Soldato
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Hey all.
I have read many relationship threads over the years and now the time has come for me to have one.
I am a little bit of a strange person and am currently in the process of being diagnosed with aspergers - In short, I worry a lot and have issues keeping friends. I am doing a PhD and am a hall warden so am on night time duty a fair bit, including some weekends.
Last summer I met an older woman. A 34 year old with two children (I was 23 at the time). To keep it short, it did not work as we did not see each other enough, and I was always on at her about the degree she was doing. I found that she had loads of free money through benefits and student loans and got quite annoyed with her when she dosses about and is badly failing as I know she could do it if she stopped peeing around. Three of her close family members are Jeremy Kyle Show material and are quite the wasters.
This last week I have been away with friends and she was there. We didn't talk a great deal. I have found it very difficult as I have strong feelings for her, yet have no desire to get back together with her as it just wouldn't work.
She is a kind hearted attractive woman who understood me, and not many people do, yet I found it hard to listen to all her family issues without making comment on them as they were quite extreme.
This is the first long term relationship I have had. It lasted 10 months and ended a month ago.
Just looking fo a way to cheer myself up really and discover the mistakes I made so I can learn from them
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I have read many relationship threads over the years and now the time has come for me to have one.
I am a little bit of a strange person and am currently in the process of being diagnosed with aspergers - In short, I worry a lot and have issues keeping friends. I am doing a PhD and am a hall warden so am on night time duty a fair bit, including some weekends.
Last summer I met an older woman. A 34 year old with two children (I was 23 at the time). To keep it short, it did not work as we did not see each other enough, and I was always on at her about the degree she was doing. I found that she had loads of free money through benefits and student loans and got quite annoyed with her when she dosses about and is badly failing as I know she could do it if she stopped peeing around. Three of her close family members are Jeremy Kyle Show material and are quite the wasters.
This last week I have been away with friends and she was there. We didn't talk a great deal. I have found it very difficult as I have strong feelings for her, yet have no desire to get back together with her as it just wouldn't work.
She is a kind hearted attractive woman who understood me, and not many people do, yet I found it hard to listen to all her family issues without making comment on them as they were quite extreme.
This is the first long term relationship I have had. It lasted 10 months and ended a month ago.
Just looking fo a way to cheer myself up really and discover the mistakes I made so I can learn from them

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