Moving in with someone.

rosso5792 · 20 Mar 2011 at 15:45

When it feels ri- oh nvm

^TANK^ · 20 Mar 2011 at 15:47

4T5 said:
Isn't that called kidnapping ?

I never put up a struggle

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dowie · 20 Mar 2011 at 15:59

Am in the process of buying a nice apartment, a couple of girls I'm seeing on a fairly casual basis have suddenly become very interested & excited to help me choose furniture etc... I think I'd definitely want to be in a proper committed relationship for a few years before I'd ask someone to move in with me - am extremely skeptical of girls who suddenly become more interested in that way.

Tis a big step - its your place, you've paid for it etc.. having someone else move in who'll then want to change things had better be someone pretty damn special.

Morba · 20 Mar 2011 at 16:28

Dunks said:
Nothing?

I just can't imagine being engaged to someone after being together/seeing each other after 6 weeks, that's what, 5-6 dates at a push?

But it's obviously worked out with you guys, so why not

C.P said:
I think he badly phrased it.... 6 weeks after they moved in with each other which was 8 months into the relationship??

Nope, 6 weeks of knowing each other. Now married (7 years ish) with 2 kids.

Yep, sounds mad, I'll agree with that lol. For us it was right, for others it takes longer.

The main point of my post was 'when it's right' which can be sooner or later

Twentyone · 20 Mar 2011 at 16:29

When you are pretty much spending all your time at one place anyway, as if you officially did live together

At least then you know if the person would annoy you or not.

starfighter · 20 Mar 2011 at 16:31

If you are renting then just when it feels right and you think it will help your relationship. You should obviously know you like each other and already have spent a week together alone on holiday for example or just be with eachother all the time anyway.

I know people that live together after 6 months and some that have been together for years and not moved in.

Half the time it is due to personal circumstances it seems.

Kol · 20 Mar 2011 at 16:43

I moved in with my (now ex) gf about 9 months after being together. We were best mates for about 5 years before hand and spent everyday together anyway. We only moved in because I was moving away with work so it seemed the right thing to do. We lived together then for about 2 years.

Now I live with a mate and the freedom is superb. There are bonuses living with your Mrs but a few cons, naturally.

dal · 20 Mar 2011 at 16:57

If I had to put a time on it I'd say 6 months, without putting a time on it I'd say when you both dont mind farting in front of each other.

atpbx · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:05

Morba said:
Good work! Me and the wife have been together for 10 years, we were engaged within 6 weeks and living together from about 8 months

My wife and I moved in together with in a week of meeting each other.

vicisthebest · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:09

atpbx said:
My wife and I moved in together with in a week of meeting each other.

Wow, that must've been an intense week!

Can't imagine doing that at all! Had you spent all week together doing the whole staying-up-all-night-talking thing and finding out everything about each other or did you learn as you went along?

How long have you been together now? I think that's fab

Street · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:17

dal said:
without putting a time on it I'd say when you both dont mind farting in front of each other.

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly two years and I fart infront of her all the time.. I haven't asked her to move in yet!

I've been living with other people for the last 10 years of my life, I've had my own place for a year now and I enjoy the freedom, don't want to ruin it just yet!

Gackt · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:22

When you have ascertained whether she is mental or not.

atpbx · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:42

vicisthebest said:
Wow, that must've been an intense week!

Can't imagine doing that at all! Had you spent all week together doing the whole staying-up-all-night-talking thing and finding out everything about each other or did you learn as you went along?

How long have you been together now? I think that's fab

Been together 4 and a bit years now, got married a year after we got together.

Dont remember a lot of staying up and talking, we just got on really well, had a lot of laughs.

We still have a lot of laughs, sometimes people just click.

vicisthebest · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:45

atpbx said:
Been together 4 and a bit years now, got married a year after we got together.

Dont remember a lot of staying up and talking, we just got on really well, had a lot of laughs.

We still have a lot of laughs, sometimes people just click.

Me and him-indoors moved quite quickly (I thought) - I love you's after 2 months, first foreign holiday booked after 3 months, went after 5 months, decided to move in together after 7... but nowhere near as lightning fast as you!
I know what you mean about clicking. I've got that too

^TANK^ · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:49

Gackt said:
When you have ascertained whether she is mental or not.

Whats that got to do with anything my other half is schizophrenic! Unless you mean a bunny boiler.

Morba · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:50

Yep, some people are lucky enough to find someone thats just right for them

Gackt · 20 Mar 2011 at 17:55

^TANK^ said:
Whats that got to do with anything my other half is schizophrenic! Unless you mean a bunny boiler.

Not medically mental. Woman-mental. I'm fairly certain everyone can think of an example, unless you've managed to have completely successful relationships. In which case, I congratulate you.

^TANK^ · 20 Mar 2011 at 18:05

Gackt said:
Not medically mental. Woman-mental. I'm fairly certain everyone can think of an example, unless you've managed to have completely successful relationships. In which case, I congratulate you.

This is actually the sanest relationship I have ever had strangely enough, the rest either tried it on with friends or were simply just twisted.

Randomface74 · 20 Mar 2011 at 18:56

twentyone said:
When you are pretty much spending all your time at one place anyway, as if you officially did live together

At least then you know if the person would annoy you or not.

This is the best answer.

[FnG]magnolia · 20 Mar 2011 at 19:44

When you realise that the drab, hollow existence which passes for your life is the best that you're realistically going to get until you die - this, this right here is when you accept that moving in with her can't make your joke of a life any worse.