Soldato
- Joined
- 27 Jul 2005
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UPDATE No 2 (I'm moving out!!)
Right, first off, the environment that I'm currently living in is my fault, I hold my hand up to that, I should have did better at school etc, although there are various confidence and self-esteem issues I've struggled with most of my life, was bullied a lot at school because of this and have generally found it hard to fit in whether I go.
Anyway, it has lead me to working in a low paid for that I'm not really happy with for nearly 17 years due to being scared of moving on, and also I have spent 10 of those years living in run-down shared accommodation, I currently live in a room with no wash basin, next to a jobless lady with a baby that's teething, two toddlers and a 17 year old daughter, and all that divides my room from hers is a piece of plaster board, it feels like they are living with me, baby crying 24/7, TV on from morning until night etc, it's a nightmare.
I live in a room in the ground floor, my landlord moved in an old friend of his into a room on the top floor, this guy aged around 35, doesn't work, he is addicted to a variety of drugs, an alcoholic, and is prone to violence and is very unpredictable, initially when he moved in I did my best to treat him with kid gloves, I ended up doing a few favours for him to try to keep him off my back, and also I tried my best to be tactful with him, that being said three people have a moved in and then out again due to being fearful of him, but I stood my ground.
Today I was in the shared kitchen looking at the mess he had caused, plates and saucers had been their for weeks, some quite mouldy, now I and another lady in the house keep cleaning the kitchen and emptying the bins but it's all of his rubbish, nobody else's, this has been going on for months now, so today when I saw him in the kitchen I asked polity if he could clean up because me and the other lady are tired of doing it, and here's where the problem started.
He started getting very aggressive towards me, I'm not a very big person and I certainly couldn't hold my own against him, plus I'm not very good with unpredictable people, he started threatening to beat me up, this is while he had a knife in his hand that he was using to cut a pizza, I managed to calm him down enough to let me past, I started heading downstairs to my room and then he started getting irate again and proceeded to throw the knife he had in his hand at me, this was while I was about halfway down the stares, I cringed expecting it to impact me but luckily it missed, it was only a week ago he threw a vacuum cleaner down the stairs at his girlfriend that I think he met at rehab.
So I ring my landlord and tell him what happened, my landlord said that he'd discuss it with him, so then I text him saying I'm moving out, even though I can't afford to, so then my landlord rings me back saying that he's going to throw him out as he is struggling to pay his rent and has caused other problems on the property in the past, the problem is he has to give him notice to move out and I really don't want to be in the same house as him, it could take weeks to evict him, and this guy has it in for me now, I crept in earlier on to pick up a few things and I heard him on the phone saying that he's going to run me out of town, and that if I get him thrown out he's going to smash my door down and take my stuff, the thing is this guy is genuinely crazy, doesn't care about the police or nothing, and he's also friends with a few bullies that I had when I was in school which he said he's going to get them to hassle to me
I'm 34, I just can't believe this is happening to me as an adult, I really thought I left this behind years ago in school, now I don't know what to do, I have no money so it's hard to run away, although I could stay at my nans up country but she is old and frail now and I don't won't to burden her, and it would mean losing my job, I may not be happy with my job but in this current climate I wouldn't like to be out of work.
Any advice?
(sorry for the long post)
UPDATE No 2 (I'm moving out!!)
Right, first off, the environment that I'm currently living in is my fault, I hold my hand up to that, I should have did better at school etc, although there are various confidence and self-esteem issues I've struggled with most of my life, was bullied a lot at school because of this and have generally found it hard to fit in whether I go.
Anyway, it has lead me to working in a low paid for that I'm not really happy with for nearly 17 years due to being scared of moving on, and also I have spent 10 of those years living in run-down shared accommodation, I currently live in a room with no wash basin, next to a jobless lady with a baby that's teething, two toddlers and a 17 year old daughter, and all that divides my room from hers is a piece of plaster board, it feels like they are living with me, baby crying 24/7, TV on from morning until night etc, it's a nightmare.
- Important part
I live in a room in the ground floor, my landlord moved in an old friend of his into a room on the top floor, this guy aged around 35, doesn't work, he is addicted to a variety of drugs, an alcoholic, and is prone to violence and is very unpredictable, initially when he moved in I did my best to treat him with kid gloves, I ended up doing a few favours for him to try to keep him off my back, and also I tried my best to be tactful with him, that being said three people have a moved in and then out again due to being fearful of him, but I stood my ground.
Today I was in the shared kitchen looking at the mess he had caused, plates and saucers had been their for weeks, some quite mouldy, now I and another lady in the house keep cleaning the kitchen and emptying the bins but it's all of his rubbish, nobody else's, this has been going on for months now, so today when I saw him in the kitchen I asked polity if he could clean up because me and the other lady are tired of doing it, and here's where the problem started.
He started getting very aggressive towards me, I'm not a very big person and I certainly couldn't hold my own against him, plus I'm not very good with unpredictable people, he started threatening to beat me up, this is while he had a knife in his hand that he was using to cut a pizza, I managed to calm him down enough to let me past, I started heading downstairs to my room and then he started getting irate again and proceeded to throw the knife he had in his hand at me, this was while I was about halfway down the stares, I cringed expecting it to impact me but luckily it missed, it was only a week ago he threw a vacuum cleaner down the stairs at his girlfriend that I think he met at rehab.
So I ring my landlord and tell him what happened, my landlord said that he'd discuss it with him, so then I text him saying I'm moving out, even though I can't afford to, so then my landlord rings me back saying that he's going to throw him out as he is struggling to pay his rent and has caused other problems on the property in the past, the problem is he has to give him notice to move out and I really don't want to be in the same house as him, it could take weeks to evict him, and this guy has it in for me now, I crept in earlier on to pick up a few things and I heard him on the phone saying that he's going to run me out of town, and that if I get him thrown out he's going to smash my door down and take my stuff, the thing is this guy is genuinely crazy, doesn't care about the police or nothing, and he's also friends with a few bullies that I had when I was in school which he said he's going to get them to hassle to me

I'm 34, I just can't believe this is happening to me as an adult, I really thought I left this behind years ago in school, now I don't know what to do, I have no money so it's hard to run away, although I could stay at my nans up country but she is old and frail now and I don't won't to burden her, and it would mean losing my job, I may not be happy with my job but in this current climate I wouldn't like to be out of work.
Any advice?
(sorry for the long post)
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