My turn for a (pre?) Relationship thread

Morthoseth

Morthoseth

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Right, ive been working at this place for the last 6-7 months or so, and ive been down out of training for around 5 months, during which time ive obviously had contact with everyone else in the office.

There is this one girl, who i am actually quite fond of, and my problem right now is with myself wondering if she could possibly feel the same way.

Ok it all started with a chat at the photocopier (Romantic, eh?)

Since then, whenever i'd walk into the room she would turn and smile at me, and i would smile back - and vice versa for whenever she entered the room.

Time goes on to where we start emailing eachother quite a lot each day, just random chat even though we sit about 5 meters apart. (Telephony department, so we cant really get up and have a chat often), and i guess they could constitute as flirting, i mean - i'd ask her how her day was going, ask her if she had any plans tonight or at the weekend and so on.. and she is doing the same for me.

But hey, that could be classed as friendly conversation!

Now yesterday, she emailed me asking when i was going for lunch, i replied, and she asked me whether i would like to go to dinner with her and her friend, i of course said yes because i really like her, and am interested in her in general i guess it would be fair to say.

Did she ask me to go to lunch with them as a friend, or because she wanted to get to know me better but didnt want to ask me alone?

Am i reading too much into this?

Please advise relationship guru's, im 19 and havent had a girlfriend in a lot of years, i could say ive never had a 'propper' girlfriend, just from early on in secondary school.

Oli.
 
Just to add, because it probably sounded that way.. it wasnt to the canteen or something like that, we took about an hour, hour and a halff off and went to wetherspoons for lunch
 
Sorry, didnt make that clear either, she emaild me before lunch and asked if i wanted to go that day, i need to explain things better!

Well, it went ok, i mean - she is really chatty, and we got to know about eachothers interests a little better i suppose, it was nice, the food wasnt bad either :p

No definite vibes i'd say, although she acted more nervous than normal!
 
Well almost all replies have been pretty positive so far, which is a good sign :)

I'll hang around with her longer before asking her out or anything though of course, need to get to know her better, and we've had a good start.

I'll offer to buy her a drink this weekend and see how that goes
 
-gem- said:
ah, dont you just love meeting someone new and *potentially* exciting? :)
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Absolutely, work gave me my much needed kick into a social life, and im loving it

And whether i end up with her as a friend or a girlfriend, either way ill be happy (although admittedly happier if it was the latter) because she is an amazing person to talk to :)
 
Thats just it though eh!

Make a move / get accepted / Woohoo!
Make a move / get rejected / chance of friendship loss
Dont make a move / Never know what she would have said / good friend

I suppose i could regret it for a long time if i got stuck in the last bracket knowing it could have been something more.

Need more confidence first though, i think its safe to say im even scared of rejection :p
 
Absolutely yes, it is a no brainer, and if the way we interact with eachother continues as it is at the moment, im sure i wont hesistate.

Was just scared thus far as to whether i was reading too far into something which might not even be there if you know what i mean!

I appreciate your advice, and would like to say thanks for posting :)
 
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