Maternity leave query

Leprechaun312 said:
there is a difference between being ill and not being able to attend work but still going to a party and being off on maternity leave, attending a party for one night and hiring a babysitter.
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This - in fact it would probably do her some good to be able to relax for a couple of hours!
 
If someone invited me to any work related thing while I was on leave I'd tell them to sod off.

Anyway, I suppose it is up to the discretion of the team, I've known people to do meals and stuff on their days off before. It's odd to me because I don't like to get friendly with the people at work, makes it harder to be objective, but whatever floats your boat.

Perhaps speak to the team?
 
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AJK said:
You don't "stand" anywhere, unless invitations to work parties (or whatever kind of event this is) are contractual at your company... sounds like her boss is being a bit weird about it, otherwise he/she would have contacted her directly, but unless she wants to go back and ask why she's been uninvited I don't see what you think you can do?



Not inviting somebody on leave to an optional work event != discrimination.
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Though i agree with you on some points. Its not optional its part of the working day for all staff, and where it falls on a non-working day for some staff they have been asked to come in anyway.
 
I would attempt to contextualize this by watching something like mavity, or the Sky at Night. Realise that in the grand scheme of things it means almost nothing, and then forget about it and move on with life.
 
robjf said:
Though i agree with you on some points. Its not optional its part of the working day for all staff, and where it falls on a non-working day for some staff they have been asked to come in anyway.
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Fair enough, but still - your fiancée is on an extended period of legally protected leave. It would be completely inappropriate (illegal) for the office to require her to break her leave for such a day, and if they've decided that she doesn't have to attend, then she doesn't have to attend.

Honestly, this isn't a legal issue - just tell her what you've been told and if she feels strongly that she wants to go, tell her to get in touch with her boss and ask if she can still come. I'm just saying I can't see any "legal" standing for her to say that she must be invited.
 
Beerbaron said:
She is on leave so why would she be invited. If she can attend that then she should be back working.
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Well with a 6 week old baby I would disagree with that, but I understand where you're coming from.

It turns out there has been a misunderstanding and though she is welcome to come, they didn't intend on formally inviting her as her boss didn't think she was allowed to get in contact with her (definitely BS), then the messenger misinterpreted that and relayed it that she was uninvited.

I struggle to recognise where i should get involved and where i shouldn't while she's on mat leave, but this is only the case as I know how poorly her boss treated previous staff on maternity leave.

Thanks for the brief discussion any way :)
 
AJK said:
Fair enough, but still - your fiancée is on an extended period of legally protected leave. It would be completely inappropriate (illegal) for the office to require her to break her leave for such a day, and if they've decided that she doesn't have to attend, then she doesn't have to attend.

Honestly, this isn't a legal issue - just tell her what you've been told and if she feels strongly that she wants to go, tell her to get in touch with her boss and ask if she can still come. I'm just saying I can't see any "legal" standing for her to say that she must be invited.
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It only got on my wick because they had a discussion about these days before she went on leave (before the event itself came to be) that she would like to use her KIT (keeping in touch) days for these events and as such is happy to be contacted to make her aware of them.
 
Mr.Stu said:
I would attempt to contextualize this by watching something like mavity, or the Sky at Night. Realise that in the grand scheme of things it means almost nothing, and then forget about it and move on with life.
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Actually lol'ing in the middle of my office for having read this. :D
 
tbh it sounds like something which your mrs needs to get in touch directly with her boss. acting as a middle man and her boss speaking to you through someone else is only going to prolong/confuse matters
 
Does your company have a fair treatment policy? Ours does and being excluded is considered, by the company I work for, as a form of bullying.

Maternity leave is a bit different from being off sick, though sickness usually doesn't take 18 years to go.
 
robjf said:
It only got on my wick because they had a discussion about these days before she went on leave (before the event itself came to be) that she would like to use her KIT (keeping in touch) days for these events and as such is happy to be contacted to make her aware of them.
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Which is fine (and you could have put that in your original post!), but your employer really isn't doing anything wrong by saying "you know what, we don't want/need you to come in for this one".

Perhaps they think it's a waste of time/money paying for her to attend something that will be of no relevance when she does return to full time work?

Anyway. Get her to ask her boss.

[ Edit: actually, find out for sure if your information is accurate first! In all of this you're still dealing with some second- or third-hand information! ]
 
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My company would invite, and encourage those off to attend. They are still an employee, and it's important they still feel part of the team.
 
Sounds like the employer is being a little inflexible.

Has she done any other KIT days? If she isn't prepared to do KIT days then I could understand an employer not wanting to have a KIT day for the company jolly. They have to pay for KIT time, after all.

She should email or write in and say "We previously agreed that I would take a KIT day to cover activity X. As the time is now approaching, could you let me have the details so I can make arrangements. I would also like to discuss using X KIT days for Y purpose / I don't really want to work any other days, just the company jolly."

It isn't discrimination at all - she only has to attend if both her and the company agree. That's why it would be discrimination if the company forced her. They can't force her, she can't force them = no discrimination.
 
Why would she write that she previously agreed to KIT days, when no reference has been made to them at any stage in the Op or subsequent replies?
Write a lie in a letter to her employer while on leave?
Doesn't sound the best idea.
 
Hikari Kisugi said:
Why would she write that she previously agreed to KIT days, when no reference has been made to them at any stage in the Op or subsequent replies?
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Reading fail :p

robjf said:
It only got on my wick because they had a discussion about these days before she went on leave (before the event itself came to be) that she would like to use her KIT (keeping in touch) days for these events and as such is happy to be contacted to make her aware of them.
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