Neighbour issues

Psycho Sonny · 27 Mar 2019 at 10:25

If the only issue is noise then when he starts shouting you could always get a broomstick and start hitting your floor to get the message across.

even an idiot would understand that. however if he is being abusive getting the police involved would be the right thing to do.

if he does move there is no guarantee his new place doesn't have as equally bad neighbours.

hughtrimble · 27 Mar 2019 at 10:26

Psycho Sonny said:
if the smell is that bad then he may be growing it. the other neighbour so he wouldn't take kindly to police snooping around and it's in his interest for the other guy to calm down.

you could after he has had one of his major outbursts (get it on tape or record on mobile) call the police and say you reckon you could hear him beating the kids and wife. they will then have a duty of care to question them all and verbal abuse is now classified as mental abuse so if the partner fesses up he could be gone.

the police will say they are responding to a complaint from a neighbour but won't say it's you so you will be okay so long as he doesn't see them entering or leaving your flat otherwise it would be obvious so i would go to the local station and make the complaint there in person rather than call them and tell them you never want them coming to your door for a follow up.

This is useful to know, thank you. In person reporting would certainly be preferable to them visiting him, then walking upstairs to us/the other neighbours' place!

hughtrimble · 27 Mar 2019 at 10:27

Blackjack Davy said:
I've had exactly the same thing even down to the slashing of tyres. Don't go near council/housing association type places. Been to the police but other than saying park the car around the corner where theres a CCTV they're not interested. One appalling tenant was replaced by one who was even worse.

The one thing you don't want to do is "get back" or otherwise retaliate or they turn their aggression on you instead of their dearest and dearest. Been there, done that.

Moved out in the end.

Getting our own back isn't of interest - there is no benefit to us, and the most likely consequence would be negative on us also. 'Proper' methods only for this I think.

hughtrimble · 27 Mar 2019 at 10:30

Psycho Sonny said:
If the only issue is noise then when he starts shouting you could always get a broomstick and start hitting your floor to get the message across.

even an idiot would understand that. however if he is being abusive getting the police involved would be the right thing to do.

if he does move there is no guarantee his new place doesn't have as equally bad neighbours.

Moving indeed might not resolve things, and his replacement may well be worse for all we know if they do get ousted (which I doubt, given what I assume their circumstances to be).
It remains to be seen if there have been previous reports about this - the nightmare would him having been previously reported, and his partner denying anything untoward had ever happened. Prior form for denying what's going on would be a real kicker.

crinkleshoes · 27 Mar 2019 at 10:30

Put anonymous and polite note in their letterbox letting him know he can be heard by the whole building? Might shut him up a bit... won’t change his behaviour inside, other than toning it down a bit.

Or report the weed... get him outta there away from the kids.

Orionaut · 27 Mar 2019 at 19:33

This is why I agree with the Boer farmers of the 19th century....

"If you can see the smoke from your neighbors chimney, His house is too close!"

Other people are overrated!

torN · 28 Mar 2019 at 16:12

I feel your pain, I had a similar issue with a someone in a flat below, until I moved. They played very loud, thumping music, it could start at 8PM and stop at 10PM, or it could start at 4AM, it was just the worst. Multiple times I went down and asked them to turn it off, jumped or stamped on the floor, but the next day it was the same, they didn't care one bit. As a result, I moved into a house and I'm very happy, but I have seen that the noisy neighbours have their flat up for sale with no chain.

I was on the verge of reporting them to the council, but you need to declare this if you do sell, so I decided not to. I just stuck with it until I moved, one night it was so bad I stayed at a friends house because I just did not have the energy to tell them to stop.

It's up to you OP, report them or have a very quiet word with the guy and let him know you can hear everything or an anonymous letter.