Middle aged life

[Goodie]

Get outta that job, immediately.

Looking for a pivot point to move towards but a background of consultant exercise physiologist and healthcare management doesn’t really lead to many avenues.

Or were you referring to fatherhood

 

[Mr Badger]

Apparently its a syndrome, worrying so much about dying that you forget to live.

The troubling rise of longevity fixation syndrome: ‘I was crushed by the pressure I put on myself’

This unofficial diagnosis describes the anxiety-driven, compulsive obsession with living as long as possible. While it might seem healthy to monitor your diet, exercise and biomarkers, it can come at a huge emotional cost

www.theguardian.com

So chaps and chapesses dont overdo the exercises and underdo the calories and the fun things to excess. You may die anyway from an unconnected issue to your health. Like a plane/train/car crash or a drive by which is out of your control entirely.

Have fun and relax.

Or as they used to say:

Spoiler

 

[Hagar]

Or as they used to say:

Spoiler

No not really, im not going to encourage smoking. However extreme caution aiming to extend life at the expense of enjoyment is equally crippling IMO.

 

[regulus]

Goodness, this is so me.

I'm 45 (46 this year - I cannot cannot cannot believe it), and I'm more into gym, fitness, sleeping and health than ever. There's no conceivable version of me at any younger age that's fitter, stronger and healthier. I help coach my daughter's touch rugby team and one of the mum's quipped that she's never seen a 50yo move like I do Cheeky sod

I'm consciously staying away from tracking more biomarkers because I know it will be an obsession, and I don't have time for any more of those.

And then there's the general listlessness of life. My current big obsession is clearing the mortgage (November the 12th this year), so I spend hours a week, trying to find clever little tricks and ways to bring the date forward. I've said to my wife that I will really miss it when it's gone. But I also feel it's holding me back in a way. Like I cannot move on to potential other things with that hanging around my neck. It's probably not the case at all, but that's how I see it.

Travel is like .... Meh. It's a pain traveling anywhere from NZ, but if we don't do that, what else are we doing?

We have this beautiful, comfortable, rich, stress-free life, constructed meticulously and on purpose. Some days I think it might be fun selling it all and starting over. We've optimized relentlessly and make no missteps. In past lives I brought drama and misfortune on myself constantly through youth and tons of ignorance, but I suppose it gave me something to wrestle with or wrestle out from under.

Any changes will have to be small and gradual. I've seen two spectacular destructions of lives from ex colleagues, due to the same thing. Guys that suddenly woke up one morning, found themselves on the wrong side of 45 and started panicking. There were sports cars, vineyards and younger women involved. I'm not going down that road.

 

[Mr Badger]

No not really, im not going to encourage smoking. However extreme caution aiming to extend life at the expense of enjoyment is equally crippling IMO.

Well yes, ultimately life is all a balancing act. Although you can't completely control your health, you do have to decide on a point somewhere between eating/smoking/drinking/partying yourself into an early grave, with a tedious regimen of abstinence, exercise and raw vegetables at the other extreme.

Unless you are one of the lucky few, most of us have to work to pay our bills and provide for our retirement. Money gives you choices and neglecting this can lead to a grim old life. But all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy and no one ever said on their deathbed that they wished they had spent more time in the office.

 

[Penfold101]

sports cars, vineyards and younger women involved.

Epstein, is that you?

 

[adidan]

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Well yes, ultimately life is all a balancing act. Although you can't completely control your health, you do have to decide on a point somewhere between eating/smoking/drinking/partying yourself into an early grave, with a tedious regimen of abstinence, exercise and raw vegetables at the other extreme.

Quite. Look at the French, about 25% smoke to the UK's 10% and yet the same average life expectancy. Drink, diet and often underrated stress, it's all a balancing act.

Many factors, I think stressing too much can be just as damaging as not giving a damn what you do.

 

[regulus]

Having crushes on younger women (20-24) y/o's


Purely because your friends in their 40's all have kids, and people in their 40's have kids and no longer are as much fun.

and i am scared of kids, people with kids scare me

So, I am reverting back to wanting to hang around with, and have crushes on, younger generation people


Sorry

Its my inner self wanting to be young again

I dont care what people think, its none of their business

That's one thing that's changed for me. I find myself looking at older women now. I can't even say 20–24-year-olds look like kids to me; I simply don't look at them. They're just young people being young people

 

[regulus]

I'm 45. Main thing is to not put off living until retirement. I've had two close friends not make it past 40 (coincidentally the two most switched on people with golden retirement plans all laid out).

My main priority is not doing a job that sucks the life out of me. Which is why I'm doing my best to get my own game studio off the ground and not be beholden to idiots employers ever again. We'll see how that pans out.

Helps being financially secure. I could ***** some money on a Ferrari or Aston if I wanted to, but just having the financial independence to not work for extended periods if I choose to is far more useful.

This is me. Minus the game studio. Very cool btw.

It's funny to think I can buy an Aston and a Range Rover and still have enough money to comfortably not work for 5-10 years, depending on how flash I want to live.

That's one thing that has slowly changed for me the last 5 years. I'm not willing to tolerate BS from employers any longer. Thanks to be financially strong. I've seen way too many people living above their means or making dumb (for me) financial moves and then have to put up with nonsense at work due to needing the consistent income.

 

[Rroff]

That's one thing that's changed for me. I find myself looking at older women now. I can't even say 20–24-year-olds look like kids to me; I simply don't look at them. They're just young people being young people

I find in my 40s I'm looking at people with a lot more discernment as to whether I'd be interested in them and a bit more flexible older and younger within reason when it comes to age.

Between longer standing staff and Christmas temps who've been kept on we have a fair few girls in the 20-25 age range at the moment at work and been a few times it is quite apparent that it wasn't that long ago really they were teenagers playing with dolls kind of thing and I'm old enough to be their dad but a couple of them when I'm working with them or chatting on break, etc. it is easy to forget there is any age difference but then I see them interacting with other people and it is much more apparent how young they are.

One of them has been a great support over the last few months, when people who are older and I'd expect more responsibility from have let me down.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

e: nope, removed.

 

[moon man]

Just thinking how less tolerant I am with people now, I just don't take people's **** anymore and.constantly at the point of walking out at work, also the young lads who work here , their life is just gaming, that's all they talk about hour after hour.and what a rubbish decade to grow up in with the state of this country ( Moon man holds back due to fear of the hurty words police knocking on his door)
Ps I think I am turning in to Moan Man