Not ANOTHER relationship thread!!!

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Hi all,

First off this is not some spam robot!

Ive been reading the forums for a while just never joined, I appreciate the answers I will get are bound to be sarcastic from some, true of any internet forum.

Anyway, a long story cut short-ish, I was in a relationship for over 6 years, it started to fizz out towards the end, including times when my ex would call me and say its not working and she wanted us to split etc.
Anyway, amidst this situation, she fell pregnant! The arguments that followed became unbearable and we split up before Christmas.
A couple of months later we became amicable to the point we would meet to discuss the child etc go to scans.

The baby was born in the summer, and obviously has a good relationship with us both, as we are very amicable regardless of what happened.

Now, heres the thing, my ex has asked me if we should talk things over, if I felt what happened was the right thing last year etc etc
Obviously I do have feelings for her, but there is immense pressure that, if we were to try again, if it went wrong, the whole situation with the child may change, we may not be 'amicable' anymore etc, I know I shouldnt think of that but you have to look at all options.
There were a lot of things wrong with that relationship, but a lot of good things too, but the problem is im not sure if it will work out or not.

In terms of my own personal relationships this year, obviously leading up to the summer I didn't get into any kind of relationship because It wouldn't have felt right regardless of the fact I was officially single anyway.
I did meet someone a few months ago, and that recently ended in quite a horrible way for me, as it was going well and all of a sudden out of nowhere, dumped by email! We still chat, she ended it and still wanted to be 'friends' that usual story you know...

It took the wind from my sails as I had been honest with that girl about everything, but hey ho there is nothing I can do about that.
It just seems weird that literally 2 weeks after her dumping me, my ex contacts me with a random question like how I felt etc

Now there is NO WAY at all, she would have known id recently split, or was even in a relationship, it does seem a coincidence, I know people say everything happens for a reason etc.

Sorry for another relationship thread!
 
I know, first post but no point posting on a few threads to get a post count up, this is a genuine post, I know only my opinion ultimately will count but no harm getting other views, this is of course in addition to friends / family views.
 
Obviously it wasn't all arguments day in day out, i'll admit to things like over the last few months this year, I still made sure I got her a decent birthday present, if she wanted to see any films I lent them out / gave them etc.
I even dropped round at easter with chocolates for her.

I know thats kinda random, but it was just me trying to 'be nice' as such however silly that sounds.

Does it make sense if I say when I was with the girl I was seeing a few months recently, that at times, id be thinking of my ex, and feeling guilty or that 'it doesn't feel right' (I just mean in day to day things like going shopping / short holiday break etc)
Yet I was massively devastated when she broke up with me a couple of weeks back?!
 
Im not even thinking of 'pasty' at the moment theres a lot to work on before that sort of thing.

It's trying to determine whether my feelings are genuine, or am I just looking to move back to a comfort zone that I was comfortable with for 6 years previously.

I admitted before I was devastated when this girl this year dumped me, because we had planned holidays for next year, and she seemed a breath of fresh air, but like I say there WERE times when I was watching TV holding her and thinking "is this right or am I just in this for comfort?"
 
We were not married no, it's more a case of "the way things ended, did we do the right thing? Any regrets now?"

That sort of thing.

I don't neccasarily think of her as the only girl in the room as such, I do think about her, well I have to see her every week to pick up my child etc

By the same thing I don't know what id be saying if the relationship I had recently was still going?

It would be lovely to say, we get back, everyones happy again, one big happy family, but I admit I am extremely scared of it going wrong and turning everything sour.
 
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