Middle aged life

John J Sheridan said:
Wondering whether to keep working or retire (57) - I enjoy my job and it pays well but I feel like my life is just ebbing away. Don't think all this terrible weather has been helping me get out of depression :(
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go part time, step down your hours/days if you can. its a bit shift in life so having a transition period does help
 
LostCorpse said:
go part time, step down your hours/days if you can. its a bit shift in life so having a transition period does help
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Yeah I might see if that's possible - cut my hours or something.

I'd like to move away from this area as it's a **** all swearing must be fully starred out **** but wifes job is local.

I've been struggling with depression since I lost my mum - moved back from US to be closer to both parents and lost them both within 9-months of each other - since then not been great - some days you wake up and think "what's the point"
 
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John J Sheridan said:
Wondering whether to keep working or retire (57) - I enjoy my job and it pays well but I feel like my life is just ebbing away. Don't think all this terrible weather has been helping me get out of depression :(
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If I were in your position, I would retire tomorrow because I do not enjoy working and I have plenty of hobbies I would prefer to be doing.

So I guess it all boils down to are you happier at work or not at work. If you are happier when working, you may as well carry on.
 
John J Sheridan said:
Yeah I might see if that's possible - cut my hours or something.

I'd like to move away from this area as it's a ** but wifes job is local.

I've been struggling with depression since I lost my mum - moved back from US to be closer to both parents and lost them both within 9-months of each other - since then not been great - some days you wake up and think "what's the point"
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sadly the statistics are around 9-12months after some one passes :/
its never easy.
i cant really help other than point their is a way forward.
even if its writing a journal to your parents as you walk and run through your life, go to those places that have meaning, be it to you or them.

worst thing you can do is stop and not have a plan in place to keep your life structured and moving.
now's the time to plan for after work, what clubs, hobbies, activates, goals you want to do.
those will dictate cash flow requirements.
your still a young'en and do stuff while you can.
John Sheridan, always had a plan, even if that meant he had to be a phoenix.

i certainly wish i could retired at 57 or younger!

@modderators sorry missed the sweary
 
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49 here, turning 50 next NYE. Haven't had any sort of mid life crisis. Though I am now turning in a gym-bro a little bit after deciding to get fitter after my operation, which is odd given 10/20 years ago I would never have stepped foot inside one.

I do wonder whether I'm getting too comfortable in my life and need to try something new.
 
I'm 45. Main thing is to not put off living until retirement. I've had two close friends not make it past 40 (coincidentally the two most switched on people with golden retirement plans all laid out).

My main priority is not doing a job that sucks the life out of me. Which is why I'm doing my best to get my own game studio off the ground and not be beholden to idiots employers ever again. We'll see how that pans out.

Helps being financially secure. I could ***** some money on a Ferrari or Aston if I wanted to, but just having the financial independence to not work for extended periods if I choose to is far more useful.
 
found medical / health issues gave me a new perspective on exercise and Gym TBH.

now i'm working on getting the girl.. im just having a hard time visualising that..
John Sheridan hit me up for some life experience advise for women..
thats sort of my mid life crisis at the moment no partner and health, and few bro's
 
Buying a 4 series coup.

More specifically a 4 series diesel 2 litre coup.
 
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mid_gen said:
I'm 45. Main thing is to not put off living until retirement. I've had two close friends not make it past 40 (coincidentally the two most switched on people with golden retirement plans all laid out).

My main priority is not doing a job that sucks the life out of me. Which is why I'm doing my best to get my own game studio off the ground and not be beholden to idiots employers ever again. We'll see how that pans out.

Helps being financially secure. I could ***** some money on a Ferrari or Aston if I wanted to, but just having the financial independence to not work for extended periods if I choose to is far more useful.
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Yeah kinda similar situation.

Not putting off living until retirement is definitely a thing, last 2 weeks I hiked over 50 miles in Utah in Wilderness - one of the best things I've done for a long time (fine-art landscape photography is what I do as a hobby), but I definitely don't want to hold back - for me it's important to be busy and to be doing meaningful things.

I find spending time in nature whilst being fit, makes me the happiest of all.

GL with the studio.
 
BUDFORCE said:
Yup I agree with that, other than thinking about it a bit more, I've not made any life changes or any of that sort of thing.

Actually I started exercising a bit more, don't drink as much, but nothing major.

No sports car etc.

I do feel generally sorry for people obsessed with careers and making money, absolutely missing the point in my opinion, but each to their own I guess.
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The point of each persons life is relative to their own goas surely?
mid_gen said:
I'm 45. Main thing is to not put off living until retirement. I've had two close friends not make it past 40 (coincidentally the two most switched on people with golden retirement plans all laid out).

My main priority is not doing a job that sucks the life out of me. Which is why I'm doing my best to get my own game studio off the ground and not be beholden to idiots employers ever again. We'll see how that pans out.

Helps being financially secure. I could ***** some money on a Ferrari or Aston if I wanted to, but just having the financial independence to not work for extended periods if I choose to is far more useful.
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what happened to the couple that didn ‘t make it past 40?
 
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