Mums and their Sons, Fathers and their Daughters

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Why is that the connections listed above seem far closer than say Father/Sons or Mothers/Daughters.

What I really mean is relationship wise, when the kids get girlfriends/boyfriends. There seems to be a certain amount of protection there from the parents, and they're subconsiously assessing their kids partners suitability. Or at least it seems that way.

With my Mum and GF for example, i'm always nervous when they meet, as my mum isn't quite herself and the same thing for my GF. I want them to get along and not feel like i'm having to spur the conversation along. I'm getting even more nervous as we're all having a weeks holiday together in May :eek:. Ah well I'll guess we'll see, I'll just have to get them both tiddly :)

As for the GF's dad, I feel there's a similar sort of relationship, although I don't think I'm quite as nervous around her Dad as she is around my Mum.
 
Jumpingmedic said:
Paging Dr Freud. Dr Freud to GD.
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LOL at the snappy 1 liners today.

Maybe it is because the opposite gender has a better understanding of how their own gender works (i.e. Men - fornication :D ). Just a guess.
 
It's just Daddy's little princess and Mummy's little angel. You probably feel easier around her Dad as he's a bloke and so is easier to understand and relate to :p
 
My dad and boyfriend get on quite well, they share interests and i can leave them in a room together without them fighting. My mum really likes him and i get on well with his mum as well.
I know that they are weighing up my boyfriend for suitablity though, same as his parents do with me :p
 
cleanbluesky said:
Oedipus/ Electra complex

I kid ye not... I expect a swathe of detractors after this post, but its quite rational and normal if you understand it properly
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I really do disagree with this theory, mainly the idea that we are subconciously attracted to women similar to our mothers because we are attracted to them. Maybe its because the son is attracted to similar people to their father, meaning its got nothing to do with the mother at all? Which makes a lot more sense as it all comes down to genes not psyce which is different for everyone.

That what you wanted? ;)
 
Meh, the only one of my relationships that my parents never liked was my first wife. She was also the only one they never met. And for good reason.......
 
Mickey_D said:
Meh, the only one of my relationships that my parents never liked was my first wife. She was also the only one they never met. And for good reason.......
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Your parents never met your 1st wife? I bet that didn't go down too well. What did you do for the holidays?
 
I met my boyfriend's parents for the first time last weekend. Paul and his mum went to chat in another room and left me with his dad. What a sweetheart! We had a lovely time!

When we left Paul told me his mum had told him I'm too good for him! My poor baby!

I do tend to get on with almost everyone though.
 
Roberta said:
I met my boyfriend's parents for the first time last weekend. Paul and his mum went to chat in another room and left me with his dad. What a sweetheart! We had a lovely time!

When we left Paul told me his mum had told him I'm too good for him! My poor baby!

I do tend to get on with almost everyone though.
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YOUR too good for him? :p

hehe she can't have a very high opinion of her son.
 
I've not had proper experience of meeting a girls dad before due to single parents, but I do know that I can sort of get on with mums in a way, even though my first, her mum was bloody insane, like off her head insane and burped dead loud and kept trying to put me off her daughter, haha. idiot.
 
Murf said:
Your parents never met your 1st wife? I bet that didn't go down too well. What did you do for the holidays?
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I was in California, parents were in Washington state. First wife and I were only married from Feb 12th to Aug29th of the same year, so no missed holidays there!! :D

I was young and stupid at the time and married a girl without really getting to know her and that she was on Prozac. Then after the wedding she decided on her own that she no longer needed to be taking it.

Well, she no longer needed to be married to me, either. And that's the end of THAT story!! :D
 
Mickey_D said:
I was young and stupid at the time and married a girl without really getting to know her and that she was on Prozac. Then after the wedding she decided on her own that she no longer needed to be taking it.

Well, she no longer needed to be married to me, either. And that's the end of THAT story!! :D
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So what you are saying is that a woman can only stay with you as long as she is on Prozac?


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cleanbluesky said:
Oedipus/ Electra complex

I kid ye not... I expect a swathe of detractors after this post, but its quite rational and normal if you understand it properly
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Sorry to sound pokey, but how do you link the oedipus/elektra complex in with the op?
Amp34 said:
Maybe its because the son is attracted to similar people to their father, meaning its got nothing to do with the mother at all?
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tbh, thats just worrying. Although I'll agree that Freud's theory does have its faults, the idea of a conflict due to the parent of the opposite sex in a family does not hold true in many single parent families, meaning that Freud's theory of psychosexual development simply cannot work.
 
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Meridian said:
So what you are saying is that a woman can only stay with you as long as she is on Prozac?


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Heh, no. I meant to say that that PARTICULAR woman shouldn't have been on this side of the main doors of a sanitarium without her Prozac!! :p




But now that you mention it, it's probably a good start on how to maintain calm when around me. :D
 
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