Missing mum

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Vegetarian

Vegetarian

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My mum died just after Christmas a year ago. She was diagnosed with a rare fast acting cancer and died 8 weeks later.This is the first christmas without her and its a bit difficult. My dad has refused to see me since her death as he says he's too busy.
 
my nan passed away from cancer a few days ago and will be the first Christmas without her too :( , just have to look back at the good memories
 
That's terrible, I hope you can find something to help get you through it. My thoughts are with you.

In the meantime, grab a mince pie and have a chat here! We're a friendly bunch (unless you go into the gfx/motors subforum, don't!)
 
Such a shame to hear of your loses :( I've lost quite a few friends and family due to cancer. Horrible thing to happen.

My thoughts are with you all!
 
Try to remember the good times. It's very difficult to have to cope with a family death, especially at this time of the year. My thoughts are with you.
 
Although two years ago now, I lost my Dad exactly one week before Christmas and it just isn't the same, obviously. I feel for you fella but if you can talk to your friends, family or partner it will help to some degree. It sounds so lame sometimes to me but, 'Time is a great healer' and over time things do generally get easier. This allows you to keep things (life sequences) in perspective and to, eventually, move on. :)
 
Sadly, life is not a Hollywood Movie with happy endings, Xmas is and always will be a time when loved ones are missed the most, it's a bitter-sweet time of Year, remember the better times and don't dwell in misery, chin up people :)
 
Vegetarian we're all taking you down to the nearest virtual pub to cheer you up. I hope you're not spending xmas alone? But you know you're never alone on here? Best wishes to you.
 
my dad was diagnosed in august 09 with terminal adrenal/stomach cancer, they told him to have a good wedding anniversary (22nd November) and anything beyond that is a bonus, this will now be his second Christmas with cancer, albeit 6 stone lighter, but hes a fighter, to such an extent he may possibly be a candidate for a major operation in january, everything happens for a reason, and i believe it brings out the best in us.


im sorry for your losses, time really is a healer, when grandad died it hurt a lot, but time healed it, and if you remember the good memories, then when you think of them you can only but smile.
 
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Thanks for all the messages. Not spending it alone... Got married a few weeks before mum fell suddenly ill.

It Feels all very strange and lots of memorys of last year coming back
 
I feel your pain
I lost my mother on December 27th 1996 whilst i was on duty in Bosnia
i still take time every year to celebrate what she meant to me to this day.
I will not try and tell you time will ease the pain, all i will say is you will always remember them and try to honor them in a way they would like.

In my case she would have liked me to raise a glass and remember the good time we had together which i do and will continue to do for as long as i have breath and strength to do so.

Each of us will remeber the ones we have loved in our own way, and no one can tell you the correct way of doing so.

Im lucky and have a very understanding partner as each year i raise my glass to my mother i never stop at one, she is aware its the one time of the year that when she will have a better conversation from a 6 month old child and always forgives me for anything i may say or do.
However as i said celelbrate her Life in any way you see fit, whether that be sitting at home and have a quite day of contemplation, or in my case as my mother would have loved have a party, lots of fun and a good stiff drink or two.
Each person is different and would also like to rembered in different ways.
 
My Dad died 6 weeks ago aged 59. I miss him every day. I don't agree with xmas and never have. It makes people with family feel normal and people that havn't feel like ****. I don't really see what good comes from it.

I love life and I see xmas as a inconvenience. I'll think about dad more tomorrow but only because there will be less to keep me busy.
 
Its never easy dealing with loss, and being a family time Christmas always hits hardest, and losing a parent is never easy, especialy if it alienates the other. But you have to keep on going, and your Dad is bound to come back to you, he just needs time, and no doubt persistance.

Jcb33.
 
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