My 4th-6th cousin is quite hot (family tree researching)

I wanted to do family research on my Dad's side, my Mum already does family on her side.

Turned out it's harder than expected. I attempted to do this after my Grandma passed away (our Grandad died before us kids were born). My Grandma left N.I, leaving behind some of her children (this we already knew), so these were my Dad's half siblings.

I tried to make contact with them but due to what my Grandma did they didn't want anything to do with us, so that's a dead end.

Then there's our Grandad who we never met, who turned out to not actually be our Grandad. Turns out my Dad has half Asian DNA but for some reason this was never mentioned by his Mum and his birth certificate has down the one we knew as Grandad (but he wasn't Asian).

So to summarise my failed attempt at a family tree. One side of the family who wants nothing to do with us and a Grandad we knew nothing about, no name, country, region etc... in the end I gave up trying.
 
Spacedeck said:
I wanted to do family research on my Dad's side, my Mum already does family on her side.

Turned out it's harder than expected. I attempted to do this after my Grandma passed away (our Grandad died before us kids were born). My Grandma left N.I, leaving behind some of her children (this we already knew), so these were my Dad's half siblings.

I tried to make contact with them but due to what my Grandma did they didn't want anything to do with us, so that's a dead end.

Then there's our Grandad who we never met, who turned out to not actually be our Grandad. Turns out my Dad has half Asian DNA but for some reason this was never mentioned by his Mum and his birth certificate has down the one we knew as Grandad (but he wasn't Asian).

So to summarise my failed attempt at a family tree. One side of the family who wants nothing to do with us and a Grandad we knew nothing about, no name, country, region etc... in the end I gave up trying.
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Can I suggest you try again on paragraph 3?

I say that because my late father has a long lost brother, whom we didn't know about till he died. My Mum is certain she received a "bizarre scam call" in the late 90s, 18 years before my father died, from a man saying he was his brother.

If only we knew what we knew now/time had passed to heal all wounds and all that jazz.
 
dLockers said:
Can I suggest you try again on paragraph 3?

I say that because my late father has a long lost brother, whom we didn't know about till he died. My Mum is certain she received a "bizarre scam call" in the late 90s, 18 years before my father died, from a man saying he was his brother.

If only we knew what we knew now/time had passed to heal all wounds and all that jazz.
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They won't change their mind. I was in contact with the wife of one of my cousins, as she was managing the DNA results. We talked and she tried to ask my Grandma's kids if they wouldn't mind sharing information but they resented her for walking out on them, and she didn't feel comfortable talking to me about the family tree herself as to not betray their wishes.

My Dad was born in 63, so she left them behind in N.I before then. I tried contacting them a few years back.

The only thing that makes me annoyed is how they are treating us the same way just because of what my Grandma did to them. I understand they are in pain but they can't see past the fact that I'm not her. None of them attended her funeral.

On the other side it got a little more muddy, when trying to find out who our Grandad was. One person I contacted was able to tell me a region in which all their family originated from but couldn't trace anyone specific back to the 60's as it could have been a few family members.

Another person couldn't help as sadly her mum was raped by an Asian man, so couldn't provide much info. So finding this out sort of asks the question in why my Grandma was so secretive about this. Did the same thing happen to her and she just kept quiet?

I don't feel any need to research anymore, especially not into the one we knew as Grandad from pictures as he wasn't a very nice person to my Dad growing up (which we believe now is due to him suspecting he wasn't his).

So yeah, my family tree is pretty broken :p
 
ltron said:
It's a good thing if they are dobbed in and put in prison so they can't murder anyone else.
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Hey now, he was kind to me. Best Christmas presents ever. No idea where he got the money from!
 
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