Missing earlier years

Arcane · 3 Jun 2020 at 11:49

Freelance is a bit of a tricky one really, I work in advertising and done the freelance thing for a couple of years, they've basically got you by the proverbials, if you don't hang around after hours they simply won't get you back in. I found I was working longer and having less holidays as there'd be the constant implied threat of no future work if I didn't. It wasn't for me.

fobose · 3 Jun 2020 at 12:39

Yaayuh! said:
I decided that also, I’m only in my mid-30’s and been at the same company for almost 15 years, higher ups get arsey with me not working outside my hours.
Apparently I’m not a “team player” because I don’t do overtime or put in an extra hour after work with little notice.

Almost identical situation as me, apart from I will stay if it's paid overtime but I am often expected to stay for free and it is always mentioned when I don't. I stopped doing the whole staying for free about 9 years ago (been with the company 19 years this year). I live 6 miles from work so I am normally home at 3:40pm every day.

malachi · 3 Jun 2020 at 16:22

Yaayuh! said:
I decided that also, I’m only in my mid-30’s and been at the same company for almost 15 years, higher ups get arsey with me not working outside my hours.
Apparently I’m not a “team player” because I don’t do overtime or put in an extra hour after work with little notice.

Simple way of fixing that issue, take your skill set elsewhere.

Narj · 3 Jun 2020 at 19:44

I used to love just chilling with a book and enjoying a bit of escapism.

My attention span just seems to have gone out the window these days though, too many distractions and my brain is always going at a hundred miles per hour worrying about work or othe random crap

I think the pace of life feels a lot more manic now. I ditched my smartphone to help a bit but it's hard to just disconnect and unwind.

Yaayuh! · 3 Jun 2020 at 21:37

malachi said:
Simple way of fixing that issue, take your skill set elsewhere.

Oh indeed! However, job security is priority at the moment, so I’m not shaking things up until the world is back to at least relatively “normal”.

SexyGreyFox · 3 Jun 2020 at 22:15

Yaayuh! said:
I decided that also, I’m only in my mid-30’s and been at the same company for almost 15 years, higher ups get arsey with me not working outside my hours.
Apparently I’m not a “team player” because I don’t do overtime or put in an extra hour after work with little notice.

At one point during the early 90s my Manager bought my contract to me that I'd signed in 1980 saying I would do overtime if needed, I had to agree to do 1 hour over for a week

I did become a Manager and for about 2 years I had to go in on a Saturday morning for 4 hours once a month which was easy peasy and I was still home to watch football at dinnertime and go down the Stoke match.
In the last 12 years at the NHS it is 8:30 to 5pm, no overtime.
Forgot to mention that I also planned my life around 4 days a week.