets after death is easier to handle (look at the Anna nicole smith case at the moment), if she was married to howard stern then this probably wouldnt be such a big case
Also I'm lead to believe that if you co-habit with a partner and they can prove they have paid their share of the bills etc (3 months or so) they can still take a fair share of your money / property if they walk out on you / you on them, so no-marriage doesnt mean your safe
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Marriage is a religious and legal procedure, the true proof the pudding of commitment is actually staying together (it is easy to get divorced nowadays anyway).
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im 19, i have a child, 3 months old, my GF wants to get married but im still not 100% sure on it, weve talked openly about it but when i hum and ha she gets annyoed, weve been together for nearly 2 years
when i was younger 15ish i always said no kids and no marriage but look what happened
when i was younger 15ish i always said no kids and no marriage but look what happened
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g/f hates attention so doesn't like the idea of marriage....
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I have been married 10 years now and can say it was the best decision I ever made.
I'm getting married in the next couple of months, for the reasons outlined above.
Legally, you are far safer being married. If I were to die, everything runs much more smoothly.
Plus it's a sign of commitment, yes families can get away with not being married but it's supposed to be the biggest, most important day of your life. Showing to the world that you want to spend the rest of your life with that one person.
Oh, and I don't want ******* children
Legally, you are far safer being married. If I were to die, everything runs much more smoothly.
Plus it's a sign of commitment, yes families can get away with not being married but it's supposed to be the biggest, most important day of your life. Showing to the world that you want to spend the rest of your life with that one person.
Oh, and I don't want ******* children
I feel I'm too young to get married. The idea of it seems a bit weird, its an almost archaic religious ceremony, yet I can see that it would be nice to think you can live with someone for the rest of your lives. However, the simple truth is people change, and feelings change. If you love someone now, yet in 30 years time you just want to be friends, marriage can kinda complicate things.
