Moral Dilemma !

Theophany · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:28

Combat squirrel said:
im afraid there is nothing more to it than what is stated...
3) I am not friends with them, but acquaintances, they are friends of a good mutual friend of mine - a few times a year they are out with a large group I am also out with..............this would mean I would have to sit there and pretend all is fine
4) Following point 3 because we have a close mutual friend I know full well she is 'really into him' and 'loves him with all her heart', it's known that she adores him............this just makes me feel more uncomfortable and do an epic face palm because she's just getting walked over

Ah, so there is more to it then!!

You want your mutual friend to be with the gf because you think they'd be a better couple/happier together, right?

K-2 · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:29

anticonscience said:
Then why try to be the moral police?

You think telling her will make it all go away? It'll be a "You knew he was doing it" scenario.

I still think you secretly hold a candle for her, no matter what you say. Why else would you want to get involved. Doing the right thing, by who? Her? Ruining her life for someone she loves with all her heart?

Absolutely. What the OP seems to conveniently forget in all of this is that actions have consequences - and they're not always for the better. He may already have created a whole new set of problems in his mini intervention to date. God only knows what will happen if he changes his mind and goes full throttle with his meddling. Some people just don't know when to leave well alone. He comes across as a classic drama junkie desperately seeking his next hit.

Oh, and I still maintain he's probably got a thing for the dude...an allegation he's yet to deny.

antijoke · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:29

Combat squirrel said:
3) There is a long list of things to say why its wrong, he is also endangering her health as well, STI's etc...........however I think that is for another moral debate, the 'general consequences' of cheating debate.

Easy here tiger, he may strap it up before he slaps it up.

Johno please? · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:30

anticonscience said:
Then why try to be the moral police?

You think telling her will make it all go away? It'll be a "You knew he was doing it" scenario.

I still think you secretly hold a candle for her, no matter what you say. Why else would you want to get involved. Doing the right thing, by who? Her? Ruining her life for someone she loves with all her heart?

Why cant he just want to do the right thing? Why is that so hard for some people here to understand. :confused:

Oh no, he must have some hidden agenda!!!11111

If someone saw my GF cheating on me, I would want to be told.

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:32

Theophany said:
Ah, so there is more to it then!!

You want your mutual friend to be with the gf because you think they'd be a better couple/happier together, right?

Eh ? I honestly have no idea how you are still assuming there is more :confused:

lol

K-2 said:
Absolutely. What the OP seems to conveniently forget in all of this is that actions have consequences - and they're not always for the better. He may already have created a whole new set of problems in his mini intervention to date. God only knows what will happen if he changes his mind and goes full throttle with his meddling. Some people just don't know when to leave well alone. He comes across as a classic drama junkie desperately seeking his next hit.

Oh, and I still maintain he's probably got a thing for the dude...an allegation he's yet to deny.

Couldn't be more wrong, see previous post, I Have walked away before, I just had enough now he hasnt stopped.

anticonscience said:
Easy here tiger, he may strap it up before he slaps it up.

Still not 100% safe, and you can still get all sorts.

Combat squirrel · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:33

Johno please? said:
Why cant he just want to do the right thing? Why is that so hard for some people here to understand. Oh no, he must have some hidden agenda!!!11111

If someone saw my GF cheating on me, I would want to be told.

Thanks, I am having this confusion also, everyone is thinking there is something there to dig at ....... there really isnt, all is explained well and clearly in the previous couple of posts.

Atlas23 · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:35

AmyS said:
And why HAVE you taken photographs of him with other women? Does seem a little bizarre if she is just an acquaintance.

I just assumed he had a few for the ol' wonk bonk

86JR · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:39

I would tell her. But then that's what I am wired like, I don't really care about consequence when it comes to doing the right thing.

Again though what she doesn't know cant hurt her.

If you do tell her, even if you're being a hero, expect neither of them to like you ever again - the guy because you told her, the girl because you caused her pain or she doesn't believe you over him.

Theophany · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:42

Combat squirrel said:
Eh ? I honestly have no idea how you are still assuming there is more lol

Wait, I think I misread that the girl likes the mutual friend but is in a relationship with snake.

This thread is really confusing the everloving crap out of me now.

Atlas23 · 2 Oct 2013 at 14:46

YFW when snake and mrs snake are in an open relationship

Bromhead · 2 Oct 2013 at 15:33

Just sleep with her and send the photo to the guy.