My Ex-girlfriend.

BennyC

BennyC

BennyC

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Not sure quite what to call this one, so hence the vagueness of the title.

I broke up with my girlfriend of a year and a half about 2-3 weeks ago.

To find out now, that she had just started seeing my best mate, the week that we broke up. Well she saw him once or twice, before we broke up, and then later that week we did. She didnt do anything with him. I cant describe how I feel at the moment.

I feel a bit sick, and have a minor case of the shakes. Supposed to be my best mate, and he was going out with my ex's best mate, until a few months back. N we were really good friends. we hadnt been talking as much anymore as our friendship groups were changing, n now i know one of the reasons why.

I was always paranoid of something like this happening, but my other friends convinced me otherwise. She appologised for it, but it doesnt remove the fact she did it. You could say im over reacting, as she didnt actually do anything with him, but it still hurts.

Just felt the need to get it out, before i explode with rage.

Benny C
 
Chrisss said:
What do you think this is, MySpace?
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my mum taught me if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing - great advice, i'd heed it

to the OP, same thing happened to me(ish), my GF of 2 years started sleeping with my best mate that I shared a house with, the anger I had for them at the time was truely unhealthy, I left the UK and moved to America to deal with the situation it was in reflection a very smart move the 'out of sight out of mind' therapy worked really well. To their credit it wasnt a flash in the pan fling and they are still going strong to this day, you might find it odd I'm glad for them but I'd rather they made something of the relationship given the amount of hurt they caused me.

Move on, but try to forgive them, lifes too short to carry hatred around.
 
Chrisss said:
And would you say that is the reason you turned into such a boring person?
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/sigh

you dont know me, and I doubt you ever will, your assumptions are based on a post in an internet forum - see any irony here?
 
cleanbluesky said:
In order for it to be called a stabbing, it has to create NEW holes
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what an interesting point you make! i was thinking in the side of the nostrils, creating a new nostril if you will...

failing that erm i dunno kick them in the whosits
 
Will Gill said:
my mum taught me if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing - great advice, i'd heed it

to the OP, same thing happened to me(ish), my GF of 2 years started sleeping with my best mate that I shared a house with, the anger I had for them at the time was truely unhealthy, I left the UK and moved to America to deal with the situation it was in reflection a very smart move the 'out of sight out of mind' therapy worked really well. To their credit it wasnt a flash in the pan fling and they are still going strong to this day, you might find it odd I'm glad for them but I'd rather they made something of the relationship given the amount of hurt they caused me.

Move on, but try to forgive them, lifes too short to carry hatred around.
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some useful advice. He had a messy break up with his girlfriend, and i was therefore him like a good mate is. He found it really hard to get over her. N i feel a bit betrayed really, for him to put me in the situation he was in. I feel like hitting him the next time I see him.

My relationship with my girlfriend at the time was on the rocks. and the week she saw him, she asked me if i still liked her, and she wasnt sure if she still liked me. She says he didnt influence her, but i cant hep but feel it did, even if she says it didnt.

Suppose ive found out who my real friends are. I could never bring myself to do what he's done, i'd never see anyone who was already spoken for, as it causes their partner this kind of hurt, that they dont deserve. I was nothing but a good b/f to her, never looked at a never girl, very trusting and all that, just a bit of a shock.
 
cleanbluesky said:
In order for it to be called a stabbing, it has to create NEW holes
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:D

The first thing I always check in these kinds of threads is how old the OP is. So how old are ya? If you're young, plenty more fish and all that, no need to be hung up when you're young. If you've a few years on you, you should know the score by now. Get over it, spend time with your mates, go out and have fun. And always remember the rebound can be a very dangerous place.
 
Benny06 said:
some useful advice. He had a messy break up with his girlfriend, and i was therefore him like a good mate is. He found it really hard to get over her. N i feel a bit betrayed really, for him to put me in the situation he was in. I feel like hitting him the next time I see him.

My relationship with my girlfriend at the time was on the rocks. and the week she saw him, she asked me if i still liked her, and she wasnt sure if she still liked me. She says he didnt influence her, but i cant hep but feel it did, even if she says it didnt.

Suppose ive found out who my real friends are. I could never bring myself to do what he's done, i'd never see anyone who was already spoken for, as it causes their partner this kind of hurt, that they dont deserve. I was nothing but a good b/f to her, never looked at a never girl, very trusting and all that, just a bit of a shock.
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be the bigger man about it, the old addage of 'you dont **** on your own doorstep' is a rule you should stick to even if 'they' can't, life is all about lessons, just learn from this one but dont go around expecting it to happen again you ;)
 
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