Never made a thread in here before so I'm hoping I don't get torn to pieces!
Basically, a really good friend of mine has decided she's leaving Uni with almost immediate effect. Her student house was broken into on Saturday night; they broke in through her bedroom window (fortunately she nor anyone else was in at the time), and took a fair amount of her stuff whilst leaving most of everyone else's things behind. I was on the phone to her hours after it happened (was one of the few people she knew would still be awake at 4am) and she was really shaken up by it.
Anyway, she went home the next day because she didn't feel safe in the house. Things had been going ok until yesterday afternoon, when she tells me that she's seriously considering quitting Uni. She's been quite unhappy with her course for a while now (we've spoken about it before, even while she was still in first year), and as she's said herself, this burglary has basically tipped the scales too far; she just doesn't want to be here anymore.
I told her that I'd be really sad to see her go as she's one of my best friends at Uni (and I don't have many of those), but that I totally understood why she'd feel this way and that I'd support her 100%. She said she appreciated that, and was glad I wasn't begging her to stay because it would have messed with her head too much. At this stage, she hadn't spoken to anyone else about it (aside from her Mum).
Later in the evening, she tells me she's discussed it more with her parents, made her decision and that she's told her housemates, but nobody else. She's leaving. Again, I told her I'll miss her more than anything but that she has to do what feels right for her, and only her. She hasn't spoken to her tutors yet nor does anyone else (aside from her housemates) know, so I'm having to keep this to myself for now as I promised I wouldn't tell anyone. It's one hell of a weight on my mind though.
Did I do the right thing? When she told me first she obviously trusted me more than other people she knows, which is really great of her (despite the unfortunate circumstances), and I'm not really one to play the "Oh please don't go!" game...but was she hoping I would? Like I said, I really don't want her to leave and I wish that damn break-in hadn't happened because she'd never be leaving if it hadn't. But I also feel that if she's not completely happy with where she is and what she's doing, she needs to sort that out in priority to anything else.
You'll have to bear in mind that most of these conversations were taking place over MSN...hardly the most ideal platform for discussion of that nature. But that's just how it was, I guess it was easier for her to do it that way.
It hasn't quite set-in yet. I'm not sure I want it to.
Basically, a really good friend of mine has decided she's leaving Uni with almost immediate effect. Her student house was broken into on Saturday night; they broke in through her bedroom window (fortunately she nor anyone else was in at the time), and took a fair amount of her stuff whilst leaving most of everyone else's things behind. I was on the phone to her hours after it happened (was one of the few people she knew would still be awake at 4am) and she was really shaken up by it.
Anyway, she went home the next day because she didn't feel safe in the house. Things had been going ok until yesterday afternoon, when she tells me that she's seriously considering quitting Uni. She's been quite unhappy with her course for a while now (we've spoken about it before, even while she was still in first year), and as she's said herself, this burglary has basically tipped the scales too far; she just doesn't want to be here anymore.
I told her that I'd be really sad to see her go as she's one of my best friends at Uni (and I don't have many of those), but that I totally understood why she'd feel this way and that I'd support her 100%. She said she appreciated that, and was glad I wasn't begging her to stay because it would have messed with her head too much. At this stage, she hadn't spoken to anyone else about it (aside from her Mum).
Later in the evening, she tells me she's discussed it more with her parents, made her decision and that she's told her housemates, but nobody else. She's leaving. Again, I told her I'll miss her more than anything but that she has to do what feels right for her, and only her. She hasn't spoken to her tutors yet nor does anyone else (aside from her housemates) know, so I'm having to keep this to myself for now as I promised I wouldn't tell anyone. It's one hell of a weight on my mind though.
Did I do the right thing? When she told me first she obviously trusted me more than other people she knows, which is really great of her (despite the unfortunate circumstances), and I'm not really one to play the "Oh please don't go!" game...but was she hoping I would? Like I said, I really don't want her to leave and I wish that damn break-in hadn't happened because she'd never be leaving if it hadn't. But I also feel that if she's not completely happy with where she is and what she's doing, she needs to sort that out in priority to anything else.
You'll have to bear in mind that most of these conversations were taking place over MSN...hardly the most ideal platform for discussion of that nature. But that's just how it was, I guess it was easier for her to do it that way.
It hasn't quite set-in yet. I'm not sure I want it to.
