Need advice on sensitive issue....

shimy182 said:
take him to a psycologist.
make him scared of his obesity.
show him facts about what fat can do to you.
take photos of him and show them to him.

theres a lot you can do. and watch out for half minded diet, the rebound is what you should be scared of.
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Thought about that. but I think it would be better if a doctor did something similar, as I think a professional telling him in that kind of "hospital" enviroment, might have more of an effect on him.. its a good idea though, harsh but good, and i've got to face the fact that softly softly has gone far enough and it might be time to get down to earth about his future.
 
V-Spec said:
The thing he, he doesn't eat that much anymore, hes stopped cramming himself with food a few years back, as I said, most of the damage was done from an early age in terms of eating, the main problem is his lazyness, getting into bed at 6pm and doing nothing, whilst still eating allbeit a little more than a normal person, lets face it if I ate what he eats now, it would probably have little effect on me because im very active, the killer that he is so damn lazy..
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I'd be hesitant to believe that. Fat people burn calories like made due to all the extra maintenance and weight lifting their body has to do. Unless you watch him 24/7 or know for sure what he's eating I wouldn't be surprised to find out he's eating more than even he realises. Weight does not just build up then stay there if you stop over eating. It has to be maintained by something.
 
Liposuction!

Seriously, confront him and tell him what you think, at the end of the day, it is his body not yours.
 
im overweight. not to that extent but if people who i am closed to told me straight that i need to sort myself out i think i would.

just be tell him as it is
 
You have to confront him about his whole outlook.

Even if it means being harsh and asking if he plans to have a wife/kids, would he want to be around them as they grow up..etc

Whatever you do, keep trying to motivate him to show that you care about him and want to him to loose weight for his own good.
 
Firstly let me say that I think its great your so concerned about your friends health.

The problem is that the guy obviously knows he's got a problem. He only needs to look in the mirror, do up his shoe laces or try to buy a pair of jeans to realise that. Also in this day and age its a fact that he knows that by carrying that much weight around he's putting himself in an early grave. Taking your situation as an example it was when you decided enough was enough and you took action that the pounds came off and most importantly STAYED off.

Until your friend makes the same realisation you'll just be fighting a losing battle i'm afraid :(
 
Theres nothing you can do except offer your support. Unfortunately no amount of interventions or showing him how long he will last will make him do the work to lose weight.

He needs surgery to have a gastro bypass - theres no way he can do exercise if he's 30 stone and only 5 foot 6.

End of the day if he dosent want to change, no amount of prodding will do it.
 
Have you considered just dragging him to a doctor? Other than that, he needs to do some form of exercise and change his diet drastically. If he was eating small amounts in a day and then resting, I would more expect him to lose weight than be gaining.
If he is still living at home, then his parents really have to care. Find a way to make him realise what he is doing to his body, even if it's printing off news stories of obese americans dying young and having to be removed from their house with cranes.
Find a list of the problems associated with obesity, such as heart disease, organ malfunction, death... and make him look at them. Possibly make his parents look at them too. It's just disgusting that they could let their child get so fat :(.
 
A good way of losing weight is as simple as stop bloody eating!

I myself am on a mission to lose some weight. I am 6' and weigh around 16-17 stone. While this isn't terrible, i want to nip this in the bud and stop it before it gets worse.

The biggest impact on my weight has been cutting right down on HOW MUCH I eat. I still eat lots of junk food and take aways but I restrict myself to just 3 meals a day. Breakfast, Lunch and and evening meal. If I am hungry between meals I eat fruit. I have lost a fair amount of weight this way and the beauty is I am not restricted as to what I eat - like most diets.

Fortunately for me I love a massive variety of food so its not like I can't live without the crap, but it is nice to know I can have it without worrying.

The first step with your friend should be sorting out how much he eats. If he can stick to just three main meals a day and no snacking he will shed weight faster than a sinking hot air balloon.

It is such a massive boost to your self esteem when you realise that you are losing weight before you even start with the exercise. That's not to say he should sit on his arse all day still. He needs to find some way of getting at least an hour of hard work into his day. This can range from walking to lifting weights. I myself tend to walk and cycle to most places and I also do a lot of hiking when I can. I love hiking and so the associated hard work becomes less daunting.

That is basically the key to losing weight and keeping in shape. Finding a way of exercising that you enjoy. That and not eating more food than you need.

As others have said, this aint easy for anyone and it will take time. Keep pushing him. He lost a lot of weight before, he can do it again.

SiriusB
 
Personally i would get him on some kind of health plan, simplest way to lose weight is eating small portions of food regularly and just drinking a lot of water, basically like a detox, you'll see a change just by doing that. If he doesn't want to then just steel some money and buy his food for him :p maybe a bit extreme but ya know.

I would also take him out more often, rather then staying in his home all day maybe when you have a bit of free time take him to town, where you just walk around a lot, basically keeping active and not just bored and eating comfort food.
 
Nothing soft will work. Be as harsh as you can possibly be without risking him hating you forever.

Then FORCE him to consider his diet - make him realise he needs to control his calorific intake and get him to work out what needs to go.

It is going to be a long, hard slog for him but it can be done and with a little help and direction from his mates, he can do it.
 
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